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LC18

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This thread is for information purposes only. You are not obligated to follow the recommandations discussed in this thread.

You’ve probably been rejected by a service provider for your introductory message if not, congratulations!

Let me help you get out of the introductory message zone.

Text message
Please drop the “avail?” “$$$?” “send your address” messages. Absolutely no one likes them, they make you sound like you have no manner, like you are a horny teen*ger and like you wouldn’t respect us.

Do not start by asking the address without even saying hi or anything. Just creepy.

Unless the rates are not on the ad, do not start by asking them. Many of us have different rates for different packages and we are not going to start listing them and confuse you.


You want to keep it short and sweet?
Try “Hi, are you available right now?” “Hi, are you available today?” “Hi, when is your next availability?”

You want to keep it short, sweet and be polite?
“Hi I’m X, are you available right now?” “Hi I’m X, when’s your next availability?”

That way the SP can choose to address you by your name instead of the infamous “hi babe”.


You want to keep it short, sweet, polite and be proactive?
“Hi I’m X, I’d like to book today for 60 mins, are you available?” “Hi I’m X, I’d like to book today for 60 mins incall. What info do you need?”


Email
Don’t type the whole thing in the title. A good title to catch someone’s attention is the date you’d like to book. That way the provider or assistant knows she has to open it before a certain date.

“November 23rd” and “incall November 23rd”
would be excellent titles.

“Avail bb incall what’s your price I’m horny”
Not so much…


“Hi so&so,

I’m X. I’d like to meet you for a 60 mins date incall. Let me know when would be a good time and what info you need.

Thanks”


See it wasn’t long and wasn’t complicated either.

Phone call
I personally do not know anyone answering phone calls but if you happen to reach someone who does accept them, please don't be creepy. Keep it professional and state what you're looking for. If you call someone and they're not answering it can mean two things; they do not book through phone calls or they are busy. Do not call back 20 times in a row just to make sure.

Agency text messages
Make the booker’s job easier and state what you’re looking for in the first message. They receive a lot of text messages so don’t send the info one message at a time. Just rip off the band-aid and send it all at once

“Hi I’m X, I’d like to book so&so for 60mins at 3pm”

Just make it so that your message or email stands out but for good reasons.

LC

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Sonic Temple

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Solid advice. I like the email header advice.
 
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superman12

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This is helpful thanks. When corresponding by email in particular do you thinks it's a good idea to tell the sp a little bit more detail about yourself as a client? Like age, background, what you do for a living etc? Or is that too much info for an introductory email correspondence?
 
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massman

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This thread is for information purposes only. You are not obligated to follow the recommandations discussed in this thread.

You’ve probably been rejected by a service provider for your introductory message if not, congratulations!

Let me help you get out of the introductory message zone.

Text message
Please drop the “avail?” “$$$?” “send your address” messages. Absolutely no one likes them, they make you sound like you have no manner, like you are a horny teen*ger and like you wouldn’t respect us.

Do not start by asking the address without even saying hi or anything. Just creepy.

Unless the rates are not on the ad, do not start by asking them. Many of us have different rates for different packages and we are not going to start listing them and confuse you.


You want to keep it short and sweet?
Try “Hi, are you available right now?” “Hi, are you available today?” “Hi, when is your next availability?”

You want to keep it short, sweet and be polite?
“Hi I’m X, are you available right now?” “Hi I’m X, when’s your next availability?”

That way the SP can choose to address you by your name instead of the infamous “hi babe”.


You want to keep it short, sweet, polite and be proactive?
“Hi I’m X, I’d like to book today for 60 mins, are you available?” “Hi I’m X, I’d like to book today for 60 mins incall. What info do you need?”


Email
Don’t type the whole thing in the title. A good title to catch someone’s attention is the date you’d like to book. That way the provider or assistant knows she has to open it before a certain date.

“November 23rd” and “incall November 23rd”
would be excellent titles.

“Avail bb incall what’s your price I’m horny”
Not so much…


“Hi so&so,

I’m X. I’d like to meet you for a 60 mins date incall. Let me know when would be a good time and what info you need.

Thanks”


See it wasn’t long and wasn’t complicated either.

Phone call
I personally do not know anyone answering phone calls but if you happen to reach someone who does accept them, please don't be creepy. Keep it professional and state what you're looking for. If you call someone and they're not answering it can mean two things; they do not book through phone calls or they are busy. Do not call back 20 times in a row just to make sure.

Agency text messages
Make the booker’s job easier and state what you’re looking for in the first message. They receive a lot of text messages so don’t send the info one message at a time. Just rip off the band-aid and send it all at once

“Hi I’m X, I’d like to book so&so for 60mins at 3pm”

Just make it so that your message or email stands out but for good reasons.

LC

Other useful links
How to book an indy
Good advice. Though the rate question is a critical one, and in my mind, unless the info is available in an ad, or website, it needs to be sorted out in the first communication for the sake of both parties. Most guys aren’t in the “money is no object” class, and knowing someone’s rate will make the difference between booking or not. Last thing either person wants to do is to go through setting up an appointment to just find out that the rate is not within their budget.

Location is also key to the feasibility of a meeting. Many guys have limited time to hobby, and if the location is too far a drive,no point in going through the rest of the process.

Here is an example of a recent email communication of mine.

“Hey X! I will (finally) be back in Toronto on the 2nd and leaving the 4th. Will you be around then? The 2nd is probably the best for me, I have a meeting till 5, but after my schedule is open. Where are you located these days? Hope to be able to see you again.”
 
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LC18

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This is helpful thanks. When corresponding by email in particular do you thinks it's a good idea to tell the sp a little bit more detail about yourself as a client? Like age, background, what you do for a living etc? Or is that too much info for an introductory email correspondence?
If you feel comfortable with that it definitely is a good idea. We never know, this little intro could put you above another suitor.
 

LC18

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Though the rate question is a critical one, and in my mind, unless the info is available in an ad, or website, it needs to be sorted out in the first communication for the sake of both parties. Most guys aren’t in the “money is no object” class, and knowing someone’s rate will make the difference between booking or not. Last thing either person wants to do is to go through setting up an appointment to just find out that the rate is not within their budget.
Is that not what I said right here: Unless the rates are not on the ad, do not start by asking them. Many of us have different rates for different packages and we are not going to start listing them and confuse you.

If you don’t see the rates, by all means, ask away. There’s no other way for you to figure it out. I know I don’t display them on my website so I’m never mad if someone fill in the contact form and asks them.

Location is also key to the feasibility of a meeting. Many guys have limited time to hobby, and if the location is too far a drive,no point in going through the rest of the process.
Ask for a general location, not the address. Asking for the address is very creepy. You could say “I’ll be driving, can I know what’s the closest intersection?” “I’ll be using public transport, what is the closest subway station?”

The person can then give you their address if they want or a general idea.
 

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Is that not what I said right here: Unless the rates are not on the ad, do not start by asking them. Many of us have different rates for different packages and we are not going to start listing them and confuse you.

If you don’t see the rates, by all means, ask away. There’s no other way for you to figure it out. I know I don’t display them on my website so I’m never mad if someone fill in the contact form and asks them.



Ask for a general location, not the address. Asking for the address is very creepy. You could say “I’ll be driving, can I know what’s the closest intersection?” “I’ll be using public transport, what is the closest subway station?”

The person can then give you their address if they want or a general idea.
agree with all of the above. 👍🏻
 

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This is helpful thanks. When corresponding by email in particular do you thinks it's a good idea to tell the sp a little bit more detail about yourself as a client? Like age, background, what you do for a living etc? Or is that too much info for an introductory email correspondence?
Keep what you initially tell the SP limited. Yes, for age and general background but absolutely NOT about what you do for a living or where except in a very general sense especially for a first time meet. As an example, if you're in banking, a stockbroker, insurance, etc then just say you're in financial services.
If/when you get to know the SP(s) better then you can open up more about yourself. But if you don't connect with the SP then she has all this info on you that you may regret especially if she knows where you work.

LTO_3
 

SchlongConery

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I usually text something like the following. I usually get positive comments and responses even though I use a text app. Seems to be more sincere and less of a time waster/creeper.



Hi Miss Sexysounding Fakename!

I liked your ad and what you had to say.

I'm a tall, fit, clean, well groomed white Canadian guy in my late 40's (lying!) looking for some fun <soon, later today, this eve, tomorrow>

I don't like haggling or anything, especially in person, so can you give me some details on your rates, what's incl/extras etc. (unless already stated in the ad)

Look forward to hearing back from you soon!

Lance Allcock
 
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I usually text something like the following. I usually get positive comments and responses even though I use a text app. Seems to be more sincere and less of a time waster/creeper.



Hi Miss Sexysounding Fakename!

I liked your ad and what you had to say.

I'm a tall, fit, clean, well groomed white Canadian guy in my late 40's (lying!) looking for some fun <soon, later today, this eve, tomorrow>

I don't like haggling or anything, especially in person, so can you give me some details on your rates, what's incl/extras etc. (unless already stated in the ad)

Look forward to hearing back from you soon!

Lance Allcock
I personally don’t include details about me, eg age, appearance, background/ethnicity etc, unless she asks (either in her ad or in text communications). For most professionals in this business, it doesn’t matter.
 

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is it ok if I include how much I like her pictures in the add?
I’ve often done this in the past, as a sort of polite, yet complimentary opener. But if you didn’t like the pics, it’s pretty unlikely you’d be messaging her/ calling her in the first place.
 
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SchlongConery

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I personally don’t include details about me, eg age, appearance, background/ethnicity etc, unless she asks (either in her ad or in text communications). For most professionals in this business, it doesn’t matter.
With so many girls asking for your about age, ethnicity in their ad (and many eventually as the exchange progresses) I just want to give them the vibe that I'm clean, sane and not part of any group they discriminate against.


he can't help himself

talking about himself is his favorite topic

Yeah, flexing on being " tall, fit, clean, well groomed white Canadian guy under 50" strokes my ego. 🙄

When I meet or are introduced to someone new, I tend to open with a greeting, compliment, relevant introduction and respectable question. With a subtle hint not to reply in hours.

Or do you do the Latino Don Jaun "yo, mamacita. How much to give papi somma dat prepago papaya? "

I like trying to create a personal, human, connection. If the butcher shop "What's your best price on a few pounds of rump roast" is your style... then might as well warm up some liver and save your money, and spare slicing off a little bit of her sense of respect as a human. Instead of making a deal on meat to masturbate with.

But good men have respect for humanity and the vulnerability these women have when meat masturbators use their orifices. IMO🤷‍♂️
 
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I usually text something like the following. I usually get positive comments and responses even though I use a text app. Seems to be more sincere and less of a time waster/creeper.



Hi Miss Sexysounding Fakename!

I liked your ad and what you had to say.

I'm a tall, fit, clean, well groomed white Canadian guy in my late 40's (lying!) looking for some fun <soon, later today, this eve, tomorrow>

I don't like haggling or anything, especially in person, so can you give me some details on your rates, what's incl/extras etc. (unless already stated in the ad)

Look forward to hearing back from you soon!

Lance Allcock
I would leave out the “tall, fit, clean bit”. Usually makes us think you are being cocky. Age, background and name are fine.


Also , I would not use the term haggling at all. I would write something like

For no rates - “I read your ad and I couldn’t find rates on your ad, please let me know what they are”

For rates posted - “I read your rates are _______, can I confirm this is correct? “.


However, for me personally, I wouldn’t even respond as I don’t accept text apps and I search every number before I reply.
 
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