I do not buy that bullshit that it is tough to date a beautiful woman. I have dated beautiful women and have been friends with good looking women and it is not hard to do. You can not get possessive and try to own them, you have to make them feel comfortable so that they know that they can come or go as they please, just as you can come and go as you please.
I will tell you what is really hard to do. It is being owned by a possessive nutzoid control freak.
I've been quite taken aback and perplexed on numerous occasions over the years by hot looking women, who, when I was eventually introduced to their partners, have observed the partners to often times be quite ordinary, not particularly close to anywhere near as attractive as the girl, and I dare say, in some instances, the guys were downright ugly. Wonder what's with that
They got tired of the players and the giglios and thus settled in for a comfort zone.
Someone whose eyes won't wander so much.:wink:
His money stays at home.:wink:
Yet guys that are lucky to enough to date or even marry a hot girl, still manage to screw it up. Think of any celebrity like Tiger Woods, Hugh Grant, Charlie Sheen, etc.
I don't know if this is a question your asking or just insecurities pouring out?? I went out with many hot women when
I was younger in fact the last Hot Babe became my wife for many years.
Never once was I ever intimidated by hot women.
That is why guys like you and I get the most out of this hobby. We are not awe struck by beauty and we respect ourselves.
In fact I can honestly say that only about 1/5 escorts I've seen were more attractive physically than what I've had without paying before I started this hobby.
I agree with you Void about the 1/5 part.Other than Natalia & my fav blonde sp,out of the 50 or so i've seen none have measured up to what i've had personally.Some have been funner,some way better in the sack but facially its usually a bit of a let down to some degree.Hope nobody takes this the wrong way.Most of the girls are cute & some above average,just trying to find a legit DDG sp is harder than i thought!Feels like i'm a drug addict chasing the the perfect high.
Kirk,dating a hot girl is a great thing.They always have hot friends! The other great thing is if you go out with a group of friends to a club,you never have to buy her a drink.There's always guys lining up to get her one! Always funny when you leave to see the look on there faces lol
My second wife (I've only had 2) of 10 yrs was a stripper when I first met her. She hated all men and only married me because I was the one guy she hated the least. Lol. Anyways she was more like a trophy wife than anything. We lasted 10 good yrs until I got bored. She was mega hot my friends would say. I'm 53 and above average looking and currently only date hot girls 20-25 yrs younger than me. Not once have I been jealous of other guys hitting on my girls. If you are secure it never is an issue. I've had at least 6 young guys come shake my hand and tell me how lucky I was to be with such a beautiful woman. Once you start worrying about guys stealing your girl it is all over. Just go with the flow. If you are in the right relationship then jealousy and fear of losing your girl should not be an issue.
I do not buy that bullshit that it is tough to date a beautiful woman. I have dated beautiful women and have been friends with good looking women and it is not hard to do. You can not get possessive and try to own them, you have to make them feel comfortable so that they know that they can come or go as they please, just as you can come and go as you please.
I will tell you what is really hard to do. It is being owned by a possessive nutzoid control freak.
I agree with you Void about the 1/5 part.Other than Natalia & my fav blonde sp,out of the 50 or so i've seen none have measured up to what i've had personally.Some have been funner,some way better in the sack but facially its usually a bit of a let down to some degree.Hope nobody takes this the wrong way.Most of the girls are cute & some above average,just trying to find a legit DDG sp is harder than i thought!Feels like i'm a drug addict chasing the the perfect high.
Kirk,dating a hot girl is a great thing.They always have hot friends! The other great thing is if you go out with a group of friends to a club,you never have to buy her a drink.There's always guys lining up to get her one! Always funny when you leave to see the look on there faces lol
This is your problem. Girls look for a lot more than looks and money. Those two things will get you dates but you need more to keep a relationship going, you need to make things fun and interesting, whenever she thinks she has you figured out surprise her, and only usually in a good way. Women like a little drama in their life and they like to feel they are lucky. Money and looks help make that easier but are only part of the package.
Anyway your problem is right there, you think you aren't good enough and you are sending out that vibe.
I remember the first DDG girl I dated. I was at a party in University and this DDG girl was just standing there all alone. Another guy had brought her (a guy that had fallen into the friend trap). I knew I had no chance, less than none. I was slightly drunk and just thought what the hell and gave it a go and started talking to her like she was any other girl. We started dancing and fooling around and all my friends were just like, no fucking way! We dated for a long time but eventually it fizzled out. That night I learned the key for dealing with DDG women. As soon as you put them on a pedestal, you are done. You are just like all the other drooling guys. But if you just treat them like they are nothing really special then they respect that and suddenly you are interesting. Women!!!
It obvious from your insecurity that you will never land nor hold on to a hot chick. Would you hide the Mona Lisa in the closet so no one but you can look at her ? If she is a stunning example of feminine beauty - she should be shared. I actually enjoy being on the arm of a stunningly beautiful woman - it re-enforces my confidence not my paranoia.
One of my faves is being told 'If you don't know why I'm upset, then I'm not going to tell you.'
The corollary to that one is 'You should know because you should know'
Holy power play Batman.
Whenever I turn it around I find that those who like to give those remarks don't receive them nearly as well.
On the plus side, it's usually an effective way of stopping that kind of BS.
to be fair, the first 2 DDG "girls" I had (when I was in middle school and high school) ended up dumping me because I was a little possessive. We all have to learn somewhere and make our mistakes I suppose. Then the first long term relationship I had was 3 years in high school and basically when we got to university she dumped me for not being jealous enough or "not caring" enough.
Occasionally it's impossible to win with girls who honestly don't know what the fuck they want.
(see above post from WWG, it DOES happen...)
