I don't know what has happened! I have the most beautiful, sexy girlfriend anyone would want. She loves to f##k and says so. I have been with her for about a year, and the relationship has been great. We use to screw all the time. Sometimes 4 to 5 times a day. Lately, I have been having trouble getting it up. She says it's ok, but I know different. She does not deserve a man like me that can't get it up, she deserves much better. She says she loves me and does not care. I love her to, and I want to see her happy and satisfied. I am going to tell her to find another man. Someone that can take care of her needs. I can't!!! She can have any man she wants. Her last boyfriend was 15 years younger than her. I am 5 years older than her. She is 5' tall and 100# with a body that is to die for, and a face to match. What has happened? I hate this!!!!!!!!!!
can't get it up with my girlfriend anymore
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Maybe it's your girlfriend. Tell you what - I'll try her out. Then we'll know for sure. Let me know.
(ah, the joys of posting on an anonymous board.)
(ah, the joys of posting on an anonymous board.)
First of all, it might help to know how old you are (I'm guessing at least 38....15+5+18=38). Second though, it may not matter. You may have a bad day due to stress, anxiety, etc. Then you become obsessed with it, before the idea of not getting an erection was a hypothetical, now it becomes an obsession. Being obsessed with your penis rather than what turns you on is likely to do nothing but excaserbate the problem. Also, as you get older, you may not be handling stress as well as you used to. When I say older, I'm talking mid-30s, especially if you are not eating well and excercising regularly your body can get run down easier.
One possible solution that worked for me when this once happened, and I am only in my thirties, is I bought a 5-pack of viagra from ultimaterx.com (online prescription available), I took one before the next time and had no erection problems and after that I just keep one around in case it happens again, but just knowing it's there keeps my mind off of it, which is probably 90% of the problem. If this doesn't help, before becoming a Viagra dependent, you may have to talk to a specialist about things like stress, lifestyle, rest, etc.
I don't know about alternatives, I tried 2% nitroglycerin ointment on my dick once and all I got was a headache. I doubt simply dialating the blood vessels is a probable solution.
One possible solution that worked for me when this once happened, and I am only in my thirties, is I bought a 5-pack of viagra from ultimaterx.com (online prescription available), I took one before the next time and had no erection problems and after that I just keep one around in case it happens again, but just knowing it's there keeps my mind off of it, which is probably 90% of the problem. If this doesn't help, before becoming a Viagra dependent, you may have to talk to a specialist about things like stress, lifestyle, rest, etc.
I don't know about alternatives, I tried 2% nitroglycerin ointment on my dick once and all I got was a headache. I doubt simply dialating the blood vessels is a probable solution.
Let me know.
Sounds like something has happened to reduce your sex drive or limit your "interest." If there wasn't a problem before and there is nothing physically wrong, then it must be mental. If it was a gradual thing, then it could be age but becoming noticeable in under a year seems too extreme. I'd see a doctor and make sure there's nothing physically wrong. If it's mental, it could be stress or maybe you're really not interested in her as a gf (sure she's hot, but is that enough for you?).
Don't be too hard on yourself, this scsenario is very common and fortunately it's usually a "mental" thing. Good idea to see a doctor and possibly a therapist if necessary. Not sure if you hobby outside of the relationship, but if you're ok with the morality of it - it might be a good idea to do a "control test". It worked well for me in a similar circumstance a few years ago.
..sounds like you are putting pressure on yourself to perform, probably because you are sensitiver about the age difference. The important thing to remember is your tongue is more important then your dick. So instead of boneing her 5 times a day
go down on her for a couple of hours. much less strenous, she will appreciate it and when you do give it to her she will be cumming up a storm.
go down on her for a couple of hours. much less strenous, she will appreciate it and when you do give it to her she will be cumming up a storm.
On this point I might aslo add that also as you become older, your flaccid refractory period tends to increase. That means the time between your last orgasm and the time you can get a good erection increases. It could be anywhere from 20 min to 24 hours. If your having sex with both SPs and your gf, you may be running the boys, and your libido, ragged. Also, it's possible if you are developing strong feelings for her, after this time, seeing SPs may be inducing some kind of guilt stress or making her less inspiring to you with all the SP variety. I'm not making any moral statements, just saying it may be true for you, based on limited info you've given us.zydeco said:
Jeez a one year relationship built on a dick performing 4-5 times a day and the first time the dick gives out on you your ready to chuck everything. Go see a doctor, stop smoking if you do smoke, check the diet.....whatever! If your reason to be rests solely with your dick then you got issues! Grow up!What are you gonna do when your older and every erection is a blessing.
Testoserone.
Low levels of this hormone will cause lots of problems. Solutions include weight loss, no smoking, no drinking, and an exercse program. I'm told squats with free-weights is very helpful.
The reason I mention these things is that they do apply to me and addressing some of these areas has helped. Personally, for me smoking is the no. one problem.
Low levels of this hormone will cause lots of problems. Solutions include weight loss, no smoking, no drinking, and an exercse program. I'm told squats with free-weights is very helpful.
The reason I mention these things is that they do apply to me and addressing some of these areas has helped. Personally, for me smoking is the no. one problem.
It would be nice to give you advice, but, without being able to have some serious indepth information, it would be difficult to give you any sound advice.
Other than, you may want to talk to your doctor, or a professional about it. There are too many unkown factors that can be involved here to give a definite answer.
Other than, you may want to talk to your doctor, or a professional about it. There are too many unkown factors that can be involved here to give a definite answer.
..the fact he mentions
1) the age difference
2) previous boyfriend was younger
3) she is very beautiful
4) she deserves someone better then him
5) he was nailing her 5 times a day
to me paints a picture of someone who feels like he has to "perform" up to a certain standard, which he equates with the number of times he nails her. Like I said , imho, he needs to concentrate on the quality and not quantity of encounters. He is putting to much pressure on himself and is insecure in whether or not he is keeping her satisfied. Thus my suggestion is cunningulus, problem is from what I hear alot of men do not know how to do it very well. If you know what your doing down there it makes up for alot. My suggestion , hire an SP , lose the ego , bring her in for a few sessions and specifically tell her you are looking to learn how to munch the carpet, when you can get off an SP you know your pretty good.
1) the age difference
2) previous boyfriend was younger
3) she is very beautiful
4) she deserves someone better then him
5) he was nailing her 5 times a day
to me paints a picture of someone who feels like he has to "perform" up to a certain standard, which he equates with the number of times he nails her. Like I said , imho, he needs to concentrate on the quality and not quantity of encounters. He is putting to much pressure on himself and is insecure in whether or not he is keeping her satisfied. Thus my suggestion is cunningulus, problem is from what I hear alot of men do not know how to do it very well. If you know what your doing down there it makes up for alot. My suggestion , hire an SP , lose the ego , bring her in for a few sessions and specifically tell her you are looking to learn how to munch the carpet, when you can get off an SP you know your pretty good.
