Just wondering if anybody else hobbies while being a loving marriage. My wife and I are happy together but the sex is terrible. I just go through the motions but she seems to like it. We love each other and get along well but sometimes I just need to have a good steak not the same old hamburger. I know I'm playing with a loaded gun but I've made my choice. Anybody else in similar situation?
Anybody else hobby while in a "happy" marriage
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Your sex life would be great, if you have sex at 2 p.m. and she has at 8 p.m.(not with you of course)
I totally agree. I honestly wished she would.Your sex life would be great, if you have sex at 2 p.m. and she has at 8 p.m.(not with you of course)
Nah, I went through the same thing as OP.
It is actually possible.
He's going to hate me for saying it, but he's headed for a divorce
I have a wonderful marriage with love lots of xos and all the other wonderful stuff and bs that comes with it.
I hobby because it keeps me content and helps me stay true and honest.
The sex part...whatever its an excuse people use to justify this hobby...blaming the wife or this and that. Lets be fucking be real here...its you, its only you to blame or thank depending on your perspective.
I chose to see it as a positive in that it helps me stay true to my core and is a part of the spiritual healing and strengthening aspect of my life. Kinda look at it like going to the gym is for the physical or church is for some people for the spiritual. I chose this hobby for my spiritual healing and health and maintenance.
how do I know it works. Well I can still have fun smile and make my family smile and happy vs. contributing negatively to it. That's all I need honestly.
Don't make excuses...just accept it. They don't need to know everything.
I hobby because it keeps me content and helps me stay true and honest.
The sex part...whatever its an excuse people use to justify this hobby...blaming the wife or this and that. Lets be fucking be real here...its you, its only you to blame or thank depending on your perspective.
I chose to see it as a positive in that it helps me stay true to my core and is a part of the spiritual healing and strengthening aspect of my life. Kinda look at it like going to the gym is for the physical or church is for some people for the spiritual. I chose this hobby for my spiritual healing and health and maintenance.
how do I know it works. Well I can still have fun smile and make my family smile and happy vs. contributing negatively to it. That's all I need honestly.
Don't make excuses...just accept it. They don't need to know everything.
I'm happy. It's just occasionally I'm a bastard and want to fuck a young spinner type. No excuses. No guilt either. I do it and then go home and love my wife.
It isn't need. It's want.
Glad that it is working for you but dressing it up as spiritual is a thin veneer of rationalization. Spirituality is not closeted secret.
I imagine that's the way it's been for the overwhelming majority of married men since the dawn of humanity. The DNA of a man is that of a sexual predator. There is no "off" switch when they tie the knot. Likewise, women are submissives that will give in to the right dominant. Since it takes two to tango, there are just as many female cheaters (perhaps more) than males.
Thanks, glad I'm not the only one. Like I said, I know I'm playing with a loaded gun. When she finds out, I'll probably get divorced. I've already accepted that reality. Wish I lived in France.
Agree!
Especially, with the increasing tendency of "man hating feminazi bitches" on the rise and plenty of manginas about.
Sometimes MGTOW makes sense.
And no, I'm not a chauvinist! Just a bit more traditional and normally live by the rule "live and let live".
makes sense any day of the week as long as you don't want kids and make enough money to get pussy at will
when I occasionally see my exes they look at best like mothers of women who I currently fuck. And it ain't getting better for them with time. Who invests in falling stock?
This is true only for a monogamous relationship. My
concubines are all happy notwithstanding intimacy with
the SO.
I agree with all of it except the "think about it" part. It's pretty clear that they are trying hard to not think about it, so let them delude themselves and be as happy as they can be under their circumstances.
Bullshit. I'm in a happy successful relationship. I'm just a bastard occasionally. It has absolutely nothing to do with my wife of any defect in my relationship.
I take full responsibility. It's quite simply I occasionally like to fuck someone else. Usually after a night out with the boys. Probably the SO it out of town.
It's all in my. My personal "defect". And I can not hobby as I feel as well. I've gone 6 months, a year between dates. No worries.
It's a want. Nothing more or less.
