Coping with death

[Jasmina]

Jesus. I lost another friend this week, that 5,or 6, in as many months. And at least one other friend has been posting nearly monthly RIP posts to their lost friends as well. What the hell is happening out there?!!!!

Most of these have been natural causes, non covid related. But nearly all have been on the younger side of 60. It's nuts.

How does one deal with loss, especially on this level?! I suppose TERB is a strange place to ask, but eh, if anyone is going to give an honest response, it is you guys.

 

[Synchronized]

Jesus. I lost another friend this week, that 5,or 6, in as many months. And at least one other friend has been posting nearly monthly RIP posts to their lost friends as well. What the hell is happening out there?!!!!

Most of these have been natural causes, non covid related. But nearly all have been on the younger side of 60. It's nuts.

How does one deal with loss, especially on this level?! I suppose TERB is a strange place to ask, but eh, if anyone is going to give an honest response, it is you guys.

No one knows when their time is up and even though it is so sad . I guess we grieve and try to live life again in their memory

 

[LTO_3]

Been there done that many years ago. I would suggest stop reading your friends monthly posts regarding who has died. This just messes up ur mental health and recovery.
Is it difficult? YES. But the only thing you can do once you get over the shock of them having died is to honour them by having a drink(s) or a meal in their honour or gather - online with friends and acquaintances, at least for now - to chat about and honour them.

LTO_3

 

[Deviant]

Sorry for your loss.

Time is the only healer.
Sometimes, creating some sort of tribute or memorial can help you deal.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Treasure your moments with people you love and care for. Never take them for granted and your connection. Be present in experience to get the full potential of your relationship so you have no regrets regardless of what happens.

Just get up every morning stay grounded and try to make the best of your life and the people who are in it.

Losing friends and family is hard but it can also teach us about our own life and especially about the moments we failed to realize and materialize when we were in each other presence.

you will get over it regardless of the pain. Don’t run from it, don’t bandage it, grieve on your own terms and your own timeframe. Feel it and let it heal on it’s own.

 

[xix]

I haven't lost anyone now, or recently, but I did when I was 5 - 9 ages. Plenty. Parents never talked to me about death. So 5 years ago I decided to go looking for a grief - bereavement groups.
I attended one that is open to men only for a year, once a month. Talked about it, it helped a lot.

Maybe I will go back at the end of the year. I have learn to search for groups to certain topics and release my issue there. Don't want to drain any family or friends. Small reason why I am here and reviews.

Don't go there to pick up. I met those that have and it turned ugly for them. Just co-dependents thinking I will get high in love, forget my problems and everything will be okay. That medicine / vaccine only last 3-6 months.

Friends in grief
or
Bereavement groups

P.s. I found out some high school people I knew passed away, in the last 5-7 years, but in reality they never really talked to me in class. In the 4 years in HS they may have said 50 words only because they needed to. Don't miss them but my empathy goes to them. It seems to me the nice one's passed away and not the asswholes.

Oh well.

 

[Dakotabrasco]

very sorry for your loss! Great words of encouragement and advice from our fellow members! Its unfortunate, even more so when it feels like its too soon, or they’re too young.
I have noticed a trend the past few years with younger people passing of natural causes. It’s terrible, perhaps somebody out there can conduct some cause/effect studies, because its not fair.

 

[Sonic Temple]

@Jasmina - sorry for you loss, I hope you find some peace in your thoughts and remember the laughter that the lost ones provided - it is never easy.....period. How do you cope - you just do. If death has taught me anything, its that we deal with it differently - each and every one of us. Deal with it naturally - look for guidance if need be but in the end you will know what to do.