Would an escort notice if she lost a regular client?

[kherg007]

Exactly. We should still be respectful of the ladies for the work they do, but let's not kid ourselves. If some of the guys here heard what many girls say behind closed doors about "tricks", they likely would never book a girl again. Some people need to take the rose-tinted glasses off.

As I've said many times, the apt metaphor for this world is pro wrestling. And like pro wrestling.... Do not ask if it was real; only ask if you were entertained.

If you stay in that mindset this stuff is a blast with the right ladies, of which I've been lucky enough to find.

 

[MidGuyy]

Exactly. We should still be respectful of the ladies for the work they do, but let's not kid ourselves. If some of the guys here heard what many girls say behind closed doors about "tricks", they likely would never book a girl again. Some people need to take the rose-tinted glasses off.

Well then I must say you’d guys be shocked by how many SW’s have a boyfriend or husband who started out as a client. It’s more common then you think. I wish I had the link to that twitter thread still. But what “tricks” do you speak of? And also what exactly do they mean then when they SW’s are some of the most loving people if it’s only strictly a cold business transaction? Must be part of the illusion too right?

 

[mandrill]

Well then I must say you’d guys be shocked by how many SW’s have a boyfriend or husband who started out as a client. It’s more common then you think. I wish I had the link to that twitter thread still. But what “tricks” do you speak of? And also what exactly do they mean then when they SW’s are some of the most loving people if it’s only strictly a cold business transaction? Must be part of the illusion too right?

Obviously every woman is different, but I agree with this PoV.

 

[FearlessFreep]

How much do you spend typically for each session? If it's less than $500, I doubt she will even care.

I suspect the true answer lies here. A popular escort would have no problem filling free appointment times. Unless business is slow, the loss of one among the many would not be noticed.

 

[oldjones]

Would she notice? Only if he'd been noteworthy.

 

[Liquidity]

Well then I must say you’d guys be shocked by how many SW’s have a boyfriend or husband who started out as a client. It’s more common then you think. I wish I had the link to that twitter thread still. But what “tricks” do you speak of? And also what exactly do they mean then when they SW’s are some of the most loving people if it’s only strictly a cold business transaction? Must be part of the illusion too right?

I did say there were exceptions but these particular incidences are likely less than 0.001% of client/SW interactions. Most guys are likely level-headed and have the social acumen to see it's all an illusion and they have separate outlets for intimacy/emotional needs. The kind of guy who falls heads over heels for an SW who is only putting on a show for him should stay far away from this business. He'll get devoured by the sharks in these waters.

"Trick" is a modern derogatory term many SWs use to refer to clients.

 

[harryass]

yip, most SPs would notice if they lost a reg. The next question, she should think about is WHY?

 

[Jasmine Raine]

Curious. If a regular ( at least once a month, often twice for over a year... clean, vanilla sex, not demanding, easy conversations, a level of comfort established and a good tipper) stops visiting with her, would she notice? Considering the need to develop a large clientelle to ensure the bills are paid, does the loss of one register?

I would notice. Not for the money factor but the overall factor of just not seeing the person anymore.

 

[brazilianguy]

Curious. If a regular ( at least once a month, often twice for over a year... clean, vanilla sex, not demanding, easy conversations, a level of comfort established and a good tipper) stops visiting with her, would she notice? Considering the need to develop a large clientelle to ensure the bills are paid, does the loss of one register?

Even more so if you ate her cheesecake without her permission!!!! She will notice and throw a fit and kick you out like my boy squeezer!

 

[Smallcock]

Depends on how much she was budgeting for that new purse.

 

[MidGuyy]

It depends, I suspect, on the combination of escort and client.

Some guys (as we see on this thread) are extremely jaded (they will call themselves realistic) and will say that the escort does not ever care about the client; that there are no feelings involved at all. Some guys go to the other extreme, of course, and actually start to believe that a real romance is developing. The truth (often) is in between. Good, positive relationships with actual feelings can develop between escorts and clients. But it has to be kept in perspective (the handing over of the envelope is wonderful for adding perspective.) It is a relationship that's based on money that generally doesn't have any real life application beyond the money. But the simple exchange of money doesn't negate the possibility of real affection existing, and I think that in many cases an escort would certainly notice and even miss (and possibly even be concerned about) a very regular client who suddenly stopped coming to see her, even if she could fill the actual time slot without any trouble.

I have a very good business relationship with my mechanic. We don't hang out on a social level but we're certainly friendly enough. If I suddenly without warning started going to another mechanic, I suspect my former mechanic would notice my absence after a while, even if his business actually didn't suffer all that much and my absence caused him no financial concern. He'd probably wonder what went wrong and what happened. I see no reason escorts would be any different.

Exactly. Jaded for sure lmao

 

[luvyeah]

It depends, I suspect, on the combination of escort and client.

Some guys (as we see on this thread) are extremely jaded (they will call themselves realistic) and will say that the escort does not ever care about the client; that there are no feelings involved at all. Some guys go to the other extreme, of course, and actually start to believe that a real romance is developing. The truth (often) is in between. Good, positive relationships with actual feelings can develop between escorts and clients. But it has to be kept in perspective (the handing over of the envelope is wonderful for adding perspective.) It is a relationship that's based on money that generally doesn't have any real life application beyond the money. But the simple exchange of money doesn't negate the possibility of real affection existing, and I think that in many cases an escort would certainly notice and even miss (and possibly even be concerned about) a very regular client who suddenly stopped coming to see her, even if she could fill the actual time slot without any trouble.

I have a very good business relationship with my mechanic. We don't hang out on a social level but we're certainly friendly enough. If I suddenly without warning started going to another mechanic, I suspect my former mechanic would notice my absence after a while, even if his business actually didn't suffer all that much and my absence caused him no financial concern. He'd probably wonder what went wrong and what happened. I see no reason escorts would be any different.

This is quite reasonable and I would agree.

The problem, like any relationship lies in determining how authentic it really is.
Like an escort, how do you know for sure the mechanic isn't just putting on a show for your money?

 

[mandrill]

It depends, I suspect, on the combination of escort and client.

Some guys (as we see on this thread) are extremely jaded (they will call themselves realistic) and will say that the escort does not ever care about the client; that there are no feelings involved at all. Some guys go to the other extreme, of course, and actually start to believe that a real romance is developing. The truth (often) is in between. Good, positive relationships with actual feelings can develop between escorts and clients. But it has to be kept in perspective (the handing over of the envelope is wonderful for adding perspective.) It is a relationship that's based on money that generally doesn't have any real life application beyond the money. But the simple exchange of money doesn't negate the possibility of real affection existing, and I think that in many cases an escort would certainly notice and even miss (and possibly even be concerned about) a very regular client who suddenly stopped coming to see her, even if she could fill the actual time slot without any trouble.

I have a very good business relationship with my mechanic. We don't hang out on a social level but we're certainly friendly enough. If I suddenly without warning started going to another mechanic, I suspect my former mechanic would notice my absence after a while, even if his business actually didn't suffer all that much and my absence caused him no financial concern. He'd probably wonder what went wrong and what happened. I see no reason escorts would be any different.

Best post yet.

 

[Liquidity]

It depends, I suspect, on the combination of escort and client.

Some guys (as we see on this thread) are extremely jaded (they will call themselves realistic) and will say that the escort does not ever care about the client; that there are no feelings involved at all. Some guys go to the other extreme, of course, and actually start to believe that a real romance is developing. The truth (often) is in between. Good, positive relationships with actual feelings can develop between escorts and clients. But it has to be kept in perspective (the handing over of the envelope is wonderful for adding perspective.) It is a relationship that's based on money that generally doesn't have any real life application beyond the money. But the simple exchange of money doesn't negate the possibility of real affection existing, and I think that in many cases an escort would certainly notice and even miss (and possibly even be concerned about) a very regular client who suddenly stopped coming to see her, even if she could fill the actual time slot without any trouble.

I have a very good business relationship with my mechanic. We don't hang out on a social level but we're certainly friendly enough. If I suddenly without warning started going to another mechanic, I suspect my former mechanic would notice my absence after a while, even if his business actually didn't suffer all that much and my absence caused him no financial concern. He'd probably wonder what went wrong and what happened. I see no reason escorts would be any different.

Your first point is precisely what I've been saying all along. We are being realistic. There's no one jaded here. Of course there's nuance and many shades of grey. Like most things in life, it's not black and white. You're typical business-only SW that can generally compartmentalize their emotions from their service will fall for a client every now and again. The same I'm sure happens with hobbyists who generally should know better and do know better but emotions can complicate things at times even when it is not in your best interest.

The mechanic analogy is completely disingenuous and falls apart completely upon scrutiny. This isn't some ordinary transaction or service that almost everyone in society receives from a professional. This is risky business that endangers both the safety and health of the client and the SW. Whether you like to admit it or not, being a john is still a massive stigma and there's a reason you value your anonymity whereas you likely wouldn't on any other niche hobby forum. Most of the ladies will never admit this either, but part of what helps many of them compartmentalize their emotions from the service is the fact that, at least on a subconscious level, they are repulsed by most of their clients. No matter how charming, successful, good looking they are. There must be something wrong with them otherwise they should have women throwing themselves at them for free. Only unappealing men who can't get the sex they want need to pay for it. I'm not saying that's true, but many are thinking that on a subconscious level and the more ruthless ones go further when it comes to picking apart their clients behind closed doors.

I'm not saying this is their fault either. They can't control their subconscious biases. This is something that is broadly reinforced by society. It's an apparent paradox to most people. In a society where sex and hookup culture is rampant, what kind of man needs to be paying for sex they ask themselves?

 

[Jasmina]

Oh good gawd, this shit again?

GOOD clients are more than money, they are companions. Sex workers are people, they have hearts and feelings.

To be clear, they would notice the reduced income, not the client personally.

 

[Jasmina]

Yup. I can attest to this. Having a long time client suddenly ghost you can be really difficult emotionally. When it happened to me with a particular person whom I truly had thought had crossed that line into friend as much as lover, it made me all kinds of sad and of course I felt rejected and to this day wonder wtf.

Losing clients has an emotional impact. Everything from "I sort of liked that guy too!" to "I wonder if I'm putting on weight or if my hair looks shitty!"

 

[Smallcock]

Yup. I can attest to this. Having a long time client suddenly ghost you can be really difficult emotionally. When it happened to me with a particular person whom I truly had thought had crossed that line into friend as much as lover, it made me all kinds of sad and of course I felt rejected and to this day wonder wtf.

Friends don't pay friends for sex. You know this.

 

[Smallcock]

This is quite reasonable and I would agree.

The problem, like any relationship lies in determining how authentic it really is.
Like an escort, how do you know for sure the mechanic isn't just putting on a show for your money?

If you have mechanic friends you'll know the answer to that question. It isn't pretty.

 

[Terminator2000]

Yup. I can attest to this. Having a long time client suddenly ghost you can be really difficult emotionally. When it happened to me with a particular person whom I truly had thought had crossed that line into friend as much as lover, it made me all kinds of sad and of course I felt rejected and to this day wonder wtf.

among your 30 other guy clients? yeah.

 

[Smallcock]

Why do some SPs feel the need to perform mental gymnastics when describing their CLIENT relationships as something more than pay-for-play? Do they think it puts them in a favorable light or is there a deep-seated need to justify their line of work to themselves, or is it just a manifestation of female psychology to see things as more than they are?

Naturally we get to know people that we see routinely and develop varying levels of emotions, but it remains a business transaction when booking by the hour. This is what we have all signed up for.