A Female Friend Of Mine Wants To Be An Escort. What Should I tell her?

[glamphotographer]

If a female friend or someone you know asked you for advice about getting in to escorting, what you tell her? Yes, she knows I hobby and she is curious about many things like, the money (is good), the clients, safe sex, bad clients, safety, agencies etc. She is attractive enough but I don't know about her sexual IQ.

 

[peter4025]

Ask her to join the board and get advise from some established sp

 

[glamphotographer]

What would chloe have to say. BTW, my friend doesn't know about this board.

 

[TESLAMotors]

Ask her to join the board and get advise from some established sp

Yeah, not exactly rocket science is it? lol

 

[MissCroft]

I once helped a female friend get into it. She heard that I was escorting and asked me how she could get into it so I helped to hook her up with a reputable agency. She asked a lot of questions and I tried to help direct her. She bought me an expensive Christmas gift that year as a thank you.

 

[glamphotographer]

She bought me an expensive Christmas gift that year as a thank you.

That's why I want to help, rather than pass her off to someone else. LOL!

 

[huckfinn]

Do you know anyone that hobbies that she could try it with.....one that you and she could trust? She might find herself overly nervous, shy, etc, and put in the situation it may not work.

Would she consider being an MPA for a bit first? Might be a good introduction to adult services, and she could restrict herself to that until she figures it out. I am not suggesting they are equal, I am, however, suggesting she will figure out really fast what her comfort level is, and if she can take it to the next level.

 

[Chloë.]

I would suggest maybe contacting a provider that you see regularly (or that you know well OR trust to help) who may be willing to offer her advice from first hand experience.

That way you can control the situation somehow, like a mediatory third party.

It is extremely nervewracking being a new provider and asking someone established that isn't expecting an email for help. Some people may ignore you, not offer decent advice or may not be the type of provider you expected etc.
If you are able to somehow introduce the two or so they can have a simple phone conversation, that goes a long way to helping her versus letting her figure out how to get help on her own.

What I wouldn't suggest is diving headfirst into an appointment or going to a spa to learn on the fly. It could be a rough go and unnecessary if she could have made an informed decision beforehand after figuring out exactly what she is comfortable with, from experienced pros.

I've worked in spas and other areas of this industry and I'm telling you, they all vastly differ in many ways and it is better to have knowledge than to waste time with one if you find you may like another better.

*Ask her what type of provider she wants to be, services she is cool with offering and preferred location and match her up with someone similar. Easier that way.

 

[MPAsquared]

Have her email me. Mpa-ing is the best option. As a general overall, mpa's make more money and don't do fs. Much better for an entry level. Muse is the best place for newbies because we train our staff. Considering we were both mpa's for almost a decade, we know our stuff.

 

[harryass]

I would suggest maybe contacting a provider that you see regularly (or that you know well OR trust to help) who may be willing to offer her advice from first hand experience.

That way you can control the situation somehow, like a mediatory third party.

It is extremely nervewracking being a new provider and asking someone established that isn't expecting an email for help. Some people may ignore you, not offer decent advice or may not be the type of provider you expected etc.
If you are able to somehow introduce the two or so they can have a simple phone conversation, that goes a long way to helping her versus letting her figure out how to get help on her own.

What I wouldn't suggest is diving headfirst into an appointment or going to a spa to learn on the fly. It could be a rough go and unnecessary if she could have made an informed decision beforehand after figuring out exactly what she is comfortable with, from experienced pros.

I've worked in spas and other areas of this industry and I'm telling you, they all vastly differ in many ways and it is better to have knowledge than to waste time with one if you find you may like another better.

*Ask her what type of provider she wants to be, services she is cool with offering and preferred location and match her up with someone similar. Easier that way.

great reply !

 

[Chloë.]

Nice subltle jabs. I highly doubt mp's make more than sp's let alone independent sp's or reputable agency sp's. Personally I never understood the appeal of a massage parlour as the main reason I hobby is for the full service. To each his own.

Thank you! Lol. Absolutely no need for the jabs, honestly.

I think it really depends on the provider and a wide range of variables, most of which are often out of your own control. Definitely not fact, that statement above is. I have first hand experience of that.

This is why I said instead of jumping headfirst into one or the other, she needs an independent perspective from someone who has nothing to gain from it, so she can figure out which type of provider she would be great at being.

Some people are great MPA's and not so great SPs. It's the same way I personally flourish as a dinner and long-term companion and suck at short 30 minute intervals, which is why I don't offer them. Every woman in this industry wasn't cut out for the same type of service. It is a matter of preference and no amount of training would allow me to prefer it any other way.

 

[doggystyle99]

Have her email me. Mpa-ing is the best option. As a general overall, mpa's make more money and don't do fs. Much better for an entry level. Muse is the best place for newbies because we train our staff. Considering we were both mpa's for almost a decade, we know our stuff.

I have always known how much of a DOUCHE you really are and you keep confirming my assessment by posting comments like this and then I realize you are actually even a bigger DOUCHE than what I had originally thought.
Common attitudes like yours is why a lot of hobbyists like myself who use to see MPA's do not see them any more and now see SP's. The attitude that somehow they are superior to escorts and strippers because they provide less service than escorts and make more money than strippers.

At the end of the day you are all in the same industry (sex workers) and putting one another down or looking down on one another does nothing but divides the workers and is horrible for that industry in every sense.
A lot of people look down at all sex workers (strippers, massage attendants, escorts) because it is outside of what they think the norm is and you are perpetuating what they are doing by looking down on escorts and strippers because it is outside of what you feel comfortable doing.

WHAT A DOUCHE!

I remember a while back you were bragging on how you were in a group for sex workers and their rights consulting on C-36, which I have never been able to confirm from anyone else in or out of the industry. If true it's a shame that someone like you who only sees things from their own POV and will never understand others positions who she doesn't agree with, and is so intent on preserving what you are doing and providing as a business owner as the most ultimate in the industry and the only way was put in a situation to be a voice for other sex workers who she doesn't see eye to eye.

 

[bestman007]

Meowwww... what we need is a cat fight between Chloe & MPASQUARED.

In a mud pit naked. Make it a 50/50 draw. Winner gets 50% of the price of admission. The other 50% goes to charity.

 

[doggystyle99]

If a female friend or someone you know asked you for advice about getting in to escorting, what you tell her? Yes, she knows I hobby and she is curious about many things like, the money (is good), the clients, safe sex, bad clients, safety, agencies etc. She is attractive enough but I don't know about her sexual IQ.

Finding out what she feels comfortable providing would be a great start for her, I think if she has specifically asked about escorting she probably has put some thought into it and she feels comfortable with being an escort. But if you are a good friend of hers just remind her that being in the sex industry is tough work and not for every one as you have to be mentally and emotionally stable beyond others as it is quite draining.
I would say to have her contact a trusted indy SP maybe someone you know as there is a less chance of being pressured into doing things she might not be comfortable doing.

REMEMBER HER COMFORT LEVEL IS THE MOST IMPORTANT AND NOT WHAT ONE AGENCY OWNER, MASSAGE PARLOUR OWNER, STRIP CLUB OWNER OR YOU AND ME THINK IS THE RIGHT THING FOR HER TO DO. AND MAKE SURE SHE KNOWS THAT.

 

[GGGDickson]

I do not think I is that hard to get in. Harder to get out.

Most I think start in a agency and then move up. I read Fast Girl and it explained it very clearly. Would recommend she read that one.easy read.

 

[glamphotographer]

Maybe she is offering to fuck? Perhaps i should break her in. LOL! No, I can't, she a friend and would be very awkward. She's not MCOT.

 

[Perry Mason]

Every woman in this industry wasn't cut out for the same type of service.

:amen:

Perry

 

[Hiding]

Have her email me. Mpa-ing is the best option. As a general overall, mpa's make more money and don't do fs. Much better for an entry level. Muse is the best place for newbies because we train our staff. Considering we were both mpa's for almost a decade, we know our stuff.

Ouch, Emily - shots fired! Not all MPAS make more (by a wide margin), and there are a lot of undesirable aspects in the massage world that don't exist in companionship. You're a great owner and I respect you for it; I get what you're saying. I just think you're wrong. If I had started in massage I wouldn't be as happy as I am today. It's not for everyone, and definitely not best for everyone as an entry level.

I have always known how much of a DOUCHE

This is so not cool, how is "douche" an acceptable insult for an adult to use? Call things what they are: spineless, self-serving, hastily written, whatever comes to mind. You're a smart guy, if "douche" is all you can come up with we've backtracked to calling people "poopy-pants" and "dumbheads". C'mon.

OP: Chloë is right on the mark. Go by her comfort level. FS is a problem? Dance/cam/massage. Lineups are an issue? Companionship or camming. Stage fright? Don't dance. There are a lot of options.

Have her talk with someone who is doing what she wants to do in a similar category and area. A someone who has nothing to gain from it.

 

[Yoga Face]

go to a high end spa and work as a receptionist to get a feel for it

 

[GPIDEAL]

I think your friend should simply do her homework first by asking questions.

Personally, stripping requires a mindset or attitude in face of competition. She may not like to hustle. Then again, she may be so DDG that men will come to her.

Going the MPA route may seem like a gradual way to get into escorting. Instead of the hustle, there's the line-up which some girls don't like (and it's not a fair assessment - she may have the look BUT does she have the touch?).

All in all, let her do her homework and fine the less intimidating route. Then again, she could be a natural.

How did most SPs get into it?