If the providers you are seeing are not receptive to this... my only guess is that it either seems high maintenance and stresses them out/gives them anxiety or they're just too busy and just don't address it. Some regulars become more fun and easier as time goes on, some regulars become more work and want more special treatment, free talking, more elaborate scenarios, make demands etc. Try seeing it from her perspective maybe.
Yea I guess it could be all of the above. I never wanted to come off as any of those things and I'll never ask for special treatment either. Imo that ruins interactions more than anything else. I gather I should stick to the formalities and apologize if this is how they might have taken it. I just wish I got a direct response just telling me if its too much. But I'll be sure to bring this up next time I see them, in a comfortable and appropriate way of course. lol
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Sounds like the lady is only wanting her standard level interaction during your time with her. The very "business" oriented ladies will only want to discuss role playing during your visit and if she is not allowing you to communicate with her about the "other" things you wish to incorporate, you should just move on. I've had this many times before and trust me when I say, if the lady thinks or suspects you want something more involved (even if paid) and she is not comfortable with it ... you should just move on. I attempted to shelf an adventurous proposition given to a SP (that I had seen numerous times) after discussing it and the next couple of sessions felt like I was spending time with a wife who said she had forgiven me for cheating when in reality she hadn't.
I understand what you mean, however it seems you're referring to the in-person interaction(?). That has never been a problem, its just the emailing/contacting I'm referring to. Though I will move on from trying to approach things this way. I too tried giving personalized gifts and offers of adventures, not to get a response btw, but genuinely because they've gone the extra mile for me in our interactions so I wish to reciprocate. But maybe thats the part that seems 'needy' even though I'm not trying to push it on them. Maybe they just feel that way because of the way I'm presenting it.
The answer seems too simple, "just stop if they're not interested." But my issue is I'm not being told if its a problem but yet it seems like it is. So I want to know from other peoples perspective if its something this happens, and if its something SP's might feel anxious about dealing with. I don't want to seem negative. I personally adore the ladies I'm talking about, which is why I try to go the extra mile. I just felt that if I'm doing something wrong that they should just tell me.
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Well as soon as I have seen a client I always save their phone number in my phone (if they leave me a number) or i just make sure to share them as a contact via my email, that way they can just me like "hey Vio!! I was wondering if I could see you on **date** at **time**. Talk soon!" and we just plan something (although I still need the same amount of notice, min. 4 hour, 24-48 is ideal.)
After screening I'm very informal with booking with my regs/ returning clients, but not everyone is like that and some providers have booking agents so they may be a bit more formal when they book.
I know they don't have booking agents for sure. But once again it dawns on me that I should just stick to the formal approach. I guess doing too much, even though it may seem good, can be really bad. I enjoy surprising them with the gift customized for them specifically, and I do get a sense of excitement from them. Though it just seems like I have to chase them down to even give it to them lol! But I guess thats just a sign that doing too much is, again, really bad.
