The art of approaching women

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Good luck with that.

Dating hasn’t really changed much imo. What has changed is society.We’ve become so antisocial in the name of protecting people and women’s spaces/freedom that we killed the “third space” as a means of social interaction. And with dating inherently being a social interaction, it died with it. Modern life basically presents two options for men: make your intentions clearly known in the few ways it’s considered acceptable, like dating apps, bars or clubs: which are flooded and provide men with no actual chance at success. Or, do it socially the old way, with context and the shared third space, and risk everything that comes along with that. Because to most young people that feels illegal now days.

I’m not bashing feminism. That was a necessary correction. I just find it funny how older women in their 60s and 70s have no problem hitting up a conversation sitting next to you at a concert, because they grew up in an era when that was considered normal. While if I were to do that to a viable woman sitting next to me with clear intent (or not even) I’m instantly a threat.

Lick you eyebrows!

Similar thread: https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-to-pickup-a-girl-from-the-mall.880709/#post-8882134

It could go somewhere if she determines you have more status/wealth than her which is less likely these days. Then you will have the opportunity to lose half of it.

I don't bother chasing women, never have. They either approach me or they signal me to approach. I find approaching them less effective if they don't signal prior. It a waste of energy trying to get someone to like you. Working hard to get someone to be attracted to you seems so unnatural.

angrymime666 said:

I don't bother chasing women, never have. They either approach me or they signal me to approach. I find approaching them less effective if they don't signal prior. It a waste of energy trying to get someone to like you. Working hard to get someone to be attracted to you seems so unnatural.

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For most, not all.

I agree. But unless you are 15% guy then go approach.

OP - I’m not judging or criticizing or otherwise commenting, however are you using AI to write your posts? I’m asking as they don’t sound human. Which, not exactly shockingly, isn’t typically going to work with women. So….

I really enjoy casual anonymous meetings with woman. I have had a certain degree of success and am Happy to give some high level advice wherever I can add value . Feel free to reach out. Caveat being, if it sounds like AI, you go to ignore.

I’m my experience, confidence, security in one’s self and a smile go a long way. It also doesn’t hurt that I’m 6’+. LOL. Women feel your energy , so make sure it’s good. That goes for civi society and paid encounters.

That's how you do it

unassuming said:

Lick you eyebrows!

Similar thread: https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/how-to-pickup-a-girl-from-the-mall.880709/#post-8882134

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Oh, and don't forget to pre-wax your handlebar moustache and spit shine your monocle.

Another technique when you’re cold approaching in a public place is this : Say something like, oh hi, you look so beautiful, I just had to come over and talk to you….She’ll automatically say thank you, and then you ask what’s your name? She’ll tell you and you respond in kind. Then you immediately ask, are you seeing anyone? If she finds you attractive she’ll say no and then you can go from there. If she doesn’t fancy you for whatever reason she’ll come up with an excuse - either, I have a boyfriend, I’m engaged, married or whatever. Then you just wish them well, and you’re outta there! This method works since it’s short, sweet and to the point. It effectively eliminates any awkward social interaction and you’ll have your answer in less than 20 seconds.

MatureMan said:

I’m my experience, confidence, security in one’s self and a smile go a long way. It also doesn’t hurt that I’m 6’+. LOL. Women feel your energy , so make sure it’s good. That goes for civi society and paid encounters.

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Exactly - well put. For the non 6ft guys like myself , thankfully presence seems to equate to height for women - if you don’t tell them, they won’t know hahah.

MatureMan said:

I’m my experience, confidence, security in one’s self and a smile go a long way. It also doesn’t hurt that I’m 6’+. LOL. Women feel your energy , so make sure it’s good. That goes for civi society and paid encounters.

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100% this confidence goes a long way

I also want a nice smelling cologne gets bonus points!! (not Dior Sauvage)

There was an interesting reddit thread a while back about a guy who just cold approached hundreds of women in a year to see what would happen.

He said he would see a beautiful girl across the street and cross over to say hi to them

If I remember correctly he was a self judged 6 or 7 and was approaching women who were 8 or 9.

His numbers were surprising. He went on a bunch of dates and had a couple of short relationships but nothing that lasted

Ahri said:

100% this confidence goes a long way

I also want a nice smelling cologne gets bonus points!! (not Dior Sauvage)

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Curious about which cologne

I like the campfire woodsy smell. They actually use cedarwood and sandalwood oils.

I also buy the oils to put on cloths. Cinnamon oil as well. Never put directly on skin

angrymime666 said:

I don't bother chasing women, never have. They either approach me or they signal me to approach. I find approaching them less effective if they don't signal prior. It a waste of energy trying to get someone to like you. Working hard to get someone to be attracted to you seems so unnatural.

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The socially accepted way is to just casually notice her. That is your signal for her to respond, it is all about minmizing risk and avioded unwanted attention.

yessir235 said:

Dating hasn’t really changed much imo. What has changed is society.We’ve become so antisocial in the name of protecting people and women’s spaces/freedom that we killed the “third space” as a means of social interaction. And with dating inherently being a social interaction, it died with it. Modern life basically presents two options for men: make your intentions clearly known in the few ways it’s considered acceptable, like dating apps, bars or clubs: which are flooded and provide men with no actual chance at success. Or, do it socially the old way, with context and the shared third space, and risk everything that comes along with that. Because to most young people that feels illegal now days.

I’m not bashing feminism. That was a necessary correction. I just find it funny how older women in their 60s and 70s have no problem hitting up a conversation sitting next to you at a concert, because they grew up in an era when that was considered normal. While if I were to do that to a viable woman sitting next to me with clear intent (or not even) I’m instantly a threat.

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Thank you for bringing this dose of reality to threads like this. Like the older women who talk to strangers and quasi-strangers in public, the threads usually mostly get responses from older guys who talk about their great experiences doing pick-ups. You want to listen to this old song while reading them and pondering what they are doing here instead of picking up women.


One of my favorite comedians / social commentators once said that a woman can get picked up at the double funeral of her parents if she finds a guy at the funeral a suitable target.

Women were always in charge of this area of life. The guys who think they were once great pick-up artists really weren’t. Women were always in charge of this part of life, but they were once a bit more trapped. They made less than men for the same work and they were geographically isolated. Got some pussy in the dorm thirty or forty years ago in college. Great for you. Her daughter or grandaughter now has a smartphone and a new car (yes, they let freshmen have cars, now). She doesn’t have to just choose now amongst guys in a 1-mile radius.

Remember how a bar’s fishbowl area was once a meeting place for strangers? It isn’t now. If a lady isn’t with someone, she is checking her phone to track the progress of who she is meeting there.

If you do get a rare success on a supposed pickup, you get invited to join one of her social media accounts, at which time she will use your social media to evaluate you before proceeding much further.

The world changed and pick-ups are dead, for most all ages, especially relatively older guys.

Guys should appreciate what we have here. If you don’t like your experiences, move up a level and/or try something new amongst the offerings, including longer appointments with an independent.