I think a lot depends on why you are visiting an SP. My wife doesn't do anal or deepthroat, so I get that elsewhere. She's also not a hot 25 year old spinner so I get that elsewhere. She's not a pair of large breasted ebony bisexuals... You get the idea.
For me, connections are kinda a bad thing, and I don't generally repeat (at least not back to back) because I'm afraid of going all in and forming an emotional attachment - I'm just wired that way. But I do agree that having a connection makes for better sex.
Oh, and just to stay on topic, I have seen Cinder and she is easily in my top 5.