i would never ask no but if they tell me thats fine but im not really bothered weither way
Do you ask them their real names?
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i usually greet them give them my name and ask theirs whether it's real or not doesn't bother me in the slightest
Why do escorts find it hard to form connection? I don't understand. Doesn't them spending so much time with someone make them attached? People get attached (platonically and romantically) to other people all the time, in the world of business. I mean, that's literally how community is formed. Weren't markets historically also third places to socialize, despite there being transactional exchanges of goods and services?
I hear you, I get the guilt trip for not keeping in touch and booking more often. I haven't had the request for money or gifts yet.
I'm a way it's mutual respect for privacy from personal life.
Do you ask to see her ID? If it makes you feel more of a connection that she gave you a different name as her real name, you just take her at her word that's her name? "OK my names not Tiffany, it's really Raquel". Great, so you feel more bonded to her now? Even though Raquel is a name she just grabbed out of the air too?
It’s human nature to cough up that info when they have seen you a bunch and there is a degree of chemistry. I immediately forget the name partly because I like the casual / anonymous nature of this aspect of life and partly because I suck at remembering names.
Are women subject to this same human nature that makes them want to share personal things?
the details are fuzzy because i retired from seeing escorts quite awhile ago, but of all the women i saw , i remember 4 who told me their real names..and i never got the sense that any of them were "working" me..... just 2 people comfortable with each other, willing to share personal stuff...no agendas....but that was in a different time and or era...maybe things are different now...hell to get an hour all i did was phone...now you have to give deposits, text or email describing yourself...like applying for a job or loan lol
the irony here is that i had off the clock time spent with each of them....no expectations, just some fun times and company....i guess back then it was more casual than now...today i would,nt dream of any Escort revealing their names or going out on none transactional dates...... i really enjoyed my self with these women...and i have to admit i had just as much fun ..if not more, off the clock than on...as Bob Dylan once sang..The Times They Are A Changing
That off the clock, non business stuff still happens in some cases. I spent my lunch breaks on Thursday and Friday this week sitting in a parking lot beside my all time favourite shooting the breeze about all sorts of stuff non industry related. Then last night, we were talking about hooking up for some playtime, she said she wasn't sure, she was waiting to hear from her boyfriend who had his kids. I was driving into town and said I was early for what my later plans were, so I'd hang out in a nearby parking lot for a few minutes. She ended up pulling up and parking beside me and we talked while we waited to hear from him. Eventually she said "I bet he fell asleep, wanna go play" and I said no, I don't really have time now, I have a thing at so and so bar, but if you want to come along, you are welcome. So she did, and we hung out for a few hours there and had a great time. Her bf eventually messaged her back and she just said "sorry, out with a friend, and then I have an appointment later, maybe we can hang out tomorrow". She showed me the message and I said "ah too bad, I'm enjoying this, too bad you have to go see someone". She said "well, I don't really have a session booked, but I was hoping I might" and gave me a wink. I said "I'm ready when you are", and off we went back to her incall for some late night fun.
Escorts will avoid forming a strong connection with clients because it is necessary to be successful in the business. They have become very skilled ant separating sex/ lust/ attraction/ love. Encouraging clients to become attached is a recipe for disaster.
Having said that, I believe that many develop “friendly business relationships” with clients. This is natural and common in any client/ service provider relationship. I personally like to see sps that are cool people, and fun to chat / hang out with, in addition to being sexy, and great in bed.
That Group has women from all over the world just so youre aware with countries with very different rules and regulations and if you look at the stats a majority are American and Australian ! or the ones that are going to Dubai to become toilets and die. They have a lot of old school streets walkers and truck stop gals and trans too which understandably have seen the dirty of cheapbastards. They don’t speak ill or want to hurt men. They are trying to help others who get abused by clients and taken advantage of. I don’t see any conversations that make me shocked. I have a lot of sympathy if anything
That’s the twitter crowd. Social media crowd And insta baddies as they call them is a whole sub category. Like the bottle service girls or the liberty village girls or the culturally appropriating girls who go to Thailand and get arm tatoos is a trope. That’s not a good representation of all sex workers or all women. Like all of us men aren’t all the same
I can't help but think there's a little element of the rules of the fae about all this. I like having a name to call someone, or at least remember them, but the social dynamics of having someone's name are palpable.
Just an update to this (yes I'm replying to my own post, sue me):
I was with my SP the other night when out of the blue she called me into the bedroom by my first name!
I guess mystery solved. Part of the reason I was not sure was because I follow her on 3 different SM platforms and have a different fake name on each one, so it would have been understandable if she didn't know my real name.
wow..times have certainly changed, for instance, when i discovered Terb, way back when, i only sort out girls who advertised here...so when i contacted them I gave my Terb handle, but thought nothing about giving my real name....the 6/8 girls who posted here back then all knew my 1st name and i never gave it a 2nd thought
No, I don't really care to know what's real or not as long as they're showing me a reliable time in the bedroom
I didn’t read the thread, but this fucking annoys me, and at this point in my career, I would probably not see the person again if they started that kind of probing.
The name I work under is all a client will ever get.
The name I work under is all a client will ever get.
