I think the logic is... At least from my perspective...
I think people put you at a higher risk of getting sick. The upcharge would account for days you have to take off from getting sick. Colds, sore throats ect
There are a lot of people who come in and just want a simple, straightforward experience and they honestly shouldn't pay the same as a person that wants a hardcore experience.
If someone describes to me that they want hardcore sex for a long time... its 1 uncomfortable 2 not what most people ask for and 3 more strenuous.
I would much rather have three people wanting a regular experience and relax and have a good time than, one single person that pays more for PSE simply because it sounds like they want to use and abuse me and they don't care if they rip my skin or if they're hurting me. It's generally less common, and I would almost consider it a fetish and fetishes usually pay a premium because there's more time and effort involved.
Getting "pounded" for an hour honestly sounds awful.
I'm much more into foreplay and teasing. Lots of getting people turned on by the act.
PSE generally sounds like some person is just going to do the same thing to me for an hour until I'm raw and tired and questioning raising my rates for everyone.
I think the solution to not having to raise rates for every single person is to charge people who want MORE according to how much time and effort you put in.
People who are looking to "pound" me generally don't care if i'm lubed up, comfortable, having a good time. They don't care if i'm comfortable.
I will consider a more PSE experience and not charge extra if I know the person isn't super demanding or if they genuinely have concern for my comfort. If they just want a few minutes of PSE its not a big deal but an entire hour of it is exhausting.
Guys tend to jump into a situation talking about how they want to do all of these things For an entire hour and it's not a fun experience.
I will break it down using my massage special for example
For my massage I had a special for a long time. I actually like giving massages and I like getting people off. Most people came in with the expectation that they get a massage and a quick something at the end...
Then I started getting these people that just couldnt feel their dick. They were totally desensitized to any touch and I had to jackhammer them for a long time.
These people really made me reconsider, offering a special because they needed to pay a lot more for the services they got and its not fair to everyone else. Honestly, it's not fair for me either. I would be exhausted from these people after and my back would hurt. It really kind of put me in a sour mood for the next appointment and a few of them honestly made me hate what I was doing. Like 95% of people were great. Then those 5% chronic masturbators that probably couldn't feel their cock of you smacked it with a stick really ruin the whole experience for everyone.
Most people aren't looking for a true porn star experience and the definition could really vary from person to person, you might be thinking you want a little deep throat and the last guy wanted to use and abuse someone for an hour.
I love giving massages and I love making people feel good... I hate when people show up and they've clearly jerked off all day before they came and they expect me to really work hard for every minute they're paying me the price I offer to regular folks.
I was trying to cut people some slack and offer a good deal so I could do more of the thing that I love... but there were days that I regretted it especially when I got two of these people in a row.
It honestly feels like after these people you need to recuperate. You need to take a break before your next appointment.
I think there's an aspect of not wanting to do it because it's uncomfortable and it's not a fun experience... but then there's the potential for lost revenue in case you get hurt. There's lost revenue, because you have to take a break after.
Honestly, if I had a couple of appointments and then a PSE experience, I would just take the rest of the day off. I would have to go home and relax and do something nice for myself.
I charge so much money for them people won't pay it and that's the goal.
If you say "no" men have tantrums and beg and won't leave you alone...
If you give them a price they're unwilling to pay they stop asking
Saves time and energy.
Put up or shut up, but sometimes people put up and then i'm stuck doing it lol
I guess to put it more simply would you work harder for the same pay?
Would you be willing to work 2 or 3 times harder for the same amount of pay?
Of course you wouldn't. No one would.
These women are not as excited as you are about it.
Men that can really fuck are a hot commodity... until I set limitations on what i'm willing to provide I was getting hurt all the time. I was taking a lot of time off from getting hurt by people that didn't know what the fuck they were doing.
When I factor in a price for more extreme sex i am factoring in the time that I have to take off because I need to take a break after or because of the probability of me getting hurt.
I have encountered few, so its not ultra common to me, just wanted to get a feel how much have you seen ridiculous upcharges and if so, is it more lately?
To be clear, not the normal, acceptable ones, such as cim, rim, Greek, all understandble and extra services, lets say. That's standard.
Im talking about upcharge for dfk, when contacting this sp I was excited to see until I saw that... and I was instantly turned off, said not interested politely. Not even an issue about the donation, even with dfk it was reasonable, but what is so special about dfk, that includes pecks, like, kisses, etc? Its not like we are going to lock tongues for 60 min straight...
The other is upcharge for pse, at almost double the donation, which pretty much consist of going down your shaft fully (dp, if), as opposed to 2"...
Please dont name names, if this rings a bell, not my point, just that... some of this is ridiculous to me.
And yes, there's no pushing boundaries here, sp can set rates however she sees fit, no bad feelings, freedom to all, etc, etc... im not trying to start a debate on democracy and freedom of choice.
Just wondering if these are outliers, as i said, 2 times from all sps I've seen/talk to...
wisdom there. Although text and email before X or Bsky (even when texting with a booker which creates its own false representation issues) because many providers are cautious, rightfully so, about verbiage even in DM which could cause them to lose the following they’ve built up. I’ve had above average success using DM as a segue to text or email because the provider or even their booker will be more aware. 
