How to be more charismatic

Charles Barkley has so much charisma he helped a Democrat win in Alabama.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/FvgXfscfgEc

You can't learn it or teach it. You either have it or you don't

Mr Deeds said:

You can't learn it or teach it. You either have it or you don't

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Disagree. Some people have it naturally, but everyone can learn, just like people can learn to be more confident or less irritable.

I don't claim to be an expert but part of my journey over the last 6 months since I started seeing escorts is to be more charismatic.

What I am starting to see is for me anyways, I have always tried too hard to be liked. I would go out of my way to be agreeable with women (and others but mostly women) in the hopes that if they like me and think I'm nice, they will want to date me.

When really, people who are charismatic are who they are. They have their own opinions that they stand behind. They don't chase or try to be liked, but arent a holes either

I am trying to learn to be more like that in my day to day life. Not afraid to disagree (politely), tease a little to make things fun and interesting.

If it creates attraction it does, and if it does not, at least I didn't have to work for it.

There's such a thing as negative charisma. When you be yourself, and find you're ignored, sidelined and forgotten. But you don't understand why. You have no idea what you need to do to fix it, to fit in, to do what seems to come so easily to others.

You may find some answers in this book
The Art of Seduction

mmouse said:

There's such a thing as negative charisma. When you be yourself, and find you're ignored, sidelined and forgotten. But you don't understand why. You have no idea what you need to do to fix it, to fit in, to do what seems to come so easily to others.

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That happen to me, then I figured out why, who, when and how it happened. Changed the clown energy to become way better. If you believe in "there must be will and a way to do it", then you will find that will and way to resolve your blockages. Then you will find peace of mind.

You have it backwards

Charisma is the set of behaviors that create social influence.

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No, social influence creates charisma.

Some people who would make great leaders cannot become one because they do not feel like leaders to others IE they do not have charisma

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No, leadership creates charisma.

You need to fumble your way though gaining leadership, social influence, and some kind of status or self worth before you can genuinely have charisma. Only idiots are affected by faked charisma.

Having high charisma will reduce shop prices and open new conversation paths with some NPCs.

Jacques Paganel said:

You may find some answers in this book
The Art of Seduction

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Thank you for reminding us that psychobabble nonsense existed before AI made it even easier to disseminate.

From the book published about 25 years ago.

“Norma Jean Mortensen, the future Marilyn Monroe, spent part of her

childhood in Los Angeles orphanages. Her days were filled with

chores and no play. At school, she kept to herself, smiled rarely, and

dreamed a lot. One day when she was thirteen, as she was dressing for

school, she noticed that the white blouse the orphanage provided for her

was torn, so she had to borrow a sweater from a younger girl in the house.

The sweater was several sizes too small. That day, suddenly, boys seemed to

gather around her wherever she went (she was extremely well-developed

for her age). She wrote in her diary, ’They stared at my sweater as if it were

a gold mine.‘ The revelation was simple but startling.”

Yes, Norma Jean, it was both simple and startling. If you have large breasts and show most of those breasts to those interested in fondling them, you are seductive by definition. Everything else is just fluff and cannot be replicated by an unattractive woman. There is no art of seduction without the necessary canvas and the public display of the art.

Though money is to be made trying to convince both men and women otherwise. It has always been that way, and it probably always will be.

I think you either have it or you don't. It helps if you're good looking as people gravitate towards a pretty face. A good looking person and an ugly person can say the same thing and people will respond to the good looking person. It's just biology.

newguy2201 said:

Disagree. Some people have it naturally, but everyone can learn, just like people can learn to be more confident or less irritable.

I don't claim to be an expert but part of my journey over the last 6 months since I started seeing escorts is to be more charismatic.

What I am starting to see is for me anyways, I have always tried too hard to be liked. I would go out of my way to be agreeable with women (and others but mostly women) in the hopes that if they like me and think I'm nice, they will want to date me.

When really, people who are charismatic are who they are. They have their own opinions that they stand behind. They don't chase or try to be liked, but arent a holes either

I am trying to learn to be more like that in my day to day life. Not afraid to disagree (politely), tease a little to make things fun and interesting.

If it creates attraction it does, and if it does not, at least I didn't have to work for it.

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Confidence and a little bit of Narcissism. Imposing physical stature and intelligence help to. You dont need to be born with charisma. It definitely can be learned. But one thing for sure, if your only quality is that you’re a nice guy, You will always lose on the charisma scale.