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Is There Such a Thing as the Perfect Fit?

Endurance2024

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I've often heard—and read from providers in the industry—that penis size isn't nearly as important as knowing how to use it.

That got me wondering if we've oversimplified the conversation.

From my own experience, I have an above-average girthy package. Sometimes that's been an issue—not because of performance, but because comfort and physical fit become factors. With some ladies there's no problem at all. With others, getting comfortable takes time, and occasionally it just isn't an ideal match. On the flip side, there have also been times where I felt I wasn't long enough to fully match someone's anatomy.

It made me think about compatibility in general.

Imagine cultures where premarital sex isn't allowed or where marriages are arranged. On the wedding night, both people are essentially hoping they're physically compatible without ever having known beforehand.

One of the unexpected things this hobby has allowed me to explore is whether there really is such a thing as a "perfect fit." Not in terms of beauty or chemistry, but simply physical compatibility. It has convinced me that anatomy varies more than people admit, and sometimes two people just fit together better than others.

So I'm curious what others think.

Is "size doesn't matter" mostly true, or is it more accurate to say that size matters less than compatibility? Have you found that certain partners were simply a better physical match than others?
 
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I think complimentary physical dimensions matter a lot more than penis size, per se. There are some clients I struggle to ride because the wide girth of their belly limits the positions we can try, or other people whose thighs are either way longer or shorter than mine, which makes doggy-style uncomfortable.

Vaginas are pretty elastic, so unless a fellow's girth or length are really extreme, I seldom have trouble accommodating. But you're right, there is something to be said for complimentary dimensions. For instance, I sometimes get really excited when a client has a curved penis, because that's the shape me sensitive g-spot loves! I can also imagine that a very muscular vagina (shout-out to women who do their daily Kegels!) can make someone who's sensitive about their modest dimensions feel bigger and more virile.
 

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I've often heard—and read from providers in the industry—that penis size isn't nearly as important as knowing how to use it.

That got me wondering if we've oversimplified the conversation.

From my own experience, I have an above-average girthy package. Sometimes that's been an issue—not because of performance, but because comfort and physical fit become factors. With some ladies there's no problem at all. With others, getting comfortable takes time, and occasionally it just isn't an ideal match. On the flip side, there have also been times where I felt I wasn't long enough to fully match someone's anatomy.

It made me think about compatibility in general.

Imagine cultures where premarital sex isn't allowed or where marriages are arranged. On the wedding night, both people are essentially hoping they're physically compatible without ever having known beforehand.

One of the unexpected things this hobby has allowed me to explore is whether there really is such a thing as a "perfect fit." Not in terms of beauty or chemistry, but simply physical compatibility. It has convinced me that anatomy varies more than people admit, and sometimes two people just fit together better than others.

So I'm curious what others think.

Is "size doesn't matter" mostly true, or is it more accurate to say that size matters less than compatibility? Have you found that certain partners were simply a better physical match than others?
FIT matters, but that doesn't mean much if its tied to a vapid woman, and I'm busy enough to no really care that much about it unless its way off shape.
 
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I think complimentary physical dimensions matter a lot more than penis size, per se. There are some clients I struggle to ride because the wide girth of their belly limits the positions we can try, or other people whose thighs are either way longer or shorter than mine, which makes doggy-style uncomfortable.

Vaginas are pretty elastic, so unless a fellow's girth or length are really extreme, I seldom have trouble accommodating. But you're right, there is something to be said for complimentary dimensions. For instance, I sometimes get really excited when a client has a curved penis, because that's the shape me sensitive g-spot loves! I can also imagine that a very muscular vagina (shout-out to women who do their daily Kegels!) can make someone who's sensitive about their modest dimensions feel bigger and more virile.
I had knee replacement about 6 months ago, and it's still somewhat sensitive in certain positions. I can't do doggy unless I'm standing, I just can't lean on my knees and do it. I'm also 6'5 so even before the knee surgery, sometimes doggy was a mismatch anyway. I also have a large frame, I wear 40-42 waist pants to give an idea, so sometimes she has trouble riding me for any length of time because her hips get sore. I also tend to last forever now which was never the case up until a few years ago, so that makes it more difficult to finish inside. If she can squat over me and ride me that way, we have the best luck, but if she straddles me with her shins down on the bed, it's likely going to be an issue after a few minutes. Especially the more petite Asian women I often like to see. But they can usually squat and go at it pretty hard and fast and finish me in a few minutes too.
 

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Oh! Penis size does play a bigger factor in buttsex, though. The larger my partner's dick, the more time, trust,TLC and lube I need. Another thing that I've noticed among very well endowed men is that since it takes a lot of fluid to bring him to attention, sometimes his erection can be a bit precarious. For anal penetration the bum needs to be very horny and happy, and my partner has to be rock hard, two conditions that don't always occur together.
 

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On the matter of the Hump-a-Bum-a-Rumba dance. I have taken a few previously uncharted butts. Fiona ( from Dundee ) was my first virgin butt that I conquered. She told me there were previous attempts that were aborted due to extreme pain. I sent the Sgt. Major and the two privates on their mission. I eased into to her micro thrust by micro thrust. millimeter by millimeter. Once in, the thrusting was only done gently by the loose skin. There was no moaning or complaints during the deed, when were were done she said it went much better than she thought it would go.
There can be perils associated with this activity, if there is a missile in the silo you can accidently activate the launch sequence. I had an experience where the woman had cramps and grabbed her stomach as she launched. Luckily there was a waste paper basket near by. In my younger days women did not allow anal sex that often, these days it seems half the women I have been with will do it. Experienced women have no trouble accommodating back door activities. I have encountered a few women that were quite loose, I just salute and march right in, eyes right. No hands needed.

 

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My favourite lady doesn't do anal professionally, but she was recently telling me she was planning to do it with her new-ish boyfriend. She had never done it before, he was just out of a marriage and used to do it with his wife. So she was telling me of their trip to the sex store and all the stuff they bought. She told him "If I'm prepping my butthole with all this stuff, so are you" lol. She showed me the bag of stuff when I was visiting that night and I think my ass puckered even more than usual lol. I saw her a couple times since and she didn't offer up the story if they have done it yet, and I honestly wasn't sure if I wanted to hear how it went lol.
 
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Another thing that I've noticed among very well endowed men is that since it takes a lot of fluid to bring him to attention, sometimes his erection can be a bit precarious.
I'll remember to use that as my excuse next time it's more softwood rather than oak lol.
 
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Endurance2024

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FIT matters, but that doesn't mean much if its tied to a vapid woman, and I'm busy enough to no really care that much about it unless its way off shape.
I agree with you about the enthusiasm .. it has to be there. Just think a perfect fit will enhance the romp for both.
 
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You are suggesting thoughts regarding the so-called "perfect fit" from the physical perspective, but to me it is not easy to consider that in isolation from the mental fit, and the "intangibles"!

If I had to pick something I would agree with "size matters less than compatibility" because looks like the more "general" statement to me, but again difficult to separate all the layers IMO.

Interesting though :unsure:
 

Endurance2024

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I've noticed a lot, especially during this heat wave, of sudden loss of wood due to dehydration. Blood is a fluid, and your boner needs it! Drink your Gatorade!
With familiarity of repeat clients .. and he has an off day with a softy is he confirming your theory of lack of fluid intake? Now you got me wondering..
 

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Build a connection with a SP/group ofSPs over a period of time and watch/feel how fast the blood flows to the southern head. It does take time but the risk reward is def. worth it.
 

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Build a connection with a SP/group ofSPs over a period of time and watch/feel how fast the blood flows to the southern head. It does take time but the risk reward is def. worth it.
I actually find the opposite is true now for me. SP's that I have seen a lot recently are the ladies I end up having more softies happening with. 2 in particular that I see the most, I have genuine affection for and I take a cialis as well, and I still end up with the hard and soft cycle going on during the session. I'm completely comfortable with these women, I'm not shy with them about my very much less than perfect body, I don't feel out of my league (even though I am lol) or intimidated when I'm with these women. But then I go see someone new and I tend to be hard from the get go,
 
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