Hey guys, please don't share terb DM info with the providers...

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xmontrealer

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A month or so ago I received a lot of DM's requesting info about a lady I recommended.

I replied in significant detail, though all within terb limits.

I saw that lady again recently, and she told me that a guy, who told her he is my "friend", apprised her of many of the specific details that I had told him in reply to his DM to me asking for details.

IMO THAT SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN!

I have no regular friends who are terb members, and I don't discuss my hobbying adventures with my regular friends.

I have to say I will now be reluctant to share any more than the very basic details about any lady in response to any similar DM requests for info.

Too bad it has to be that way...

Also, I would appreciate if the guy involved would step up and DM me an apology, as I'm guessing he will read this post.
 
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It wasn't me. But I always knew there are many simps like this that use info for " name dropping' or "status circles" or ""Stupid Show OFF"", which they have empty body or loneliness.

There have been many clowns like this here, asking for details especially in the Sugar Dating Thread. So they can use it for their disillusion fantasy story.

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I’m sorry this happened…

But… it takes three to tango (in this case).

Be careful sharing provider info in DMs. There’s always a risk of misrepresentation even if it’s not done with any malicious intent.

Details that are meant to promote an SP could in fact be doing her a disservice, i.e., by setting certain expectations that should fall under YMMV.

If I’m close enough to an SP to care for her well being, you can be sure that I’ll funnel any feedback I get from gents on this forum to that SP. I generally believe the interests of SPs override those of johns. Sorry in advance.

Finally, the fact that the SP closed the loop by telling OP what happened could be her hint that OP should be a bit more circumspect.
 
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I’m really confused, why did he have to claim to be your friend ?

& show off ? About what loll ?

“she did this for me, not for anyone else though” type of thing ?
 
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iceberglemon said:
I’m sorry this happened…

But… it takes three to tango (in this case).

Be careful sharing provider info in DMs. There’s always a risk of misrepresentation even if it’s not done with any malicious intent

Details that are meant to promote an SP could in fact be doing her a disservice, i.e., by setting certain expectations that should fall under YMMV.

If I’m close enough to an SP to care for her well being, you can be sure that I’ll funnel any feedback I get from gents on this forum to that SP. I generally believe the interests of SPs override those of johns. Sorry in advance.

Finally, the fact that the SP closed the loop by telling OP what happened could be her hint that OP should be a bit more circumspect.
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Agreed on all counts.
 
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This is why I won't write reviews or details about my encounters.

There was a specific provider who wanted me to choke her. I had never done it before. She was clearly turned on from me doing it so I kept doing it.

I was gonna write about it then I realized....hold up, what if someone random doesn't ask and chokes her to death or freaks her out. Sounds insane but I'm guessing we are all old enough to have seen/heard bad stories throughout life.
 
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Sa10 said:
I’m really confused, why did he have to claim to be your friend ?

& show off ? About what loll ?

“she did this for me, not for anyone else though” type of thing ?
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The bar for being a “friend” is low in this age of social media…

In all likelihood, he was a) trying to score brownie points/get better service, and/or b) being obnoxiously loud just because he could.

There’s also a chance he was doing it altruistically to actually tell the SP what people were saying in private channels, for her benefit.
 
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Night1337 said:
This is why I won't write reviews or details about my encounters.

There was a specific provider who wanted me to choke her. I had never done it before. She was clearly turned on from me doing it so I kept doing it.

I was gonna write about it then I realized....hold up, what if someone random doesn't ask and chokes her to death or freaks her out. Sounds insane but I'm guessing we are all old enough to have seen/heard bad stories throughout life.
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I think reviews should be reigned in. Giving a simple few lines of yes she’s good , provided services and hygiene was on par or the opposite if that’s true and leave it at that. Giving super detailed soft porn encounter stories are harmful and can compromise a sps privacy and safety. The rest is just inflated egotistical nonsense.
 
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iceberglemon said:
The bar for being a “friend” is low in this age of social media…

In all likelihood, he was a) trying to score brownie points/get better service, and/or b) being obnoxiously loud just because he could.

There’s also a chance he was doing it altruistically to actually tell the SP what people were saying in private channels, for her benefit.
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I think, in retrospect, he was trying to make sure he at least got the same services from her that I did.

Not that there was anything exceptional mentioned in my DM to him.
 
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I have always been a bit reluctant to share graphic details in public posts, and also in DMs, although I admit to being a bit more open in DMs sometimes

But my primary care and concern is always for the girls I see rather than the guys on here. Sometimes someone asks for info on a provider and if they are super new or I don't like the way they talk about providers in general, I'll decline any recommendations to them

This just validates what I always felt. Common sense is not so common and some of the guys on here are not the sharpest tools in the shed

I had one new guy DM me once because he knew I saw someone he wanted to see. His first 2 messages were innocent enough general questions

The third (and final) one was "hey man I know this sounds weird but can you go into graphic detail about the things you did with her"

I mean, what???
 
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Forgot to mention, somewhere on this board there is a mod message about telling guys you got some special treatment from a woman.

Something about a guy who said a girl gave him Greek and them she got bombarded with requests for Greek

I can see how that could happen so we all need to be smarter
 
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xmontrealer said:
A month or so ago I received a lot of DM's requesting info about a lady I recommended.

I replied in significant detail, though all within terb limits.

I saw that lady again recently, and she told me that a guy, who told her he is my "friend", apprised her of many of the specific details that I had told him in reply to his DM to me asking for details.

IMO THAT SHOULD NEVER HAPPEN!

I have no regular friends who are terb members, and I don't discuss my hobbying adventures with my regular friends.

I have to say I will now be reluctant to share any more than the very basic details about any lady in response to any similar DM requests for info.

Too bad it has to be that way...

Also, I would appreciate if the guy involved would step up and DM me an apology, as I'm guessing he will read this post.
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I am sorry this happened to you.

I never understood this dm system in the first place. Asking a pure stranger, that could as well be an horrible client, have a chip on their shoulder or straight up be a pimp to give you infos for your own safety....
 
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In DMs I never share specific Information that can trace the convo back to me.
I only share what the provider shares openly as services offered and the only thing I comment on is if she is reliable etc.,
Never ever share specifics of your sessions with anyone. Which is another reason I don't write reviews.
 
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