I just realized, a client can't shine amongst the other clients and "win over an escort", because an escort can get that in her civilian life too
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There's a lot of ppl who don't like me on these forums, it doesn't prevent me from saying my opinion. lol but yeah, I won't lie, this has been an interesting way to spend a rainy afternoon. I almost never check the Terb lounge.
if he is troll as per your statement below:
then are you a half troll as per your statement below?
Isn''t exactly how dating works? Two people get to know each other and then if they like they get into LTR. Why it wouldn't work with escort and client?
Idk, maybe i am wrong by treating escort as any other person i meet. Should i not be friend with my butcher because he cuts me beef and receives money for that? After reading this thread i think i am in trouble
Oh, well, i will just double my daily whisky dose and eat some cat food.You can try.. but its not worth it. If they like you and allow u a free date once in a while, great. Ive befriended a lot of sex workers in my time. Been close friends with more than a few. If you can score a free lay be thankful. I wouldn't recommend dating them or hoping for a happy ever after. The dynamic of client/worker is already a big thing, it's a performance for them , may not be the same in their personal life. They tend to be volatile people for the most part. Not all, but most. But what is the fascination of wanting to date one?Isn''t exactly how dating works? Two people get to know each other and then if they like they get into LTR. Why it wouldn't work with escort and client?
Idk, maybe i am wrong by treating escort as any other person i meet. Should i not be friend with my butcher because he cuts me beef and receives money for that? After reading this thread i think i am in trouble
You should absolutely treat an escort like a human being, and escorts should treat their clients like human beings. I'm not saying it's impossible for a client and an escort to form a real connection, it happens all the time. I'm just saying it's a bad idea to pay escorts in the hope that one will end up being your girlfriend. Anyone with common sense understands this.Isn''t exactly how dating works? Two people get to know each other and then if they like they get into LTR. Why it wouldn't work with escort and client?
Idk, maybe i am wrong by treating escort as any other person i meet. Should i not be friend with my butcher because he cuts me beef and receives money for that? After reading this thread i think i am in trouble
Also your example isn't really a good comparison. Becoming personal friends with an active client outside of sessions and occasional banter can have consequences. There's a reason why we keep our identities private. Unlike your butcher.
No. My statement doesn't contradict the fact that I respect my clients if they respect me.if he is troll as per your statement below:
then are you a half troll as per your statement below?
Being an escort isn't an easy job, it's not accepted by society and it's dangerous. Anyone who has experience with the industry knows this. Therefore I think it's silly to assume that we would be escorting to find a husband or a boyfriend, or people to have sex with. You can do that in many other ways.
Imagine if any other type of provider would text you something like that…I would genuinely think they were insane. I’ve become friend with many aesthetic providers but I never expected to get freebies in return. It’s seriously disrespectful and predatory.
Does becoming dating partners with the butcher then also carry the expectation that you don't have to pay for the meat anymore? Because I don't think anyone thinks they should still be paying for sex if they start dating an escort. And if you think being a big spender is going to move you up the rankings of who she deems dateworthy, put yourself in her shoes, why would she remove an income source from her business?
Having boundaries is a good way to not become volatile. Hence why I don't go on free dates with clients.
I have become friends with a handful of clients, but they aren't active or invested in the scene at all. It makes a huge difference because my privacy isn't threatened.
That's not even what's at stake here in my opinion. There's always going to be other clients. If I feel like a client has illusions about the nature of our relationship and wants more, and he starts pushing for that, I will stop seeing him. It's unhealthy and honestly I've heard too many clients confide in me that they became obsessed with an escort and started seeking personal info about her and overstepping multiple boundaries.
And from personal experience, it's usually not the highest paying clients who become obsessed. But some of them might start using money to gain more and more access to you, and it's an uncomfortable feeling.
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100 percent boundaries are needed and ya obviously for your own safety and private life. But I've been out with a few, where a joke a day before was fine, the next day they tweak. It's happened a few times, nothing that was a big deal or ended any friendships but things like that. Being friends and having feelings for each other sometimes it's inevitable. Is it wise to date eachother, no. My question is what's with all these guys that really want to pursue something? Is it an ego thing? Look at me I won over the hot girl people pay for?
I know a lot of escorts who have had stalkers, some even had to get a restraining order. So yeah I think boundaries are needed and this is why I'm commenting here.
I think for some guys, it is trying to win what they can't have. For others, they believe no woman will hang out with them except for an escort. In short they see us as leftovers, and if the leftovers reject them, they will freak out.
I've had clients that I hung out with much longer or talked to in between bookings too, but it became unhealthy. It sometimes seemed like they were checking out everything I was doing, or every boundary I set seemed to be something they wanted to push beyond, so I stopped doing that. In a way it's normal for clients to want the relationship to feel "normal", but they have to remember to respect boundaries.
I also think that men who see escorts need to be honest with themselves. If their affective needs can't be met by escorts, they need something else outside of this. I've told many clients this, to their faces, precisely because I care about them.
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Ya that shit is weird to me. Never understand it. But I guess it's part of the job and clients
They are all learning experiences. Ultimately being an escort gives you some very good insights about the human psyche. Some people think I am too strict or too outspoken, but a lot of clients actually find this refreshing.
Ya, from both perspectives client and provider it is definitely a look into human psyche for good and bad.
Ya definitely ain't normal if ya think a relationship you have to build in the civilian world is the same as going to a sexworker
I'm actually planning to write one. And I will make sure to maintain people's anonymity, of course.
You don't get high on your own supply. That's why.
Dating a client removes a source of income for the provider.
The provider is in the arrangement for money, not romance.
The client is in the arrangement for sex, not romance.
The majority of clients and providers, dont actually know each other for it to work out anyway.
If they did, they may in most cases find each other, unsuitable.
No fascination. But everyone should have a chance. Profession doesn't matter that much. Also, a lot of time, if a girl ends her career as SP, it becomes very hard to find any traces of that. I am sure there are enough guys married to ex-escorts without even knowing it. I would rather date good looking, smart, intelligent, kind, and passionate escort than an average office worker. Also, RNs are known to sleep around a lot, should i also don't date them?
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