Texting from a real number is preferred. People might be hesitant to communicate with you on a social media platform because they can have their account banned. Even platforms like x that allow for things like that can suddenly change their terms of use. And then every conversation, and every post you ever made will be used against you. There was a period of time where I was being flagged for so many posts, I didn't even know if I would still have an x account. It's still there, but every time I logged in. I was being flagged and warned for something, and I did not use it to communicate whatsoever.
I need my established social media to prove that i'm not a fly by night person. Having to start over would be awful. I personally don't communicate on social media i don't even talk to people who don't have established accounts.
I have had people on social media contact me on their best behavior because they can't say anything rude, but then when they texted me, they had the highest red flags they could possibly get and they immediately became disgusting when they got my number. That was over a year ago and I really haven't put up with any abuse since.
There have been some strange messages. Mostly drunk people and people thinking, i'm a bot. People think they can say whatever they want to a bot/scammer
I have had a person reach out through social media and everything checked out... their number checked out and then they didn't show up to their appointment. When I check their social media they had absolutely erased everything. All of their pictures and all of their followers and everyone they followed.
I have less of an issue with this because if someone wants to take the time to do all of that... they are wasting more of their time than they are of mine. They obviously spent hours trying to fake book me and wasted a little bit of my time. If someone wants to spend an entire day trying to fake book me, I think that's crazy. But at least they can only do it once. With a texting app, they can do it all day, and fake book someone ALL DAY.
Now I can see them trying to fake book me. In the last 2 days I've had five or six people that I know were going to fake book me multiple times and that's only because I've been advertising. I honestly hate that I pay money to be on these people's radar for a day or two.
It's about saving time and energy and allowing me to focus on the people that I need to focus on.
Best case scenario, someone just books an appointment and shows up but if it was as simple as getting an appointment and getting ready for an appointment and providing the service , I think everyone would do this.
People quit because of the harassment.
It's great if you're established and see all of the same people... But when you're new, or you're starting off in a different place for every one person that books you, there can be ten or twenty people that are just wasting your time and the people with the intentions to fake book waste so much time and energy. They are so much worse. Then theres the guys who ask the same questions different ways. Fake bookers sound like legitimate clients right up until the last minute... i think that's what makes them so frustrating because you have to get ready for them like you would any client and you're mentally preparing and making everything perfect and they dont show up.
I also think that people create programs to contact us as well. I had a full conversation with a bot. When it ran out of script, it started repeating the same conversation verbatim. I had a friend who's more tech Savvy than I am explain to me that anyone can create these bots and that all of the information they need to know to create it step by step is available online.
I used to think it was other girls in the area doing it, but I think everyone has better things to do. There is one specific woman I think she does actually go out of her way to do all of these things, but I also haven't been harassed by her for a very long time. People used to contact me and try and involve me in all kinds of drama. They used to tell me what other girls would say about me ect. They would try to create beef between me and other people I don't even know.
All of the issues surrounding doing this for money are basically resolved by not accepting texting apps.
So while some people do still accept texting apps, it's not in their best interests.
If you had like twenty people a day harassing you and fake booking, you and bothering you while you're at your job, saying, crazy stuff and you found a way to make sure you didn't have to deal with those people...you would use it.
So while there are legitimate people who use texting apps, I feel like there are far more people who use it that have bad intentions and if you answer them once they don't stop. One single person can pose as multiple people.
People who have broken rules and pushed boundaries and ended up on a shit list Use texting apps to harass women who refuse to see them.
A lot of people have crazy ex boyfriends. Clients that they had to let go.
People that have hurt them et cetera.
It's just not worth it. There is almost no benefit to accepting texting apps. Sure, I might miss out on a couple of clients, but the relief that I get far outweighs any financial loss.
Almost every single person that books with a real phone number shows up.
I see posts of people trying to encourgae members here to see a really good woman who is travelling... And those women are talking about not wanting to come back because of how they're treated in a certain area... That's not you guys. That's the scammers and the time wasters... That's the people using texting apps.
I saw one post several months ago about how a guy saw a woman He thought was fantastic and was encouraging other people to see her because she had been fake booked all day, and she wasn't sure if it was worth it to come back... she wasn't filtering out texting apps, so it was literally the same person or the same people fake booking her all day.
There's also, not just a cost associated with the person not showing up... There's a loss of income from choosing the person that's not going to show up over the person that was going to pay. So it's lost revenue from a person who was a legitimate client who didn't get the time slot. Because the fake booker got it. I rely heavily on repeats, so I choose repeats before I choose a new person... but if I lose someone who was planning on seeing me multiple times I didn't just lose the opportunity to make money off of them one time I lost the opportunity to see them multiple times and i'm also losing out on my free time.
When I was still accepting texting apps, I was frustrated and angry at how bad I was being treated.
I still have to take other precautions and I still filter people out past using a texting app but not allowing people to have access to me. In that way has changed my view on this type of work immensely.
I used to make a lot of money but I was so burnt out and I was so angry all the time because of how I was treated.
That's their goal is to overwhelm women.
If you give them a schedule, they want to see you before you start or they want you to stay later, then you planned on staying, and then they don't show up. They fake book all day.
It's like a full time job for them to harass women off leo's list.
* I came back and edited this because I was using speech to text*
So inquiring minds want to know, the choice to use an app is to keep things off a principle phone. Is it truly a worry what a lady will take from this? Would it even truly be worth their while? Burner or a work phone seems simpler. Furthermore there are so many other methods like Bluesky, X, or jsut email to ask your questions, arrange a date, and get the room number (heck it seems even TERB might work). Is texting just the most preferred?
