Most suprising time you found out someone was interested in you

It happened in a Neveda brothel. Rather than treat her as just another sex worker I treated her as a person. Complimented her looks, her choice of music, the decorations in her room etc


She entered the room treating me as another John. First thing she said was how the rest of the girls were so excited to see me and wanted to join
us but that was $$ grab. When I treated her with kindness and genuine personal comments about her taste she changed. Her smile was no longer pretend and she tried her best to make me happy

It has happened in a MP as well, where the MPA is genuinely happy to see me again so we can pick up where we left off

When a SW is happy to see you and you become friends after she has seen so many clients that is a real ego boost

I got a good example


Saw an attractive blond at a party recently. She noticed I noticed then she stood up to show off her body and tight jeans

So, she noticed my attention, then stood up and displayed confidence in her appearance — as she was cute she knew she was hot so was very confident. She turned in my direction and smiled but not directly at me as that would be too forward

This is a classic example of how a woman can show interest. I could have been wrong but that does not change my example as nothing is 100%

Humans are so good at picking up micro signals it seems like ESP that you can trust so trust it

billsmafia said:

Many years ago, an SP that I had seen a few times reached out to me here on Terb. She said that she knew who I was based on my writing style. She invited me out for drinks. I was skeptical about the whole thing and was thinking that maybe her account had been hacked. I took a chance and went to meet her. We ended up dating for just over a year.

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Oddly enough I had something similar happen to my complete surprise. There was an sp who was quite active in the discussion boards. Quite argumentative and willing to engage in verbal battles. I used to kind of get into conflicts with her in a sort of piss taking way. To my amazement she fell in love with my online persona. She invited me to join her for a freebee. Which I did. I guess she liked me because she wanted to continue on a regular basis. No charge. She was very nice, but not really my type. (My type usually being Asian or black) So I tried to uncouple from her. She wasn't too happy about it. whoa! look at me!
And now here I am alone on another Saturday night.

The most surprising time for me was when I lost my v-card... I was 21, in uni, top honors, athletic, was doing a lot of sports, but I had no game otherwise and basically no time to chase tail. I was probably missing a lot of signals thrown my way too.

There was this married gal, 2 yrs older, enrolled in the same program. Her husband was out of the country for extended periods because of work. She was really attractive and I did flirt with her a couple times - to the extent of my (very) limited abilities. Until one day at the end of term, when she asked me to come by her dorm in the evening to help with some graduation assignments. Silly me, I thought this was legit about the assignments... When I got there, the roommate was nowhere to be seen, nor did she come back that night. A half hearted attempt to get into the assignments was made, mostly on my part. I finally started picking up on cues when she basically started crowding me, but I was still not sure and could not believe that this hot married experienced girl would want me... Eventually she figured out that I was completely lost and just asked me point blank if I found her sexy. This was the tipping point... One thing led to another and five minutes later we were in her bed doing the deed. I became a man with her on top riding me CG; I was still in massive shock and managed to last just about long enough, she came 30 seconds after me...

We went at it another 3 times that night and I left her dorm around 6:00 AM. It was the last time I saw her. Our finals were that week, and she was from another town, went back home after. I have always wondered where life took her...

Been trying to think of it, and I guess the most surprising was when I found out someone in my CEGEP courses has withdrawn from them and changed her whole schedule.
She was from a religious sect where you couldn't date outside that sect.
It was later revealed to me that removing me as a temptation was the primary reason.

newguy2201 said:

Here's another one that I don't think I've ever told here. This one is a bit more embarrassing but in my 20's I was a bit of a clueless idiot and also always assumed girls weren't into me due to self esteem issues

I was at a dance club that I used to go to with friends at Bay and Cumberland downtown.

It was 3 am and there were us 3 and a couple of single women dancing around. Night was pretty much done.

I started dancing with this woman and we started chatting. She said "I live just around the corner"

I said "Oh cool! You live downtown Toronto? That must be so awesome. Anyways, see you later"

An hour later I was like "wait...doh!!"

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LOL, I CAN IDENTIFY COMPLETELY!

Back in my early 20s, set up on a date literally with a farmer's daughter. She was I believe 4 years older than me. Decent date, nothing special, drove her home, parked in the driveway, was about to get out and she kind of grabbed me and gave me a quick, full hot kiss on the mouth!

I was astounded, nothing even remotely physical or suggestive talk had occurred of any kind.

Obviously nothing came of it.

If she has expressed interest then do not worry about small talk as confidence is not about being smooth but being confident in your awkwardness

If you want to take a risk consider a poetic line but only if she has sent signals otherwise it is a cheap pick up line:
"I saw you standing here as though holding up the universe, so i thought i would just say hello.
That is a line I just wrote actually while standing over there wondering what to say. You inspired it."

But the conversation is like a dance so you must lead by changing topic to something mundane. What is she supposed to do? Applaud? Swoon? You just sideswiped her with a unexpected poetic compliment now get back to earth and talk about boring small talk or whatever. If she was interested that line will stay with her

A decade ago or so, at a work party I must have been giving off serious male pheromones. One younger colleague, who had invited me for an innocent coffee a few mornings before, was quite drunk, and was following me around most of the night, giving me fairly inappropriate full body hugs frequently throughout the night, telling me what a great guy I was. One of my (he was an asshole) co workers brought a date, who was quite hot. We went to an after party at someone’s house, and his date seemed more interested in me than him. At one point we were chatting in a corner and she looks into my eyes and said “look, I’ve got a bottle of Stoli back at my place….” Another drunken female colleague at the same party, would literally move other women who were sitting next to me on the couch, out of the way so she could sit next to me. We shared a cab heading home, and as I got dropped off, she gave me a massive hug, and tried to kiss me, which I politely dodged.

I didn’t follow through on any of them, as it would have created a disaster at work, and tbh the two female colleagues could be a bit nuts. I’ve never had that degree of attention from multiple women in one night. I wish I knew what I was doing so right that night!!!

I have been following this thread recently but was reluctant to add my experience. Until now.
About a year and a half ago, while doing some spring yardwork, I tweaked my lower back. After a couple of days of self treatment, I was still in pain. One morning while browsing on Facebook, out of the blue a lady's post appeared announcing that she was resuming her massage services. She was someone who I had actually followed on IG for a few years and lived locally to me, so I was kind of happily surprised that her announcement showed up on my FB page. I sent her a DM on FB and we arranged a massage appointment. Her massage was very good. She was not an RMT but close to it. She did the training in college she said but had not yet finished the final course to acquire her RMT license. For anyone thinking otherwise, and she told me at my first appointment, she does not offer any extras. Strictly massage. Anyway, I felt a bit better after her massage so I booked a second session to get some more relief. After this session, when heading out the door (her home), she said "I really like you". For some context, I am about 25 years her senior. I left her place that day a little lighter on my feet after hearing her say that. She had also given me her cell number which she doesn't use to book massage appointments. She books only through DM's on FB. We texted back and forth for a few days and arranged to meet socially. We have been seeing each other since. This is the primary reason why I no longer see SP's. I only log in here as a lurker to keep up to date on things.

Mandala said:

That is unusual as it is normally done with signals allowing you to step closer not with such directness.

Declaration of affection emerges from the signaling which has declared safety and affection

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It definitely caught me by surprise. But I have learned through knowing her now for some time that she is very direct.

massman said:

I didn’t follow through on any of them, as it would have created a disaster at work, and tbh the two female colleagues could be a bit nuts. I’ve never had that degree of attention from multiple women in one night. I wish I knew what I was doing so right that night!!!

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I can tell you but you most likely will not believe it or like the answer.

What did they do to you in the previous life?
or who were you?
or what did you do to them?
80% of the time the women did something in the previous life.

These women wanted you in a previous life and they still can't have you.

My example below is why there is signaling

Some women will shut down real fast even though you are just being friendly.
They seem to be thinking this guy is interested in me so I need to let him know I am not interested. It is not a rejection of you but rejection of possible escalation

I have said, in such a case, " I am just being friendly", in a friendly voice then I let it go.

No insults, I just let it go.

If you feel rejected in such a scenario, that's insecurity at play, and you need to stay grounded.

xix said:

I can tell you but you most likely will not believe it or like the answer.

What did they do to you in the previous life?
or who were you?
or what did you do to them?
80% of the time the women did something in the previous life.

These women wanted you in a previous life and they still can't have you.

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I agree. And i actually love that answer.

However, never mind the PAST, what I HATE even more are the ones that wanted/want/will want me in a FUTURE life, and have come back to sneakily try again, in THEIR past!

HA ha, too bad ladies, I'm on to your tricks, I never fall for it, I trust my future self too much. Oh, he's a bit of an ass alright, , but not as much of an ass as I am now.! Not even close!

Therefore, if a BETTER version of myself turned these women down, I am definitely going to follow his/my advice.

Unfortunately, an even BIGGER problem has occasionally emerged: An even MORE DISTANT version of myself has accepted these women! And that even more distant version of myself is just a spectacularly nice guy - but I am wondering, is he too nice?

It is actually becoming a math/probability problem, and unfortunately, not ONE SINGLE VERSION of myself has ever been even slightly competent at math! Astounding! Can you believe it?

So I am now taking a night course.

Ugh.

When I was in my 20s, I fell head over heels for a woman I was casually dating. Out of nowhere, she ghosted me. Refused to return my texts or calls. After a month, I gave up and moved on.

Connected with her 3 years later when she emailed me to wish me a happy birthday. We got to chatting on email and she asked why I didn't pursue her, that she thought I was into her. She liked me, she said.

I reminded her that I DID do that, and she said, "oh, I was just so busy" at the time.

I don't believe that for a moment; I sensed someone who enjoyed playing hard to get, and that's one game I refuse to play for anyone.