So let's break this down:
#1
Girlfriend of 9 years ..... graduating from college ... doing the math, you started dating this girl when you were both 14. Sounds like you two have been pretty monogamous, or else you would have said 'on and off' for 9 years. So she met you before she had any idea who she is, and she's never been with another guy, like ever, but now is interested in girls ... you know, as your graduation present ....
Buddy, please for the love of God, watch the first episode of Friends before you marry this one.
#2
Let me get something else straight: your girlfriend wants to you give you a threesome ... and you delayed it for a long time because you couldn't come up with $300. That's like three nights of Uber Eats bike deliveries. Any man would have begged, borrowed or stole that money a long, long time ago. .... You sure you really want this?
hey! I totally forgot to come back to this as I received A great message in my inbox that gave me the clarification I was looking for regarding how spas work and if they’re worth it based on what we’re looking for. I wanted to reply here though, because there are quite a few misconceptions in your reply
First of all: We have been together 9 years, yes. I didn’t go the typical school route, I went back to college later in life, so I’m 29 years old. We met and started dating at 18 & me 20 (we are 1.5 years apart), NOT 14, because I didn’t graduate at 22 or whatever. So this isn’t a case of “we’ve barely had enough time as adults to know what we like/want”
We have been monogamous leading up, but we never had moments of jealousy or our relationship being “uptight” because we didn’t give each other reasons to be that way- we watch porn together, and she never was against me watching it when she isn’t available. She is the type that will point out a nice butt or a really pretty woman and while we don’t do the same for guys, I have zero problem admitting if a guy is good looking/generally attractive etc. when we watch shows/movies etc. I’m not her first boyfriend, nor first sexual partner. Again, you have it misconstrued if you think I am with someone who is secretly lesbian or bisexual, and is “using me” to explore that before she leaves me, so I’ll spare the Friends episode thanks lol. She isn’t “interested in girls”, she’s the type of girl that is universally attractive, and when we go out, it’s often that other very attractive girls will approach her and compliment her look or be how drunk girls are when they’re together, with all that “yass queen” jive lol. I’m very social and I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, but also haven’t really struggled with girls when I approach. So after those interactions, sometimes we’ve joked and said “damn we coulda invited her back home lol” with the further context being “do you think you could handle two of us the way you handle me?” All in a silly but flirty manner.
As for number 2, you again have things misconstrued. The premise is that we’ve talked about fantasies, and she knows that having a threesome with her and another woman, is one of MY fantasies. The reason it hasn’t happened isn’t just price- and btw, when we’ve asked, it is usually muchhhhh more than $300 for FS AND for couples, especially the ones that are not only legit, but certified to be attractive (we aren’t just going to go with ANY SP offering..).
We only inquired about Spa’s thinking it was a way to get introduced to this lifestyle with more of a guided path when it comes to selection, compared to looking on leolist, worrying about who is real and who is not and then whether they’re even available that night which a lot aren’t if they’re that good.
Even still, can we afford the prices? Absolutely, I (newly) started work in law and her as a nurse. But when bills, everyday expenses, other “wants” that take priority get factored in, it’s not something we prioritize in terms of putting money aside for it.
I get that most men would do WHATEVER it takes to follow through once they know they have been given the green light, but honestly my girlfriend is that attractive and our sexual compatibility is that great, that THAT’S mainly why we both don’t rush to make this happen… it’s usually a special occasion, we’re tipsy, and then start giving each other raised eyebrows followed by “threesome?”, and then we end up failing because we got too drunk, were too last minute for any top level SP, and we just end the night off our usual way with me and her. After that we may not try until the next special occasion, whatever that is.
We don’t take this serious, but are also “anxious” because we’ve never done this, so even on my side there are some “nerves” that come down to “how would this actually play out” and maybe that’s the problem as to why we haven’t been successful yet, but it isn’t at all what you thought.
Long winded to make sure the record was set straight. Thank you for reading
