23M Virgin with no Romantic/Sexual Experience Looking For a Sexual Mentor or Escort Who Could Provide Guidance

My advice would be to just let nature take its course. You are prime material for a young lady, who WILL appear out of nowhere when you least expect it. Don't pay for your first experience. Than have the person just get up and walk away. Takes away from what should be a beautiful experience withsomeone who cares for you

In your opinion what is your biggest barrier preventing you from success in scenario?

So, I have been noticing more and more posts as of late regarding this very topic. In the past I have recommended some beautiful SP's, but I feel it doesn't help in the long run, being so young one can get caught up in the lifestyle and may cause financial ruin at such an early age and not bode well in the long run. I love that you are getting help, but you have to be patient mate, let time run its course. Its not probably what you want to hear, but its the truth and just my opinion. I have offered some recommendations in the past for this particular topic so just do a search if you are really want to dip your toes in this lifestyle. Your young mate, its easy to fall hard for any of these SP's, don't! Save and build your financial portfolio and learn what it is to be in a relationship, fall in love, get your heart broken and go through all the emotions that build your mental health and build confidence, stay the course and stay safe and good luck.

Work on your finances... woman find my money very attractive

big dogie said:

Work on your finances... woman find my money very attractive

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best advice
Work on yourself!!! Women and Money are attracted to success. Build a garden if you want butterflies. Do not chase butterflies

I'd recommend Sultry Sofia, if you want to go down this road. She's warm and genuine, and a babe to boot. If anyone can knock down whatever social roadblocks you have, it's her.

Now that I've given a recommendation, I still want to give some words of caution. If you've never had a romantic situation before, the pitfalls in this industry, which are already dangerous, are going to be even more severe. You'll be experiencing things you've never experienced before, and it's quite possible you will grow infatuated and addicted. That can lead you to not only financial ruin, but into a worse social situation. So if you're going to do this, never EVER lose sight of this being a service, and nothing more. Her job will be to make you feel desired, loved, and like a king. For those of us not at the top of the food chain in terms of looks, wealth and social status, that can be a powerful drug.

This is NOT a good solution to feeling lonely. It's not true companionship. So don't use it to cure your isolation. Only use it as a means to get over the social hurdle that you believe is keeping you isolated.
Do not spend above your means. Stick with reputable providers, and make sure to do thorough research.

As for dating apps...I've never bothered with them myself. I hear they can be ridiculously discouraging for men. All of my civilian relationships in life have grown naturally out of friendships which themselves grew out of acquaintance. You don't have to cold approach women. Just put yourself in situations to interact with women. Sports groups and working out have you mostly interacting with other men. That's good too, but doesn't move the needle much on meeting a potential love interest. You could also do some volunteering at a food bank or an animal shelter, or take some cooking classes (added benefit is a new skill, one which makes you more attractive to women), or get a dog and do regular walks at a dog park, or do classes in the arts. Ideally something that you'll enjoy yourself and not just to meet women. Natural enthusiasm is attractive.

Good luck, my friend!

Give this forum a little time… I’ve not seen Sultry Sofia but she comes highly recommended for this sort of thing by several reputable TERB members.
Agree with what others are saying here, however as long as you stay grounded and are just trying to improve your sexual knowledge/experience,( not trying to find a life partner ), you may find this helps.

Go to a strip club, get some dances. Talk go beautiful women. Should help with your anxiety.

waivyhairdaemon said:

Side note: I've already been working on myself. I'm seeing a therapist, hit the gym, do group sports, etc. These things help a bit but they haven't really moved the needle on romantic confidence and I'm still stuck in the same spot.

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Do THESE more and more. Also... group "CO-ED" sports. They need to see YOU. How you interact, behave, speak. Never underestimate the power of physical chemistry. Also... take salsa dancing lessons. If you can dance with a modicum of confidence, your world will open up.

waivyhairdaemon said:

I'm a 23-year-old student who's never had any romantic or sexual experience. Social anxiety and low self-esteem have kept me stuck for years. Lately the isolation has been hitting harder, and dating apps have been a bust (no matches/likes).

I'm hoping that seeing someone who could guide me could take the edge off fears and anxiety and give me some basic experience and maybe boost my confidence enough to approach more proactively.

Side note: I've already been working on myself. I'm seeing a therapist, hit the gym, do group sports, etc. These things help a bit but they haven't really moved the needle on romantic confidence and I'm still stuck in the same spot.

Appreciate any suggestions or advice. thanks in advance.

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Asian Nicole, would be a great starting point. Kind, thoughtful, interesting, and would make it a great experience.

waivyhairdaemon said:

I've been struggling with low self-esteem and anxiety. Therapy and working out have helped improve both, which I'm grateful for.

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I would recommend finding something you're good at and doing more of it to the point you can recognize your improvement. Even if it's something like baking cookies, seeing yourself get better will help boost self esteem. Anxiety is it's own issue and your therapist is best suited to aid you in this department. I have a friend with terrible anxiety so I know how debilitating it can be. The good news is you can get better with the right resources.

waivyhairdaemon said:

That said, I haven't gotten any likes or matches on dating apps, so part of me wonders if it's mostly about my appearance. I also believe the odds of meeting someone who's genuinely attracted to you are much higher on dating apps than through random in-person approaches.

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One thing I've noticed about this issue is taking good pictures isn't as easy as it seems. I'm on a site and I've observed a male counterpart over time. Initially his pics were average and so were his results. From what I can tell he improved his camera, bought a light and possibly did some research on taking pics. The feedback he's gotten since making those changes have been incredibly impressive and he's become a minor celebrity on the site. From my own experience I can tell you this. I have abs. I see them in the mirror. When I take a body pic they don't show up ever. I know I can remedy this but truth be told I don't care enough to make the effort but I've since learned that an overhead light shining downwards will give a 6 pack the appearance you see in professional pics. You gotta look at it like this. Your pics are your advertising, the better you make them the more attention you will get. I think with a little effort in this department your odds will improve drastically.

waivyhairdaemon said:

Because of this and since I have basically zero experience, when it comes to approaching people in person I'm very self-conscious about the possibility of not being liked back. That fear makes the whole thing feel vulnerable and I keep imagining it turning awkward or embarrassing. The same anxiety applies to anything sexual.

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This is very common. In men for sure but likely also in women. I think the key here is for you to break out of your comfort zone in the most simple and effective way. Experience. Give this a try. Be more friendly. To everyone. Men and women. Just say 'hi, how you doing'. A nod or a wave isn't enough, you need to interact, even briefly. I'm not saying you need full on conversations with strangers, just hey, how you doing, have a good one. When it comes to women say hi and give them a very minor, non-offensive compliment. So no 'hey nice ass' type comments. Something very innocent like that's a 'really nice coat' or 'your hair looks great today' It likely won't spark a full blown conversation but just a brief mutually positive interaction to get you more comfortable with interacting. Here's an example of what I'm talking about. Obviously you don't have to follow him to a 'T' but just tailor your interactions to what suits you best. Start small and progress as you get more comfortable.

https://www.ctvnews.ca/toronto/arti...-trying-to-make-the-ttc-a-little-less-lonely/


Again, I'm not saying to talk to everyone on the bus, do it selectively but just make sure you making an effort to interact to boost your experience and confidence.

HEYHEY said:

Go to a strip club, get some dances. Talk go beautiful women. Should help with your anxiety.

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This is great advice because you can learn how to talk to beautiful women and the best part is they approach you.

waivyhairdaemon said:

I'm a 23-year-old student who's never had any romantic or sexual experience. Social anxiety and low self-esteem have kept me stuck for years. Lately the isolation has been hitting harder, and dating apps have been a bust (no matches/likes).

I'm hoping that seeing someone who could guide me could take the edge off fears and anxiety and give me some basic experience and maybe boost my confidence enough to approach more proactively.

Side note: I've already been working on myself. I'm seeing a therapist, hit the gym, do group sports, etc. These things help a bit but they haven't really moved the needle on romantic confidence and I'm still stuck in the same spot.

Appreciate any suggestions or advice. thanks in advance.

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I had a very similar experience. In my late teens / early 20''s I had no confidence with the opposite sex and low self esteem. Now I'm 44 and date/ bang nothing but 25 year old women who are complete smoke shows. It helps that I don't look 44 and lol more like I'm 34 and I go to the gym. lol

Over the years there are two things we need to learn when it comes to modern dating. "Pre Selection and "Social Proof".

I had very limited luck on dating apps. Even today it's hit or miss. I prefer cold approach!

Also I would recommend going to the strip club to gain experience talking to hot women. Plus you might find a dancer could/will help you with what you seek..

I think if you contact someone who advertises independently and politely introduce yourself and request a price for a dinner date that its a better starting point. Take sex right off the table, and just spend an hour talking to a beautiful woman. They usually do casual dates for a fraction of the cost, so your not tied to a clock and can relax. Follow up with 1-2 more social dates with different women, till youre more sure of yourself, plus learn what you like -and dislike- in a partner.
As for building wealth to meet women... skanks will smell you a mile away. Plus theres some kind of chemical bond with your first partner, so once the bed you, theres a good chance you'll be smitten by them. I had a friend like you who has been taken advantage of by mean, trashy skanky women because he lost his virginity card in his late 20s and it set the pattern in motion.
Go on 2-3 casual dates. Decide what you like, try an MP or two, then only date women you see yourself with, or try an SP at that time, but explain the situation first.

if you go the pay for sex route, you wake up later asking yourself WHY?? especially after all of a sudden your meeting women daily

rgkv said:

My advice would be to just let nature take its course. You are prime material for a young lady, who WILL appear out of nowhere when you least expect it. Don't pay for your first experience. Than have the person just get up and walk away. Takes away from what should be a beautiful experience withsomeone who cares for you

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Get comfortable with a woman. Get a massage, with or without a massage for little Johnny. Learn to drive in the parking lot before you take it out on the road.

Dating apps don't really work, don't be ashamed you are a virgin.
If you really want to experience sex, highly recommend milf escorts, preferably over 40 , these little young girls escorts are not worth seeing