The art of approaching women

Zoot Allures

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And women have higher intuition and more need for safety so she’s already assessed you and the surroundings

Bingo on both counts. They have a sense of feeling that you noticed them even if it was just a quick non learing glance.

Saftey is number one. Physical saftey of course but also emotional saftey. That do not want emotional rejection. That is huge. Men are cool with one nighters women do not want the feeling of rejection after. They feel it is more personal, men just want sex, but I am generalizing about men and women.
 
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Just forget it. The world is going solo. We are headed for extinction.
 

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All sounds great, except for the obvious.

80 percent of guys go for 20 percent of women.

A certain percentage of those 20 percent do sex work, and thank god for them.

But a John group is the worst group of guys to encourage to go make small talk to the really hot blonde chick buying pickles at the grocery store. Admire her, fantasize about her, and unless she really sends out a strong signal in response to your smile, for most guys here, just remember this cute song, Wish I Knew You When I Was Young.


But even if you are young, here is the reality of the cold approach. This photo of travelers waiting at JFK Airport is in several articles.


Take a close look. Yes, the lady in the forefront is young and hot. A couple of relatively older ladies, can’t tell if the African-American lady with her face turned away is hot, and the darker-skinned lady in the back of the area isn’t looking at the camera so she is hard to gauge.

Okay, you optimistic studs, where do you go from here with respect to the women in the photo if you arrive at the gate? They are all glued to their phones and many have headphones or earbuds in. Which one do you pick? Do you sit across from one of them, especially the really cute one in the forefront and keep smiling at her in hopes that she looks up from her phone? Maybe eventually you say you eventually say you are going for food and ask her if she wants anything. But you probably need to make it a 15-30 minute process to avoid being obvious. And most likely she never looks up from her phone to acknowledge your planned and obvious smile.

All this stuff in the first few posts sounds great, but is basically impossible to put into practice in today’s world.
Turn my AirPlay on and hope hers is too.
drop my AirPod and hope she leans in the pick it up and we make eye contact and smile.
ask if she would mind just watching my bag while I run to the washroom
 

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Based on what I am seeing on dating apps, in my demographic which is women 40-50, the best ROI would be to get a dog and go to the dog park.

Every single divorced women seems to have a dog these days.
My brother recently watched my dads dog and said it was the most he felt seen by women and men lol he said people actually talked to him and were friendly and even in his own building. Now that he doesn’t have the dog no one looks up at him ever
 

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Be like James Bond - well dressed, and confident but very understated. Like an aloof confidence - but smiling and happy, not scary.

In doing this you beat all the cretins who -
a) dress like James Bond but who are incredibly cocky.
b) try to dress like James Bond but come across like Del Boy in Only Fools and Horses (look it up)
b) dress like they still live in their moms basement
c) wear pajamas or flip-flops in airports

Just being normal but smart - looking like you care about yourself - and being open and friendly. This beats 99% of people out there.
You forgot the slides and socks or crocs
 

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One thing I read one time was just to practice chatting to women ALL the time - not just ones you fancy - any and everyone - girls, guys...whoever. Doing this you get used to chatting everyone which makes it easier to approach and chat to someone you DO fancy. I used to be completely shy growing up but now I'm in a habit of chatting to anyone everywhere... nothing annoying - but where situations might call for it - coffee shop line ups etc...
Also try toastmasters
 

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Based on what I am seeing on dating apps, in my demographic which is women 40-50, the best ROI would be to get a dog and go to the dog park.

Every single divorced women seems to have a dog these days.
Nothing wrong with using a dog as a side kick as long as the dog is well taken care off 😃

I have approached a guy before just because he had a cute dog lol… dogs are a way to my heart lol😂
 
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Nothing wrong with using a dog as a side kick as long as the dog is well taken care off 😃

I have been approached a guy before just because he had a cute dog lol… dogs are a way to my heart lol😂
I rest my case. You're welcome gentlemen.

I am going to start a "puppy wingman rental" business.
 

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I rest my case. You're welcome gentlemen.

I am going to start a "puppy wingman rental" business.
That would be a pretty good business lol..

It’s funny how many guys on dating apps use dog pics that aren’t even their own 😆
 

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I don’t believe Ahri is disingenuous. If she says she looks for confidence (& great sense of smell) in a man, then I believe she does. But she’s the exception, not the rule.

Come on guys ? Why are we still in denial ?

If you have the face card & the height. You enter the door. All this approach stuff will only lead to harassment. Put yourself in the woman’s shoes, would you be ok, walking down the street & every guy is coming over & shooting his shot ? I assume you’d want to be left the fuck alone. If you wanted a man, you’d be on tinder.

For instance, the whole “oxford study” wouldn’t exit, if woman looked at “confidence”

Optics come first. There’s the male gaze & then there’s also the female gaze.
 

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I don’t believe Ahri is disingenuous. If she says she looks for confidence (& great sense of smell) in a man, then I believe she does. But she’s the exception, not the rule.

Come on guys ? Why are we still in denial ?

If you have the face card & the height. You enter the door. All this approach stuff will only lead to harassment. Put yourself in the woman’s shoes, would you be ok, walking down the street & every guy is coming over & shooting his shot ? I assume you’d want to be left the fuck alone. If you wanted a man, you’d be on tinder.

For instance, the whole “oxford study” wouldn’t exit, if woman looked at “confidence”

Optics come first. There’s the male gaze & then there’s also the female gaze.

What oxford study are you referring to? I tried to Google "oxford study attraction" and all I got was reference to a 2010 study that according to Gemini is purposely misunderstood and misinterpreted by black pill/incel types.
 

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What oxford study are you referring to? I tried to Google "oxford study attraction" and all I got was reference to a 2010 study that according to Gemini is purposely misunderstood and misinterpreted by black pill/incel types.
Well yes, it’s definitely something that’s peddled by inc#ls & blown out proportion.

Perhaps a bad example. But I believe there’s some merit to it.
 

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Want to make something very clear. I’m not saying women are shallow. All I’m saying is, like how men have their gaze, which is bunch of physical attributes, woman have it too, for men. & they have every right to
 

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the art of approaching women is dont approach them unless they are talking to you first.
But dont all womens romantic comedies start with a cute guy approaching a woman in a bookstore or coffee shop with a cute line - and then they laugh and accidentally meet later in the park and they laugh again. Women write these movies but then you say not to approach women.

Ive seen so many women in the romantic section of the bookshop (I was looking for a book on how to fix my harley honest) - anyway they are there in the romantic section all dressed up like they are ready to meet that perfect someone.... These are the female fantasies right?
 

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I don’t believe Ahri is disingenuous. If she says she looks for confidence (& great sense of smell) in a man, then I believe she does. But she’s the exception, not the rule.

Come on guys ? Why are we still in denial ?

If you have the face card & the height. You enter the door. All this approach stuff will only lead to harassment. Put yourself in the woman’s shoes, would you be ok, walking down the street & every guy is coming over & shooting his shot ? I assume you’d want to be left the fuck alone. If you wanted a man, you’d be on tinder.

For instance, the whole “oxford study” wouldn’t exit, if woman looked at “confidence”

Optics come first. There’s the male gaze & then there’s also the female gaze.
The face card & the height probably would not work without the posture. Being bum challenged would also he a hurdle.
 
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Want to make something very clear. I’m not saying women are shallow. All I’m saying is, like how men have their gaze, which is bunch of physical attributes, woman have it too, for men. & they have every right to
Women have it also but it cannot convert immediately to sexual attraction like men with their visuals. Without status, it usually becomes kaput.
 
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