Dating a chinese international student

[unbiasedguy]

I have my first date with a really pretty chinese international student this sat.

Does anyone have any experiences like this? Am I okay to go for the normal first date stuff like holding hands, kissing, arm around shoulder, back, etc?

Her spoken english isnt that great, but I can speak mandarin pretty well

I approached her a month ago in the library and got her number. Texted her last week after exams finished and she agreed to go to out with me (high park)

Were both the same age, in the same school, and from wealthy families

 

[fuji]

She is desperate for status anything is going to work so long as you treat her well.

 

[exploration]

i dunno, i've always found chinese international students really eager to jump into bed on the first date. heck i had two do a reverse sandwich on me the first time we met.

but tbh, just be yourself. she obviously like you as is enough to agree to a date. dont need to confuse the girl now by doing something different. and the holding hands, kissing stuff.... i always say there really isnt a template for that. you go along with the flow. if she seems ready,,,try holding hands... if she is ready to go further... try a kiss etc.

 

[unbiasedguy]

i was hoping for a gf/wifey material, which i strongly think she is

but i know the type of girl you are talking about lol

 

[Pum-Pum Stabba]

Don't do it man, lo!

 

[oil&gas]

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Her spoken english isnt that great, but I can speak mandarin pretty well
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I wonder if it is Mandarin or English you speak most of the time
with her. If it is the former you should be proud of yourself for being
able to master a very difficult foreign language to the English
speaking world.

This is what is about interracial dating with Asian women I never get. I've seen
more than a few cases of non-Mandarin speaking white men dating/marrying Asian
ladies whose English were at best passable. Even the reasonalby well educated Asian
gals studying in universities I've seen were in no way able to engage in the type of
conversation anywhere as intimate as what you expect of a normal couple. And yet
there are no lack of men who don't seem to have problem with having to resort to
non-verbal means communication with their SO provided that she is Asian.

 

[Azprint]

I wonder if it is Mandarin or English you speak most of the time
with her. If it is the former you should be proud of yourself for being
able to master a very difficult foreign language to the English
speaking world.

This is what is about interracial dating with Asian women I never get. I've seen
more than a few cases of non-Mandarin speaking white men dating/marrying Asian
ladies whose English were at best passable. Even the reasonalby well educated Asian
gals studying in universities I've seen were in no way able to engage in the type of
conversation anywhere as intimate as what you expect of a normal couple. And yet
there are no lack of men who don't seem to have problem with having to resort to
non-verbal means communication with their SO provided that she is Asian.

Or he just might be Chinese himself and Mandarin is the language spoken at home? I know quite a few people who were born here whose parents are immigrants and they still know the language very well because they were raised with it.

As to the OP don't think about GF/wife thing, you're getting waaaaaaaaaaay ahead of yourself. Just see how the date goes, don't try to kiss or touch her unless you feel the chemistry is very strong. Just treat her like any other girl, with respect and don't forget to be a gentleman open the car door for her, hold the door open, if you're taking her out for dinner make sure to get her seat, let her order first. And for fuck sake don't ogle her body, look her in the eyes when talking and listen, ask questions relevant to what she's saying and answer her inquiries about you briefly the focus of the conversation should be on her as women do love to talk about themselves. Don't look at other women either. Ok, I think that covers basics of the first date.

 

[danmand]

I think the mods should make this a sticky:


Just see how the date goes, don't try to kiss or touch her unless you feel the chemistry is very strong. Just treat her like any other girl, with respect and don't forget to be a gentleman open the car door for her, hold the door open, if you're taking her out for dinner make sure to get her seat, let her order first. And for fuck sake don't ogle her body, look her in the eyes when talking and listen, ask questions relevant to what she's saying and answer her inquiries about you briefly the focus of the conversation should be on her as women do love to talk about themselves. Don't look at other women either. Ok, I think that covers basics of the first date.

 

[unbiasedguy]

im chinese but im fully bilingual (canto too)

will update this thread when i get slapped for making out with her

 

[5hummer]

Were both the same age, in the same school, and from wealthy families

Good luck and be assertive.

Plus, keep in mind the 'green card' thing...

 

[unbiasedguy]

Please aware me on the green card thing? Is this the one where they try to marry for citizenship?

 

[mandrill]

Please aware me on the green card thing? Is this the one where they try to marry for citizenship?

If you marry her, you can sponsor her for permanent residence in Canada. You undertake to be financially responsible for her for 3 years. You can cancel the sponsorship if she ditches you within 2 years of the sponsorship being approved. If you don't and she goes on welfare, you pay the government back every nickel they give her.

 

[unbiasedguy]

her family is loaded, she can just buy the investment immigration citizenship thing, i dont think thats what shes after.

 

[IM469]

Please aware me on the green card thing? Is this the one where they try to marry for citizenship?

I really don't think you have to worry about this. It is usually the poor people going after a spouse for landed residence status. We had a rich foreign friend who's son attended School and the common denominator of all the families is that they were very well off. I won't go into details but when one of the students wanted to stay in Canada - they didn't have to sleep with a stranger.

 

[KBear]

... Just treat her like any other girl, with respect and don't forget to be a gentleman open the car door for her, hold the door open, if you're taking her out for dinner make sure to get her seat, let her order first. And for fuck sake don't ogle her body, look her in the eyes when talking and listen, ask questions relevant to what she's saying and answer her inquiries about you briefly the focus of the conversation should be on her as women do love to talk about themselves. Don't look at other women either. Ok, I think that covers basics of the first date.

Do guys still pull out the chair for women? Maybe depends on the class of restaurant.
Can also tell her she looks good when you meet, nice dress. Girls often spend a lot of time getting ready to go out.

 

[great bear]

Do guys still pull out the chair for women? Maybe depends on the class of restaurant.
Can also tell her she looks good when you meet, nice dress. Girls often spend a lot of time getting ready to go out.

Yes, pulling the chair out is excellent. When she falls on the floor you fuck her.

 

[5hummer]

her family is loaded, she can just buy the investment immigration citizenship thing, i dont think thats what shes after.

Well, is she a Canadian citizen then?
If not, why?
Or, does she want to be?

 

[mynameisearl11]

Are u going to show us her pic? Then,we let u know if u can retire from being a terbite!

 

[yolosohobby]

id take her down to TNT Supermarket, do a little shopping, take her back to my place, start cooking dinner with her, crack open some wine, relax and hopefully soon enough her laundry will be on the floor

 

[unbiasedguy]

i dont really feel comfortable posting her picture here LOL

were going to high park, I havent been there for a long time. would it be weird for me to bring one of those nikon/canon cameras and take pics? I mean if I went by myself, with my family, friends, anyone else, it would be completely cool. its just that Im having thoughts about taking pics on a first date?