Newbie full of questions: Does our body type matters?

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I'm going to be honest here, I'm not in my greatest shape (290lb, 6'1), I'm working on it, but I feel very self-aware of my body, low self steem is a bit of an issue right now... but does that matter?
I mean, I haven't had any experience with SP or anything like that... I want to get started, but I'm so into my own head with questions / self doubt that I'm a bit lost.

Any tips from the more experienced folks, or some newbies that overcame the initial weirdness?

Thanks
 
Well if it helps you, I am 6'2" and was about 310 when I started seeing SPs last year. I was already starting down a path of exercise and diet, but seeing SPs made me immediately more determined to work harder

I've lost 55 lbs since and still have 30 or so to go. Never once have a felt like a woman was turned off by me. I mean I don't think they need to be attracted to us to do their jobs

Have good hygiene, be respectful and kind, treat them like human beings. Those are the important things

Feeling/looking good is for you. And it's worthwhile to work on. My self esteem, stamina, and sexual confidence are way higher than they were when I got here.
 
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Women will never care about your appearance as long as you have money.

Seriously though; they dont care. You have to take care of yourself in a manner that you can be proud of.

Women feel, men don't. Appearance is paramount to us. To women not so much as long as you give them a good to great emotional rollercoaster.

That said were in a punting forum. So money would suffice. No need to build them a rollercoaster ride. Let them deal with that shit on their own time not your time.
 
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I'm also a big guy, and I will tell you what everyone else is going to say....good hygiene and being a gentlemen is what these ladies respect and want. In 30 years of hobbying on and off I can only remember 1 that made me feel like my size put her off. Even then it may have more about my esteem than her feelings.

A good provider will help your self-esteem as well. The good ones will make you feel attractive regardless of how you see yourself and as already mentioned that feeling is a motivator to better yourself. When your esteem is low, I have found that the way i see myself is much worse than how others do and a good woman making you feel like a king is a magic elixir.
 
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there's going to be several instances where you may think in you're head that your body or general appearance is playing a factor and it might ruin your experience. The best thing to do i just remember that you can't read their minds and even if they didn't like you, they would never show it, so you would never be able to tell anyway. Just focus on what you can control that day, your hygiene and your manners. Being a gentleman comes in all shapes and sizes.
 
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I’ve honestly never had a negative or bad experience with an escort. I’ve had some experiences better than others, of course, but I’m always incredibly polite and am well groomed with impeccable hygiene. I’m 6’0” 165lbs but with a 7-8” hog depending on you measure it lol but I don’t have a great body, I’m totally “out of shape”…. But I’ve always had a great time with escorts. I pay them and then treat them like real women I’m trying to impress and court like a real girlfriend and they’ve all seemed to be on the same wavelength
 
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CanadianMajor said:
I'm going to be honest here, I'm not in my greatest shape (290lb, 6'1), I'm working on it, but I feel very self-aware of my body, low self steem is a bit of an issue right now... but does that matter?
I mean, I haven't had any experience with SP or anything like that... I want to get started, but I'm so into my own head with questions / self doubt that I'm a bit lost.

Any tips from the more experienced folks, or some newbies that overcame the initial weirdness?

Thanks
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Not at all! I personally like bigger built men. Respect, kindness and hygiene matters a lot more.
 
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thumper18474 said:
FYI...some women DO have size(weight restrictions)!
Some will ask for height/weight
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Youd do the same thing too if they ask you to face the UFC heavyweight champ and you weigh 125 soaking wet.

End of the day these are girls. No matter how rabid or "baddie" they may be there will always be an inherent size and strenght descrepancies. This is their livelihood and quite frankly its their turf and they get to dictate that.

So to all the heavy set guys: do yourself a favor and get fit. Sex is better, life is better in general. Just dont make your appearance your entire personality.
 
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CanadianMajor said:
I'm going to be honest here, I'm not in my greatest shape (290lb, 6'1), I'm working on it, but I feel very self-aware of my body, low self steem is a bit of an issue right now... but does that matter?
I mean, I haven't had any experience with SP or anything like that... I want to get started, but I'm so into my own head with questions / self doubt that I'm a bit lost.

Any tips from the more experienced folks, or some newbies that overcame the initial weirdness?

Thanks
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Definitely doesn’t matter. What does is that you get an accurate medical check up now before starting including sti testing (yes you could have something for years and not know it) and strep (see if you’re a carrier) and get your vaccines for flu Covid and gardasil updated and hep and tetanus and whatever else you need updating and get prescription for Valtrex in case. This way you also can’t come back here and blame whomever you see first for giving you something. Make sure you have no skin issues such as fungal infection or fungal toes or foot plantar warts or staph infections etc. stock up on alcohol containing mouthwash. Tongue scraper. Etc. They care about hygiene and continued hygiene and that you respect your body and thus will respect theirs. If you are too heavy (no idea how your weight is distributed this is why looking at numbers isn’t a great representation of judging who you’re seeing) they will not want you to be on top and just letting go and hurting them by putting your weight on them and potentially makint them feel unsafe in the process. Just be open with them its the best way to ensure a good time all around. best of luck!
also if you have a hard time washing your back get a back scrubber and a stretchable loofa (dollarama or muji). Get in all folds of skin. Make sure you get your back of neck. Areas where bacteria hide. Alcohol wipes to clean your nose holes and ears and lobes. Keep nails short and smoothly filed. Go get professional manicure and pedicure if needed and watch what they do. Get rid of heel cracks and callouses

keep up on dental cleanings. Get a Waterpik. Halitosis is real and its a bacterial issue and can get her sick
 
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newguy2201 said:
Well if it helps you, I am 6'2" and was about 310 when I started seeing SPs last year. I was already starting down a path of exercise and diet, but seeing SPs made me immediately more determined to work harder

I've lost 55 lbs since and still have 30 or so to go. Never once have a felt like a woman was turned off by me. I mean I don't think they need to be attracted to us to do their jobs

Have good hygiene, be respectful and kind, treat them like human beings. Those are the important things

Feeling/looking good is for you. And it's worthwhile to work on. My self esteem, stamina, and sexual confidence are way higher than they were when I got here.
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This is true. It actually resulted in me having day of fasting which helps me a lot since I get nervous before seeing them and don’t want to be gassy and bloated which will result in me being self conscious in my head so I have a black coffee and that’s it maybe a banana before I see them
 
Muchadoaboutnothing said:
Definitely doesn’t matter. What does is that you get an accurate medical check up now before starting including sti testing (yes you could have something for years and not know it) and strep (see if you’re a carrier) and get your vaccines for flu Covid and gardasil updated and hep and tetanus and whatever else you need updating and get prescription for Valtrex in case. This way you also can’t come back here and blame whomever you see first for giving you something. Make sure you have no skin issues such as fungal infection or fungal toes or foot plantar warts or staph infections etc. stock up on alcohol containing mouthwash. Tongue scraper. Etc. They care about hygiene and continued hygiene and that you respect your body and thus will respect theirs. If you are too heavy (no idea how your weight is distributed this is why looking at numbers isn’t a great representation of judging who you’re seeing) they will not want you to be on top and just letting go and hurting them by putting your weight on them and potentially makint them feel unsafe in the process. Just be open with them its the best way to ensure a good time all around. best of luck!
also if you have a hard time washing your back get a back scrubber and a stretchable loofa (dollarama or muji). Get in all folds of skin. Make sure you get your back of neck. Areas where bacteria hide. Alcohol wipes to clean your nose holes and ears and lobes. Keep nails short and smoothly filed. Go get professional manicure and pedicure if needed and watch what they do. Get rid of heel cracks and callouses

keep up on dental cleanings. Get a Waterpik. Halitosis is real and its a bacterial issue and can get her sick
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Very thorough answer! Thanks for all the details, some stuff I definitely wasn't thinking about.
 
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