Do you ask them their real names?

SlitherBeth · Jul 10, 2026

I get a little uncomfortable when a client asks my real name; it feels like they're trying to push my professional boundaries. I do kind of consider my work persona a character that I portray (which isn't to say I don't put a lot of myself into my job/performance), but being able to take it off and leave it at the workplace is really important to me.

On my end, I find that some clients find the anonymity really hot, whereas others want to know my name, if I have any siblings, where I went to school... It just goes to show you that everyone comes to the hobby for very different and personal reasons, and wants different types of connections.

Oblaster · Jul 10, 2026

They usually don't tell me directly, but many will show me other stuff that has their real names explicitly on it. One girl showed me her side hustle where her name was part of the business name, for example "Lisa's Cafe."One showed me her prescription bottle with her full name on it. One showed me her investment portfolio, etc. We usually talk about random shit tbf.

I don't really think first names matter that much unless it's very unique. I don't understand why it matters that much to others. I give out my name freely because I don't really have anything to hide, and it's a common name.

Oblaster · Jul 10, 2026

SlitherBeth said:
I get a little uncomfortable when a client asks my real name; it feels like they're trying to push my professional boundaries. I do kind of consider my work persona a character that I portray (which isn't to say I don't put a lot of myself into my job/performance), but being able to take it off and leave it at the workplace is really important to me.

On my end, I find that some clients find the anonymity really hot, whereas others want to know my name, if I have any siblings, where I went to school... It just goes to show you that everyone comes to the hobby for very different and personal reasons, and wants different types of connections.

I've never been your client but I just ask that stuff to make conversation. It's not meant to be probing. It helps to build rapport and be more at ease with each other. People generally like talking about themselves.

asuran · Jul 10, 2026

Discretion, discretion and discretion.

DISCRETION!

We're not here for a relationship.

irfanGG · Jul 10, 2026

Mr Deeds said:
No, definitely not, getting to know personal details about a provider can lead to being involved in their personal life and that rarely ends well

Absolutely agree with this, I know it might make one sound like an asshole but it is what it is.

LTO_3 · Jul 10, 2026

Often they'll give me their name without asking. Yes I've asked their name but not always gotten it right away but usually after seeing them a few times. And in return they get my name, it's a fair trade off IMO. Never had any issues or been pushed for more appointments or any requests/demands for money. If they did that would be their last request and last appt with me.

LTO_3

drlove · Jul 10, 2026

Asking for her real name is in poor taste, imo. It will only make the SP feel uncomfortable and lead to negative outcomes. First and foremost, a lady is not going to reveal her identity to a complete stranger. There are the obvious safety factors involved, as well as the fact that a stage name provides some degree of separation mentally between work and real life.

In my experience, thinking back to my regulars - most times if you develop a strong rapport over many sessions, some of them do reveal their names, but only on their terms. In other words, they let it slip or casually mention it in conversation. To me, that’s the ultimate compliment as it means she truly feels comfortable around me. However, it should never be expected as a given.

mrcheeks · Jul 10, 2026

I usually give out my real first name. One time a regular MPA also asked me for my real last name. I was surprised. I said "Why do you have to know my real full name?! Is (I said her MPA name) your real first name?!" She thought for 5 seconds and said a name which I think is her real first name. She said it and I still didn't give her my last name. We continued on with our regular session with good service by her.

Goodoer · Jul 10, 2026

I won't even ask her real name... On my end, I'll give out my real first name in cool encounters. But I like sex workers. The same may not be true in reverse.

newguy2201 · Jul 11, 2026

I would never ask her name. I know some because as others have said, they say it in 3rd person when relating a story.

I did wonder once if the reason they call us Babe, hun, handsome etc is because they can't remember all the names.

I was thinking of asking my main what my name is and see if she panics but I'm afraid it will be awkward.

Muchadoaboutnothing · Jul 11, 2026

unassuming said:
I know a few real names,
-one SP, first time seeing her, during chit chat in session, she showed me video of her on her lap top, of her being on a tv show, and her real name was mentioned.
-another told me her real name, but she said she answers to her SP name, lol

Some I know by accident.
-while talking to an agency owner, they accidentally referred to an SP by her real name and then said you didn't hear that!
-another I found out by looking at "Model Mayhem" website, and saw her profile, it also had pics of her when she was a Sunshine Girl several times
-another , while chit chatting, she mentioned her real name while speaking in the 3rd person. she didn't even realize it and continued with conversation.
-another , saw her in the early 90's, years later, found out her real name in the news, as she was arrested for multiple counts of fraud using multiple identities to dupe men out of $$$$$$.
-another, saw a hot SP duo, a blonde and brunetten the 90's, saw their ad in the papers, found out they were rappers in a local toronto musical act, they were interview by CITY TV's The New Music.

These are all wild

irfanGG · Jul 11, 2026

mrcheeks said:
I usually give out my real first name. One time a regular MPA also asked me for my real last name. I was surprised. I said "Why do you have to know my real full name?! Is (I said her MPA name) your real first name?!" She thought for 5 seconds and said a name which I think is her real first name. She said it and I still didn't give her my last name. We continued on with our regular session with good service by her.

Kind of weird tbh, although it must have just been reactionary it's still not something that should be asked in a situation like that lol

unassuming · Jul 11, 2026

Muchadoaboutnothing said:
These are all wild

Here's another , was checking out "The Naked News" web site to check out the reporters/anchors, and saw and SP that I had seen,. She was also on an episode of "May Day" where she played an airplane passenger.

Daveboy · Jul 11, 2026

Never. I'm paying for pure, transactional sex, only.

Ryan_Coke · Jul 11, 2026

Honestly, some of the replies seem a little uptight here. If I say my name is Ryan and my actual name is Mike, what difference does it make to any of the ladies? If her escort name is Jessica and her real name is Brittany, again, what difference does it make to me? What about if you ask her name and she says another fake name, you have no way to really know if that's fake either, you just assume that she is open the second time so now you feel like an insider or something?

SlitherBeth · Jul 11, 2026

I had a co-worker that had changed her stage name to avoid a stalker, and she was really delighted that I was one of the first people making an effort to switch to her new handle. I have a lots of trans friends, so in my mind, your name is whatever you want to be called.

I know some of my clients' names, but only because they volunteered them (although I suppose they may have lied). Some people really value that point of connection, and I'll make an effort to remember and personalize the experience.

I seem to remember a movie series about an archaeology professor who gave his slutsona a separate name and went on adventures. Have you guys ever seen Indiana Jones?

HoneyBadger · Jul 11, 2026

I typically ask their name and then their home address, blood type, mother's maiden name... Damn, hell no. Why ask their real name? It's the first step toward trying to make a connection that is real in a world that doesn't exist. I'm having relations with a lady that is half my age and out of my league because, why? I'm charming, handsome and funny? No it's about the bottom line. $$$ This world requires the suspension of disbelief. Like watching ET riding a bicycle in the sky. You know it's not real, but you set aside your skeptical view to enjoy the moment. Don't ask their name and don't try to make it real. Enjoy it for what it is. Just one man's advice which you can take or leave.

Radar1956 · Jul 11, 2026

I saw a girl at a local agency a few times. Really enjoyed my sessions with her. She disappeared from the roster so I moved on. A few months later I was purchasing something at the local Bay and guess who my cashier was. My old favourite with a name tag on. We both smiled at each other but no words were exchanged. Haven’t seen her in years unfortunately.

luvyeah · Jul 11, 2026

Radar1956 said:
I saw a girl at a local agency a few times. Really enjoyed my sessions with her. She disappeared from the roster so I moved on. A few months later I was purchasing something at the local Bay and guess who my cashier was. My old favourite with a name tag on. We both smiled at each other but no words were exchanged. Haven’t seen her in years unfortunately.

Similar situation, but ended up meeting some friends for dinner, I was the last to get to the table and lo and behold the waitress was introduced; someone I'd seen 3 times the previous month. Luckily we were on good terms and more importantly it was some only some guys friends and not the girlfriend. They knew something was up. Only consequence of this is she texted me later that evening 'when do i get to see you again?'

crossing a pay2play gyal in the wild has been a fear, and i'm not sure how i feel. i wanna see her blowing me again, but not at a restaurant crossing into my personal life.

chatink · Jul 11, 2026

In the early days of hobbying, I got sucked into this knowing her real name, her situation and family, and it just complicated my life and didnt end well.

After that I go only for one reason. Its just purely transactional. If the chemistry works out and a connection is there, I repeat multiple times. Thats the best I can do. Other than that, I dont want to know anything about her or her life, as its not needed in this setting. It worked for me really well for both sides.

You dont look for friendship in this. You are there for one and only reason. If you follow this principle, hobby is beautiful

Do you ask them their real names?

Assuming you like the girl, do you enjoy knowing the girl’s real first name?

Yes as soon as possible

Yes but only after a few good sessions

Happy to know more about her but don’t want her name

Want to know as little as possible about her “real” life

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