Ever Have Feelings for a SW?

Clement950

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First, I'd like to just open this with, apologies if this is the wrong place to talk about it. Not a clue where to post this.

Second, this isn't just a normal horny feeling thing, but literally based on compatibility for a future with said people.

I will start off by saying I have met and been greeted by many amazing SW over the past few years of doing this. I would not call this a hobby I frequent. I have had one previous account on here with a few reputable reviews, but asked for the account to be deleted. Came back because originally I was hoping to see someone again for their well being as a SW as I had a pleasant conversation and she extended our time to actually talk about her woes. That person has since retired and I have tried reaching out a few times through social media and whatever to make sure she is okay. This is not the person I had feelings for, based on the title of this thread.

Over the years there was another SW that I genuinely liked and she retired. It was not a horny thing at all that made me like her, but during the session I saw a look in her eyes. Now many of you might think, they just act man, but this was not a look or act. This was real emotions, genuine connection, and more. I have seen and felt many things, and vibes are a real thing when you meet people. I often do think of this person knowing full well I might never be able to connect with this person ever again, but I hope they are around, I hope they are well, and I hope they are loved too.

Am I crazy for thinking this way? Perhaps. But, the question is, have you ever felt this way? Was it ever pursued? Did it lead to anything more?

To the SW who work as well: I would imagine it's flattering, but does it come off as creepy or do you too also share that same feelings too, but choose not to due to them being clients?
 
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Clement950

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Extremely creepy. What you are feeling is called limerence, and is extremely common amoungst guys in this hobby, particularly those who dont have a dating life outside of this
I have never heard of limerence before. Thanks for that. I just quickly looked it up. I guess I need to really think about if it is love or limerence. I guess this happens often. Having said that there is genuine care for these people aside from sex and wanting to be with them. Heck, I would settle for a friendship outside this. Did not think there would be a term other than love and care for this.
 

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Yes. It's not ideal for a number of reasons. Especially if it's **somewhat** reciprocated by the girl, it can be very confusing.

It also can be surprisingly hard if she leaves the industry. I'm sort of dealing with this now, my favourite sp left and I really miss her.
 

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Context is everything and without fully understanding the context (i.e., being in your shoes and experiencing what you have experienced), it’s hard to provide a definitive answer. So avoid reading too much into responses to your post that contain presumptions from the respondents. Every situation is unique.

That said, the odds are likely not in your favour if you are looking for some sort of resolution to your “feelings”, and letting things go could be the most pragmatic recommendation. Have you tried to let time (and the distractions of other SPs) do its thing?
 

Clement950

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Why did you originally quit? Around what age are you and how many real relationships have you had not counting seeing SW?
I do not frequent the hobby. I stopped due to illnesses. Relationships, I've had a few. Age, I won't disclose. There are urges to do the hobby however with very select individuals. I'm picky.

Context is everything and without fully understanding the context (i.e., being in your shoes and experiencing what you have experienced), it’s hard to provide a definitive answer. So avoid reading too much into responses to your post that contain presumptions from the respondents. Every situation is unique.

That said, the odds are likely not in your favour if you are looking for some sort of resolution to your “feelings”, and letting things go could be the most pragmatic recommendation. Have you tried to let time (and the distractions of other SPs) do its thing?
I guess for context would be that she saw through me and when she inquired about said things she kept probing and even answered a few things. For her privacy and my own, I won't disclose, but maybe it's my past relationships that never compared even prior to her and even afterwards? All relationships ended amicably, and still talk to some still.

I have let much time pass. But as one of the guys stated, it could very well be limerence. I'll reflect on this for a bit to think on it.
 
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Some people have a need to love. Some people have a need to be loved. Some people don't need love.

No one is ever 'in love' with someone unless the feelings are mutually felt, and that is statistically rare. Sex and love are two completely different things which sometimes co-exist. The men and women who thrive mentally in 'this business ' are those who have little trouble distinguishing between one and the other.
 

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I've copped a few.....
 

Canadiandude

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If you get attached or catch feelings easily then this hobby really isn’t for you. For one majority of sps have husbands/kids or boyfriends/partners so they’re obviously not in it to find love and neither should you if we’re being honest. Friendships and connections can happen, I have regulars I’ve built great connections with. Not as in we talk or see each other personally but in the way when I see them the energy and time together is always amazing. This hobby is meant to be a fun temporary release for guys don’t know why some think of it as more. If your an emotional person and get attached easy than find a girlfriend outside of this but don’t burden the sps with your issues let them do their job.
 
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This is similar to the multiple threads started by the guy with a handle something like 'Takshi'; many of you will know who I mean. He's the guy who wants to marry one of his favorite Escorts, so he can have her all to himself.

Perhaps some of you share THIS trait with me: I'll spend money to have sex with women who would never consider me in civilian life. I'm paying to have their undivided attention for as long as the meter is running. My civvie standards are lower.
 
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MiguelRojas

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I have caught feelings for the girl and I've had girls be attached to me too. Late night calls, all day texts. It feels nice at first until it's not.

Feelings become mutual after some point but diverge like a "K graph". I prefer to remain independent and experience as many woman as I can on my own terms. Sometimes once a week and sometimes 4 difference ones a day.

Getting attached with anything usually result in disappointment.
 
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There are many, many threads on this topic. Search for “feelings” or “fallen” etc. in summary.
1. Do guys develop feelings for escorts, of course they do, but it’s almost always ill advised.
2. Do escorts ever fall for clients? Sure sometimes, but it’s super rare.
3. Could you develop a relationship with my fave escort? No. Exceedingly unlikely and unless you have a crystal clear green light from her (ie she wants to date you off the clock, and you are no longer a client, you are now a problem for her. A guy with a crush will suck up her time, which is money, her emotional energy, and occasionally guys that become too attached can be a risk to their safety.
4. Even if such a relationship were created, how would you handle her line of work? Most guys to not have the ability to balance the feelings of
Love and attachment with potential jealousy. You need iron clad self assuredness/ confidence and trustin the relationship for this to work.

As I’ve said in many other similar threads, it’s just as bad to use the services of SW to fill voids in your life or your self worth as it is to use alcohol or drugs for that reason. See escorts for a fun escape, to get some needed intimacy, and even some temporary companionship with a nice deep conversation. But leave it behind as a memory when you leave.

Many of our SW friends here are amazing at making a guy feel desired, important, wanted, in addition to just the sex stuff. Thats what a good sp does. That’s what I personally look for in a regular girl even. However, it’s not real. I’ve met many girls who are lovely, sweet, caring and intelligent individuals, but we are still provider - client. I’ve grown to know girls who I care about, and have a “warm friendly relationship with” but it’s still a business arrangement. Many of those girls do care for their clients too, but didn’t get into escorting to find love.
 

onomatopoeia

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If you own a car, in addition to the purchase price, you need to pay for gas, insurance, regular tune-ups, new tires for different seasons, and a parking space. Over time, the value of the car depreciates; in the resale market, the car loses at least a quarter of its value after the first time it's driven, and if the car is kept long enough, the spare parts might have more market value than the intact vehicle.

Alternatively, you can hire a taxi or a limousine whenever you need to get around town.

This is, metaphorically, the difference between marriage and hobbying.
 

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I have genuine human connections with my clients on a regular basis. It's my job. I'm a shitty actor, so if you (any client) think that I feel [insert emotion here] for you, it's either true or projection. I do not ever wish we had met under different circumstances, although occasionally I have wondered...
The likelihood of me wanting to change the circumstances of our relationship is one in a million, so please try not to be creepy.
 
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