My question for you is, how do you know this? How do you know that escorts are exploiting a vulnerability using deceit, and that this isn't the narrative you've been told by certain guys you talk to online? I'm not saying that everyone in the sex industry is the same person and I know some don't have the best intentions. I think ultimately, many girls also get exploited by clients and it's unfair to just say we're the villains in these situations. I know a few escorts who were seduced by clients and ended up dating them, only to be in an abusive dynamic and no longer having a source of income.
Also, sometimes clients are just plain delusional. I've often met clients who called their sugar babies, escorts they were seeing and strippers they paid to hang out with ''their girlfriends''. A common thread between a few of these stories is that these women wanted out of the industry, and were offered a very minimal income to hang out with these men on a regular basis. I've also heard a lot of men say that ''there was ambiguity'' and they were taken advantage of and heart broken by a sex worker who ''blurred lines'', but often in my experience clients are the ones who start pushing for these blurred lines.. Someone told me they love me they other day. What am I supposed to say to that? Did I lead him to believe it was reciprocal? Absolutely not. I am just good at what I do, and it's not my fault if someone is confused by that.
There is someone above who say we ''get addicted to princess treatment'' meanwhile ''men in our personal lives treat us like shit''. That is BECAUSE what he views as princess treatment is a fantasy that guys are willing to pay for and indulge in, even if some clients don't get this. ''Treating a hot girl like a princess'' is actually a kink that some guys have, they are doing it for themselves. The dinner dates, gifts, champagne and all of that only are there because it's a fantasy and they are perks of a job that ultimately take a lot more energy and skills to do than most clients will ever understand. We know very well that the vast majority of people won't treat somebody they are dating like this. That's also why the client-provider relationship becoming romantic may not work..
If while escorting I met a really wealthy guy who can afford taking me on dates and helping me make my life a bit easier, and started dating him outside of it and not being paid officially.. I would be really weirded out if suddenly as a power move he decided to just be cheap with me. This is also something that has happened when I tried to date a client before. When I told him he didn't have to pay me anymore and he wasn't my client, at first he was super sweet, took me on car rides, took me out to eat, asked me how I was doing.. I'm not saying he was spending thousands of dollars on me, but he was acting in a way that you'd want someone you are starting to date, to act. Yet he stopped acting that way very fast. Eventually I was the one paying his meals when I saw him, and he just started taking everything out on me.. his frustration with work, with his social life etc. I was barely considered anymore and he expressed resentment for having done all of this for me in the first place, which is really unfair.
I think a lot of men don't realize that while it's easy for women to find sex and short term relationships, it's actually really hard to meet somebody who will treat you well and want to stick around. As a woman I'm not asking for all kinds of superficial criteria like the person being rich and looking like a 6' tall super model with a giant dick, a huge house and a luxury car. Most of us want someone who we have things in common with, someone we're attracted to, who we will connect with emotionally and who will actually be kind to us and try to understand. On dating apps, sure I can find guys who want hook ups.. They may or may not be honest about it, many of them are not. But the vast majority of the time these guys want to go to the park with a cheap beer, they don't want a relationship and they don't want anything other than sex. So it's understandable that some escorts find comfort in being well treated and even spoiled by their clients.. Just remember that there is a lot of work behind it. A teacher who gets Christmas presents from her student worked very hard. Even if she got expensive perfume and makeup and candy from her students, she isn't working for the gifts, these are perks.
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