Cheating to save a relationship

[Meister]

It could be explained that a man that has offspring with several women will strain his resources and not be able to take care of them properly. Biologically, the sperm wars are proper of species where couples have more than one partner. And guess what, much of our sperm act as defencemen guarding the territory against foreign sperm, and only a few are the strikers.

Why does everything always come down to how we behaved as quasi monkeys thousands of years ago. You would think the human brain has evolved from that. That's what differentiates us from a primitive society, the fact that we can make rational decisions and not let our sperm decide.

 

[C Dick]

Humans are physically designed for moderate levels of cheating. Not monogamy like gorillas (small penises, big strong males), but not a sexual free-for-all like bonobos (large penises, males same size as females). Studies of different societies and cultures around the world, and historical studies where possible, show a pretty consistent level of children who are not biologically fathered by the husband. I believe the figure is about 10%. This seems to suggest that it is not very culturally determined.

I think that it is generally believed that in prehistorical tribes, couples would be together for a few years, and produce generally one child, then change partners.

Taboos on infidelity, which we have, reflect that fact that infidelity, like many sexual practices, is most effective (as a means of reproducing), when we do it ourselves, yet are able to prevent others from doing so. It really is biologically driven human nature to want to cheat, yet to want other people not to.

Our superior intelligence does not override our biological drives, it just allows us to understand them better, and if we want to, channel them in other directions.

 

[james t kirk]

My cat thinks I'm her mate for life... and she's not crazy about me doing escorts in front of her either Luckily animals don't hold grudges (not for more than 20 minutes or so, anyway).

Now that's interesting, my cat does the same thing. She (my cat) clearly despised both of my last girl friends. But yes, she does get over it once they leave.