Cuban girlfriend
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I have a business colleague on the east coast who went that route,
He was rather the Innocent with women, unsophisticated, and in his 30's.
A lovely Cuban lady, with a young child hooked up with hem and they were married in very short order, played happy family and went on with their adventure.
Fast forward five tears...
She's in Toronto with her child, separated for good, and he's on the east coast pining like crazy.
Each case is different blondman.
Look at motivations for both parties.
For many Cubans wishing to change their lives, a white knight can sweep them into a new situation, and fast track them for citizenship. For many men, they have the euphoria of love that they've never experienced before with Canadian ladies, and a new confidence that is easily shattered.
Good Luck.
He was rather the Innocent with women, unsophisticated, and in his 30's.
A lovely Cuban lady, with a young child hooked up with hem and they were married in very short order, played happy family and went on with their adventure.
Fast forward five tears...
She's in Toronto with her child, separated for good, and he's on the east coast pining like crazy.
Each case is different blondman.
Look at motivations for both parties.
For many Cubans wishing to change their lives, a white knight can sweep them into a new situation, and fast track them for citizenship. For many men, they have the euphoria of love that they've never experienced before with Canadian ladies, and a new confidence that is easily shattered.
Good Luck.
There was an article in the sun last summer ? about a guy who did this. She was everything he hoped for and more. Young, attractive, smart, loving caring the whole bit. He went down to meet her parents, they adored him, match made in heaven.
So after spending about 15 grand in paperwork to get her here, (also had to guarantee she a) wouldn't be on welfare UI and b) cover her health care) he finally married her and moved her here.
Fast forward one year (that's right ONE year) she's moved out, got an annulment, brought her cuban boyfriend up here, married HIM so now they both have citizenship and guess what? He's STILL on the hook for any of her healthcare, and, get this, if she get's into any trouble legally he's on the hook for that too.
So bro, don't even go there....honestly. 60 minutes did a segment on this and they showed philopino (sp) and chinese (I think) situations like this. Of the 10 or so they filmed, and 100 they documented not ONE lasted for more than a year.
Just remember: the ONLY reason she's interested in you is how quickly she can get into Canada and how quickly she can get rid of you.
So after spending about 15 grand in paperwork to get her here, (also had to guarantee she a) wouldn't be on welfare UI and b) cover her health care) he finally married her and moved her here.
Fast forward one year (that's right ONE year) she's moved out, got an annulment, brought her cuban boyfriend up here, married HIM so now they both have citizenship and guess what? He's STILL on the hook for any of her healthcare, and, get this, if she get's into any trouble legally he's on the hook for that too.
So bro, don't even go there....honestly. 60 minutes did a segment on this and they showed philopino (sp) and chinese (I think) situations like this. Of the 10 or so they filmed, and 100 they documented not ONE lasted for more than a year.
Just remember: the ONLY reason she's interested in you is how quickly she can get into Canada and how quickly she can get rid of you.
blondman said:
I knew someone who did this and it did work out (5 years now). All the usual stuff applies, depending on how you met (introduced via a mutual friend), etc.
Even though many of these girls are highly educated (MSc, Phd), they have trouble getting jobs here because they have no canadian experience and the cuban universities are not recognized here. (i.e. someone with a MSc working as a cleaning lady)
tboy said:
That is my understanding from stories heard also. This situation happens to the ladies as often as the men it seems.
If the guy can’t normally get hot looking 20 year olds to hang off his arm, and now this hot young Cuban/Chinese lady is wanting to marry him, then she is likely interested in him for the citizenship only. Believe often the people who are swept off their feet by these ladies/men are not generally experienced with dating/marriage, or are not dating/marriage material.
Have heard some stories from the other side as well, where the girl is committed and hoping for the best with her marriage, moves to Canada, and finds out why the guy has no dating/marriage options in Canada. Also, she is removed from a very social situation with all her friends and family around her into a situation in Canada where she is isolated and cold. It is very difficult for the ladies moving here as well.
Same thing happened to a friend of mine a couple of years ago.tboy said:
He was seeing her for a few years until getting married.
They can be very patient waiting for their plan to work out.
The beauty of Canada for them is that there is no waiting period.
They can dump the idiot as soon as they land.
I had a Cuban girlfriend once but I met her here after she had already dumped her husband.
She had a Cuban boyfriend when she got married and she was still with him when we met.
We had a few good months together but she wanted marriage and kids which was not in my plans so I pulled the plug.
tboy said:
Hate to say it, but tboy is correct.
There are lots of guys in Cuba who are decent guys I am sure. The only reason she is interested is to "come to America" (lite). Don't ever kid yourself.
There are lots of women in Canada.
I’ve been to Cuba many times and had many Cuban g/f’s over the years. All of them were beautiful, sexy girls. They were fun. They had a great attitude about life. The sex was awesome. They all claimed that they love me. More than once, I considered marrying one of them.
I’ve met many Canadians that I’ve traveled with who have married Cubans. Not one of them worked out. There is simply too much of a culture shock and a language barrier. The Cuban girls are notorious for hooking some unsuspecting tourist and using him just to get a ticket out of the “worker’s paradise.”
Why do you think that Cuba lost 11% of its population to Miami? People crave to escape the extreme poverty that 50 years of socialism has wreaked on the people.
If you married a Cuban, where would you live? Bringing her here would be too much of a culture shock. We live in a frozen wasteland compared to Cuba. People here take life way too seriously. Learning English would be hard for her if she doesn’t know it already.
She would miss her family and friends and way of life. One thing I love about the Cubans is the way they party and dance all the time. One thing I hate about the Cubans is the way they party and dance all the time.
You can take the girl out of Cuba but you can’t take Cuba out of the girl. My advice is, enjoy their company when you travel to Cuba. Help out her and her family when you’re there by bringing soap, shampoo, Tylenol, clothes and other things considered luxuries to them. Don’t try to take the fish out of water.
I’ve met many Canadians that I’ve traveled with who have married Cubans. Not one of them worked out. There is simply too much of a culture shock and a language barrier. The Cuban girls are notorious for hooking some unsuspecting tourist and using him just to get a ticket out of the “worker’s paradise.”
Why do you think that Cuba lost 11% of its population to Miami? People crave to escape the extreme poverty that 50 years of socialism has wreaked on the people.
If you married a Cuban, where would you live? Bringing her here would be too much of a culture shock. We live in a frozen wasteland compared to Cuba. People here take life way too seriously. Learning English would be hard for her if she doesn’t know it already.
She would miss her family and friends and way of life. One thing I love about the Cubans is the way they party and dance all the time. One thing I hate about the Cubans is the way they party and dance all the time.
You can take the girl out of Cuba but you can’t take Cuba out of the girl. My advice is, enjoy their company when you travel to Cuba. Help out her and her family when you’re there by bringing soap, shampoo, Tylenol, clothes and other things considered luxuries to them. Don’t try to take the fish out of water.
If you want to find a cuban girl, spend some time in Miami and hang out in Little Havana. A great party town with plenty of gorgeous cuban-american ladies. If you do pursue something with them, at least the odds are that they aren't going after a citizenship.
Don said:
Of course, I mean, wouldn't ANY cuban sex kitten just LOVE to move from sunny, beautiful miami beach to our frozen north to live with a myopic balding overweight accountant that drives a kia? I mean hell, her only other choice was a sexy gringo drug dealer who drives a lambo, so why wouldn't she?
apprentice said:
Closer to home. There is/was a small Latin mall/food court in lower lever at 9 Milvan in the Weston and Finch area. Have dropped in a couple of times and notice that the young hotties walking around basically ignore me
, but when in Cuba these same girls are looking at me like they have not eaten for a month. Go figure...Blondsman, Lasslicker is entirely correct when he writes that "each case is different." You (and I speak from experience having been married to a foreign national - although not Cuban) need to try to rationally analyze your relationship (which I realize is easier said than done) are there red flags that you're ignoring, square peg - round hole. What is her personality like? If she has flashes of temper they will be exacerbated when she is in a different climate, without family, having to speak another language. What is her reaction if you were to say I want to see if I can work here in Cuba for at least a few years - if she's happy that means something entirely different than if she's horrified (and that doesn't mean that she tries to point out practical difficulties). Bottom line don’t make excuses for her behaviour - don’t expect her to change for the better.
Make sure she is aware of the realities of the situation of living in Canada. What job skills does she have, is she going to have to go back to school etc. . . for example a physician is going to have to try to start over again - taking the certifying exams that she would have taken in Medical school in Canada or the U.S. and then trying to be placed for a Residency - so ability to communicate in English, ability to get high marks on the exams, and even if she does well - how old she is - remember she’s competing with all the regular medical graduates who also want Residencies. This is true of many professions.
It all boils down to individuals, what is your personality, what is her personality it takes willingness by both partners - if one side of the boat is rowing and the other is sitting on their oars - you will merely go in circles no matter how hard you row. I know marriages between North American men and foreign (principally Russian and Ukranian) women that are wonderfully happy and others that have been “train wreaks.” I hope this is helpful to you. With best wishes.
Make sure she is aware of the realities of the situation of living in Canada. What job skills does she have, is she going to have to go back to school etc. . . for example a physician is going to have to try to start over again - taking the certifying exams that she would have taken in Medical school in Canada or the U.S. and then trying to be placed for a Residency - so ability to communicate in English, ability to get high marks on the exams, and even if she does well - how old she is - remember she’s competing with all the regular medical graduates who also want Residencies. This is true of many professions.
It all boils down to individuals, what is your personality, what is her personality it takes willingness by both partners - if one side of the boat is rowing and the other is sitting on their oars - you will merely go in circles no matter how hard you row. I know marriages between North American men and foreign (principally Russian and Ukranian) women that are wonderfully happy and others that have been “train wreaks.” I hope this is helpful to you. With best wishes.
