SimsVic said:
Personally, I think that sex and domination can go hand in hand, and see no reason why they have to be necessarily seperate.
Ah, the eternal question - is Pro Domination prostitution, and can prostitutes be Pro Dominatrixes?
Most of the savvy Pro Dommes I know consider themselves to be 'sexworkers', even though what they provide isn't the full service contact of an SP. For reasons of their own - legal, personal comfort level, FemmeDom beliefs, perceptions of ethical boundaries within BDSM - the majority of women who call themselves Professional Dominas do
not offer full service. You should never book a session with one them expecting to receive it, either, as you're likely going to leave disappointed.
I worked as a Pro Domina exclusively for quite some time, and while I did so I didn't offer 'full service'. Eventually, I came to the conclusion that I wanted the liberty to combine both within my sessions, so I segued into my current occupation, which I termed 'fetish escort' (It might be common now, but it was pretty unheard of a few years ago). I think it
is possible to combine safe, skilled BDSM play and full service, but this is a controversial opinion, and has gotten me into more arguments than I can count. I've been ostracized by Dominas I had considered to be friends, kicked off of discussion boards, and told that I'm a 'traitor' to my craft, simply for offering both.
What I object to is the preconceived notion that any woman who
dares to offer both FS and BDSM must automatically be a crappy Domina - a 'hooker with a whip', in 'serious' BDSM parlance. I've seen some scarily ill equipped 'true' Dominas, and have the pleasure of knowing some incredibly skilled fetish SPs. Deciding to put out doesn't automatically mean you lose all of your skill, and refusing to do so doesn't mean you acquire any new ones, either.
So, I guess you
can have it all - you just need to know where to look.
BTW, I know I always push this, but really the
best BDSM professional resource that I know of is Jacqueline Banks' 'Silver Birch BDSM Directory'. You can find it at:
http://silverbirchbdsm.com/
Morgan
ps: Goober? STFU before I come over there and put your nuts in a vise - and not in a good way, either. Uptight asshat.