am I in trouble?

[Steve Stifler]

Yo Brothers and Sisters,

I need your advice....

I just started seeing this new girl about a coupla weeks ago.
Its cool and everything. Still getting to know each other.
We met on the net (not Terb - hahaha!).

She's state that we're not officially boyfriend/girlfriend yet, and I'm totally cool with that!

However she called up today inviting me to her family gathering later this month.
Its a combination Mother's Day/Father's birthday/ nephew birthday/sister birthday for May gathering.
Then she tells me how I'll get along with all members of the family....what we already have in common...etc etc.

My question and I ask cos I can be a little slow when it comes to relationships.

Does this mean I am a boyfriend, without her needing to say that i am?!

Steve

ps Oh yeah she said any gift I bring to the shindig is most welcome.

.

 

[LordLoki]

Yo Brothers and Sisters,

I need your advice....

I just started seeing this new girl about a coupla weeks ago.
Its cool and everything. Still getting to know each other.
We met on the net (not Terb - hahaha!).

She's state that we're not officially boyfriend/girlfriend yet, and I'm totally cool with that!

However she called up today inviting me to her family gathering later this month.
Its a combination Mother's Day/Father's birthday/ nephew birthday/sister birthday for May gathering.
Then she tells me how I'll get along with all members of the family....what we already have in common...etc etc.

My question and I ask cos I can be a little slow when it comes to relationships.

Does this mean I am a boyfriend, without her needing to say that i am?!

Steve

ps Oh yeah she said any gift I bring to the shindig is most welcome.

.

Sounds lke the infamous "family test" required before getting full BF status.

 

[stig_irc]

yes - you are now quite officially a boyfriend and quite possibly in the state of "being evaluated as prospective husband".

Are you in trouble depends on how much you like her / how comfortable you are with stringing hr along if you aint serious.

Flowers for the hostess are almost always welcome - if it's a birthday event then bringing cake / food would be a bit crass. If you're flush then fizzy wine (classy fizzy wine) for the birthday people and flowers for the mom (as hostess senior woman there) would be ok. Avoid token or jokey gifts.

Make sure if you buy her mom (as hostess) something you get the girl flowers too (give first - she's not your mom).

Best of luck - it's an awkward one she's pitched at you here.

 

[Geographic]

Trouble

Yeah sounds like trouble, unless you don't mind that she thinks of you as her boyfriend and that you are exclusive.

 

[Mr. Piggy]

Have you had sex with her yet? If yes, and she's inviting you to a family gathering, in her mind she probably is thinking that you are b/f and g/f.
But then what the fuck do I know, I've been married 3 times. lol.

 

[cypherpunk]

It's definitely boyfriend territory, but not necessarily so.

 

[jerbear]

Meet the maybe future inlaws and go from there. Gives you a taste of what she's about . JMHO.

 

[The Bandit]

You're okay, if she's taking you home to the family...it means you qualify.

Don't worry about her not calling you B/F, maybe she's just not comfortable with stating it yet.

 

[Terminator2000]

What's PDA?

 

[Lou Siffer]

I'm guessing... Personal Digital Assistant - blackberry, treo, etc.

OP, you're either in BF territory or being measured up for it. Trouble? That's for you to decide.

The upside is you get to check out Mom to see how the girl is going to turn out in the long run. Always check the ankles, the ankles tell you everything.

 

[MuffinMuncher]

OP, you're either in BF territory or being measured up for it. Trouble? That's for you to

You're in the final round before getting the title - if you pass the family occasion test, you're in. So depending on your intentions, either be a gracious guest or hit on her Mom.

Do NOT fall for the "gift test". Tell her to pick out the gift since its her family (you'd pick out the gift if it was your family). See if she puts both names on the card.

 

[Herodotus]

What's PDA?

Public Displays of Affection.

 

[Lou Siffer]

Public Displays of Affection.

Ah, that makes much more sense.

I was wondering why anyone would care if you brought your blackberry.

 

[a 1 player]

This is a TEST!!!

You are being tested!!!

 

[xix]

Not a test

You guys nuts.
This is not a test or BF testing.

It's more like "my family always ask me when am I going to get married, or have a BF"

This act is to bring you along to shut them up.Her family that is.
Then you get dump, meanwhile back in her mind she is waiting for someone else to please because she hear through the grapevine that HE is getting dumped.

Just curious how old is she?
This really matters. Also she may not like to show up alone in family gatherings when everyone else has someone to talk to. She is either trouble; insecure or I can't be alone.

 

[Berlin]

Does this mean I am a boyfriend, without her needing to say that i am?!

Steve

ps Oh yeah she said any gift I bring to the shindig is most welcome.

.

Don't be too sure. From experience and what I have seen, family gathering thingy does not mean shit to some. Don't lower your guards and keep workin it boiiiyyy until she tells you you're the only one she's seeing.

Best of luck.

 

[STM]

He's goin home to meet the folks

She see's him as someone worthy of meeting the extended family! The extended family will view him, rate him, size him up! Once thats over with and her she gets the family opinion of him! He's either in or out! Simple as that!