No I am not in love with a SP, so don't even assume that.
Story:
I met this girl about 5 months ago at a boardsgame event through a mutual friend. Didn’t really talk much to her at the event but our group went to the pub afterwards where we started talking. We had chemistry right off the bat. We joked, laughed, and were touching each other right off the bat. In addition to that we began talking about some deep stuff and appeared we shared a lot of values (I.e. goals, views on religion, politics, culture, etc). That’s when I first got hooked. I asked for her number immediately after we were all leaving the pub and she gave it to me enthusiastically and even said “so you’re going to text me right?”. Now I don’t know what happened but something about this girl just made me infatuated with her right off the bat. This was the very first time I had ever felt this way about a girl. Not even girls I’ve hooked up with have made me feel such a way. It’s like this cloud of emotions oozed out of her and grabbed me by the neck.
We exchanged some short texts over the next few days which led to me asking her out. This is where delays of doom begin. She simply just stopped texting me. I then by some magic ran into her in person where she got flustered and started saying that she forgot to text me but that she won’t be able to make the date because she’s going to a show with her dad. I simply accepted the situation and just assumed that’s a soft rejection. I was crushed but I managed. Shit you not, about an hour two later she messaged saying that she apologizes for taking so long but said she should be good the week after (same day). At that point I was ecstatic because she suggested another day so I thought we’re good. Now, next week came and I sent a follow up to confirm the date, but again no response for a full 4 days. The night before the scheduled date she ends up messaging me Thanking me for the invite and how she would’ve loved to go but as of recent she started seeing someone and has to decline at that particular moment.
Again I was in shambles. Over the next 5 months I would still end up seeing her in group setting because we were starting to become part of the same social circle. Things would simply get worse for me because I knew the only reason I was going to these group hangouts was for her. I would simply start liking her even more after each interaction. Now, not so long ago, I saw her at this social Gala event where we were sitted at the same table. I could notice this entire time that she had a very quiet sad look to her very unusual of herself. It turned out that she had broken up with her ex. We started talking and she especially, started talking a whole lot more with me. She even said hey I’ve been meaning to message you to grab some food. Again, I knew where this shit was going to go but I accepted.
When I got back home from the gala event I texted her and this time she enthusiastically and very quickly gave me her availability and we finally went on a date. The date was good. She was doing a lot of the talking which I felt was good because she had gotten comfortable and was opening up. Like always we had amazing conversation and started even connecting on some emotional experiences. There was some small physical escalation but no sex. I walked her back to her place as a gentlemen and she thanked me for the night and said let’s do it again and that she would be available first week of June. She then told me to text her when I get home and so that’s what I did. Now again, she did not respond immediately. I didn’t think much of it that night since it was late. She took 2 days to respond where she said “Hey thank you again for such a lovely evening, I would be down to do it again soon”. I texted her about a day later and that was the final text sent. It has been nearly 3 weeks since that final text. I sent another follow up first week of June where she said she would be available but nothing. Someone who I got to know across 5 months (with much of it through friends) ghosted me.
Ive been ghosted plenty of times. Ive been rejected a decent number of times. It has never happened in such a scenario where I was completely infatuated with the girl. These past 3 weeks have been some of the most painful weeks I’ve experienced emotionally. I thought distracting myself with this hobby and other shit in my life like work and social hangouts would help me Get over her but it doesn’t. Especially with how it ended. The crazy part is I didn’t even have sex with her and I already feel like I have an emotional connection. As for why she stopped responding? I have no clue, it could be literally anything. She could’ve met someone else. The ex could’ve returned. She could’ve become uninterested. She‘s an avoidant. Whatever the ducking reason it doesn’t matter, her intentions are clear. I’m not sure what I’m trying to get with this post, but I guess I’m just venting. All I have been doing is venting but this shit just doesn’t go away.
Story:
I met this girl about 5 months ago at a boardsgame event through a mutual friend. Didn’t really talk much to her at the event but our group went to the pub afterwards where we started talking. We had chemistry right off the bat. We joked, laughed, and were touching each other right off the bat. In addition to that we began talking about some deep stuff and appeared we shared a lot of values (I.e. goals, views on religion, politics, culture, etc). That’s when I first got hooked. I asked for her number immediately after we were all leaving the pub and she gave it to me enthusiastically and even said “so you’re going to text me right?”. Now I don’t know what happened but something about this girl just made me infatuated with her right off the bat. This was the very first time I had ever felt this way about a girl. Not even girls I’ve hooked up with have made me feel such a way. It’s like this cloud of emotions oozed out of her and grabbed me by the neck.
We exchanged some short texts over the next few days which led to me asking her out. This is where delays of doom begin. She simply just stopped texting me. I then by some magic ran into her in person where she got flustered and started saying that she forgot to text me but that she won’t be able to make the date because she’s going to a show with her dad. I simply accepted the situation and just assumed that’s a soft rejection. I was crushed but I managed. Shit you not, about an hour two later she messaged saying that she apologizes for taking so long but said she should be good the week after (same day). At that point I was ecstatic because she suggested another day so I thought we’re good. Now, next week came and I sent a follow up to confirm the date, but again no response for a full 4 days. The night before the scheduled date she ends up messaging me Thanking me for the invite and how she would’ve loved to go but as of recent she started seeing someone and has to decline at that particular moment.
Again I was in shambles. Over the next 5 months I would still end up seeing her in group setting because we were starting to become part of the same social circle. Things would simply get worse for me because I knew the only reason I was going to these group hangouts was for her. I would simply start liking her even more after each interaction. Now, not so long ago, I saw her at this social Gala event where we were sitted at the same table. I could notice this entire time that she had a very quiet sad look to her very unusual of herself. It turned out that she had broken up with her ex. We started talking and she especially, started talking a whole lot more with me. She even said hey I’ve been meaning to message you to grab some food. Again, I knew where this shit was going to go but I accepted.
When I got back home from the gala event I texted her and this time she enthusiastically and very quickly gave me her availability and we finally went on a date. The date was good. She was doing a lot of the talking which I felt was good because she had gotten comfortable and was opening up. Like always we had amazing conversation and started even connecting on some emotional experiences. There was some small physical escalation but no sex. I walked her back to her place as a gentlemen and she thanked me for the night and said let’s do it again and that she would be available first week of June. She then told me to text her when I get home and so that’s what I did. Now again, she did not respond immediately. I didn’t think much of it that night since it was late. She took 2 days to respond where she said “Hey thank you again for such a lovely evening, I would be down to do it again soon”. I texted her about a day later and that was the final text sent. It has been nearly 3 weeks since that final text. I sent another follow up first week of June where she said she would be available but nothing. Someone who I got to know across 5 months (with much of it through friends) ghosted me.
Ive been ghosted plenty of times. Ive been rejected a decent number of times. It has never happened in such a scenario where I was completely infatuated with the girl. These past 3 weeks have been some of the most painful weeks I’ve experienced emotionally. I thought distracting myself with this hobby and other shit in my life like work and social hangouts would help me Get over her but it doesn’t. Especially with how it ended. The crazy part is I didn’t even have sex with her and I already feel like I have an emotional connection. As for why she stopped responding? I have no clue, it could be literally anything. She could’ve met someone else. The ex could’ve returned. She could’ve become uninterested. She‘s an avoidant. Whatever the ducking reason it doesn’t matter, her intentions are clear. I’m not sure what I’m trying to get with this post, but I guess I’m just venting. All I have been doing is venting but this shit just doesn’t go away.
