Falling in Love with Someone thats Married

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As you can see Madonna even from the reactions of this thread there are all sorts of guys out there, even the ones who think they are nice but have no spine or backbode to show a lady back respect she deserves. If you're looking for real man, I'd say try to avoid these little pussy bitch types of little to no integrity who just bail on a friend, throw them under the bus or cut the string when its not convenient for them or when they are afraid of a little emotion and do not know what to do with it. I'd say this is a good lesson, judge a man by his character and key indicators that you learn from the past relationships such as signs to spot these bailing little pussy bitches. Not by a guys status in life. Also don't let these guys get to you. The best way to get over it is to ride the emotions and let the time heal when YOU are ready to move on. Honestly, thanks for sharing this post, and I hope it's helping you. Sometimes it's hard not to get passionate about this. If I am saying too much I am sorry. Just a little ticked off at these pussy bitch guys ruining it for the rest of us. Then when we meet women, real women, it takes forever to earn their trust, when previously it was so easy for them to give it away. Sometimes this comes in the way of developing relationships with awesome people, and we hear it all the time, ahh your married...hmmm yup not gonna work, when you know they are lying and can see it in their eyes there is something there, there is emotion, and people just run from it.

Some guys know a woman's worth and back it up with action...

 

[Titalian]

As you can see Madonna even from the reactions of this thread there are all sorts of guys out there, even the ones who think they are nice but have no spine or backbode to show a lady back respect she deserves. If you're looking for real man, I'd say try to avoid these little pussy bitch types of little to no integrity who just bail on a friend, throw them under the bus or cut the string when its not convenient for them or when they are afraid of a little emotion and do not know what to do with it. I'd say this is a good lesson, judge a man by his character and key indicators that you learn from the past relationships such as signs to spot these bailing little pussy bitches. Not by a guys status in life. Also don't let these guys get to you. The best way to get over it is to ride the emotions and let the time heal when YOU are ready to move on. Honestly, thanks for sharing this post, and I hope it's helping you. Sometimes it's hard not to get passionate about this. If I am saying too much I am sorry. Just a little ticked off at these pussy bitch guys ruining it for the rest of us. Then when we meet women, real women, it takes forever to earn their trust, when previously it was so easy for them to give it away. Sometimes this comes in the way of developing relationships with awesome people, and we hear it all the time, ahh your married...hmmm yup not gonna work, when you know they are lying and can see it in their eyes there is something there, there is emotion, and people just run from it.

Some guys know a woman's worth and back it up with action...

I take offence to this Listen to the intro. In the end its all about family.

 

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I take offence to this Listen to the intro. In the end its all about family.

Being loyal and stating an opinion are two different things, even if we may disagree or see it different

 

[Titalian]

Being loyal and stating an opinion are two different things, even if we may disagree or see it different

Its hard to understand why a woman would be attracted to a true married man. But maybe that's what she was attracted to.

 

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Its hard to understand why a woman would be attracted to a true married man. But maybe that's what she was attracted to.

I'll take a guess, maybe its his mind, his character, their resonance frequency clicking and exponentially increasing their energy together. Maybe she did not want to judge a guy what he does or his status but what and who he is. How can you really control the dynamics of your emotions. If you believe in reincarnation and a spiritual side, then something as marriage is just a mask. You can still be friends and not interfere with their place in life. If you are a friend you'd want to support them, work through it and help them make it better and you'd hope they show you the same level of respect back...this is provided it is a higher level friendship type of thing not your typical friendship.

 

[Gentlescorp]

I am a dog. I want to hump every woman I see but I don't want to be a home wrecker. I have a good self discipline never to fool around with a married woman. I don't mind married ladies in the industry tho'. bcuz it is a job for them. You will be surprised there still are some ladies in the industry with husbands and boy friends and yet they still want to see you off the clock for fun or sometimes fall for you. Especially those who are unhappy with the lives they were in.

 

[bestman007]

I've been seeing an ex-girlfriend who married a very wealthy and successful banker who is more than a decade older than her. He works crazy hours and travels as well. He really has no time for her. What's even more fucked is that their son looks a lot like me as he's getting older. This freaks me out a little. I am ambivalent to whether I would want a son and scared to raise this concern with her when I see his photos because it can obviously mar her reputation. I also know that it is not a probable scenario since I always used a condom.

We were in a sexual relationship prior to the birth of her child (definitely at the time of conception) and still are. We are deeply in love but because of the societal pressures of her ethnicity she has made it clear that she is not in a position to leave him. I don't mind this because though I love her, I do not know whether I can love her exclusively.

 

[nlt76]

Rabbit soup?

 

[John Henry]

I've been seeing an ex-girlfriend who married a very wealthy and successful banker who is more than a decade older than her. He works crazy hours and travels as well. He really has no time for her. What's even more fucked is that their son looks a lot like me as he's getting older. This freaks me out a little. I am ambivalent to whether I would want a son and scared to raise this concern with her when I see his photos because it can obviously mar her reputation. I also know that it is not a probable scenario since I always used a condom.

We were in a sexual relationship prior to the birth of her child (definitely at the time of conception) and still are. We are deeply in love but because of the societal pressures of her ethnicity she has made it clear that she is not in a position to leave him. I don't mind this because though I love her, I do not know whether I can love her exclusively.

If you both are so much in love then why is she your X-girlfriend to begin with . Her husband is too busy to spend some quality time with her . Didn't she see this before she married the guy . What did she expect was going to happen . Did she marry the guy for his money and social status . Sure looks like it . Why didn't she marry you if both of you were in love so much ? Her hubby doesn't have time right now for her so she runs to you for comfort . Real nice of her to do that .

My X girlfriend and I are so much in love but she can't leave her husband because of her ethnicity . Really . What a joke . She wants to keep her social status and her husbands money . Can you not see that .

Now for Madonna . You were hanging around a married guy . Why !!!! He is not available to you . You said before in other posts that you choose your friends very carefully . Well how did that work out for you . Can't find a single guy that is available ??? I'll bet his wife would have some choice words for you like go find a friend who's available and leave my husband alone . Do you want to be a home wrecker . You were falling for this guy . Does this guy have any kids ? Do you want mommy and daddy to break up because you are falling for this guy ?

Now for him texting you that he can't see you anymore . Many SP's do exactly that . If a client gets too close then they dump him . Even if they were seeing each other for a long time the SP will dump him . Some SP's will even ignore his texts even though they had a great client realationship . These SP's are certainly not thinking about his feelings are they . When guys come on here and say what has happened to them they are told to move on and forget about it even though their feeling have been hurt . Stop acting like a stalker and move on . The guy is a douchebag because he texted you . Really , what do you call SP's who do the same thing or ignore their clients texts when they want to dump them ?

Go find a guy that is single and who might be available to you . Plenty of single guys that would love to talk and talk about the facts of life and leave the married guys alone .

You are hurt because he choose his wife over you . What did you expect was going to happen . Really .

 

[peter4025]

I think that you really don't understand foreign cultures. Many East Indian people don't have a choice but marry by convenience. Their marriages are prearranged and yes it happens here n Canada quite often. Don't call her a user if you don't know her circumstances.
I know several men and women that would love to get divorced but they simply can't. They have to much to loose by doing so. One of the worst reason is not economical but being ostracize by their families and communities.

I don't think that it's wrong falling in love with married people. A big number of married couples are just keeping appearances due to many factors like kids work, social status etc. Why can't this people pursue happiness? As long that the person entering this type of relationship understands that he/she will probably Never leave the partner. If they are ok with it good for them. But be aware that it could be painful if it ends. Love is not easy.

Madonna I'm sorry for what happened to you. It hearts now but it will slowly fade away. Just treasure the moments you had together. This is what makes the sprain that you are.

 

[John Henry]

My wife is smart enough not to make demands like this on me (if that's what indeed happened). I alone choose my friends, as she chooses hers. She has some male friends (I don't mind in the least) and I have mostly female friends. If my wife was uncomfortable with that situation she would either have to suffer through it or leave me. I can't imagine that I would stay with her very long after she makes me jettison my friends.

So what your saying if your wife became uncomfortable with you having female friends then you would have no problem in her leaving you . Your female friendships mean more to you than your wife's feelings . You would not have a problem in her taking half of what you have and maybe pay alimony every month to your X wife just so you can maintain friendships with your female friends .

Yea Ok . If you say so . LOL

 

[John Henry]

Don't call her a user if you don't know her circumstances.

No one is calling her a user and yes we don't know her circumstances . Yet it's OK to call him a low life scum douchebag when we don't know his circumstances

Love is not easy.

Then don't go looking for love in all the wrong places . She knew the guy was married in the beginning . She suspected it yet she still carried on . Don't want to get burned then don't play with fire .

 

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Now for Madonna . You were hanging around a married guy . Why !!!! He is not available to you . You said before in other posts that you choose your friends very carefully . Well how did that work out for you . Can't find a single guy that is available ??? I'll bet his wife would have some choice words for you like go find a friend who's available and leave my husband alone . Do you want to be a home wrecker . You were falling for this guy . Does this guy have any kids ? Do you want mommy and daddy to break up because you are falling for this guy ?

Now for him texting you that he can't see you anymore . Many SP's do exactly that . If a client gets too close then they dump him . Even if they were seeing each other for a long time the SP will dump him . Some SP's will even ignore his texts even though they had a great client realationship . These SP's are certainly not thinking about his feelings are they . When guys come on here and say what has happened to them they are told to move on and forget about it even though their feeling have been hurt . Stop acting like a stalker and move on . The guy is a douchebag because he texted you . Really , what do you call SP's who do the same thing or ignore their clients texts when they want to dump them ?

Go find a guy that is single and who might be available to you . Plenty of single guys that would love to talk and talk about the facts of life and leave the married guys alone .

You are hurt because he choose his wife over you . What did you expect was going to happen . Really .

What a pile of horse shit. What the guy is soo fragile like a little bird and incapable of perceiving if a woman wants to wreck his home. Yes, let's just assume that any woman who has a relationship with a married guy is a home wrecker. Fucking brilliant right there. But it's okay that we married guys use these ladies for fun on the side and toss them to the curb when their usefulness to us has expired. You have no idea what transpired in their relationship. 3 years is a long time. Both of them are adults and capable of making their own decisions. Obviously they both decided on this relationship. Madonna liked him as a friend until he ended it like a bitch. But in your eyes Mandonna is a house wrecker because he is married and she is not...hmmm nice double standard there!

As for the SPs doing this its irrelevant. We are not friends with SPs during initial business transaction so who gives a fuck how cold they are. How is this relevant? We pay SPs for a service and leave with no hard feelings. Something SPs sense they can turn a client into a walking ATM and string him along. Sometimes client, and some are married guys, sense they can use a particular SP and string her along. Both use each other until the last one decides to cut the string.

Now how the fuck is this relevant. She clearly said he was not her client. They were just friends who clicked intellectually until they guy pulled a bitch move. This is what it is based on this post. There is no point in trying to figure out what happened as this discussion is based on the facts of this thread regardless of true or not.

You have no place assuming why she is hurt and telling her what to do. This is being disrespectful and unfair to someone who was trying to vent and maybe get some support and get other POVs on this topic in general. She is not asking what went wrong, why or for us to judge her. I value her openess and find value in this discussion, stop judging her, maybe we should be judging you and combing through all your bitch posts for signs to bring you down.

Your statements are onsided and intended to shame her and make her feel bad. This is another bitch move and this is my opinion on your horse shit drivel post.

Show some respect as Madonna has contributed to this community a lot. What have you done but spew your poison?

 

[bolt.upright]

So what your saying if your wife became uncomfortable with you having female friends then you would have no problem in her leaving you . Your female friendships mean more to you than your wife's feelings . You would not have a problem in her taking half of what you have and maybe pay alimony every month to your X wife just so you can maintain friendships with your female friends .

Yea Ok . If you say so . LOL

It's never going to happen. My wife doesn't mind my female friends, and I don't mind her male friends.

 

[John Henry]

What a pile of horse shit. What the guy is soo fragile like a little bird and incapable of perceiving if a woman wants to wreck his home. Yes, let's just assume that any woman who has a relationship with a married guy is a home wrecker. Fucking brilliant right there. But it's okay that we married guys use these ladies for fun on the side and toss them to the curb when their usefulness to us has expired. You have no idea what transpired in their relationship. 3 years is a long time. Both of them are adults and capable of making their own decisions. Obviously they both decided on this relationship. Madonna liked him as a friend until he ended it like a bitch. But in your eyes Mandonna is a house wrecker because he is married and she is not...hmmm nice double standard there!

As for the SPs doing this its irrelevant. We are not friends with SPs during initial business transaction so who gives a fuck how cold they are. How is this relevant? We pay SPs for a service and leave with no hard feelings. Something SPs sense they can turn a client into a walking ATM and string him along. Sometimes client, and some are married guys, sense they can use a particular SP and string her along. Both use each other until the last one decides to cut the string.

Now how the fuck is this relevant. She clearly said he was not her client. They were just friends who clicked intellectually until they guy pulled a bitch move. This is what it is based on this post. There is no point in trying to figure out what happened as this discussion is based on the facts of this thread regardless of true or not.

You have no place assuming why she is hurt and telling her what to do. This is being disrespectful and unfair to someone who was trying to vent and maybe get some support and get other POVs on this topic in general. She is not asking what went wrong, why or for us to judge her. I value her openess and find value in this discussion, stop judging her, maybe we should be judging you and combing through all your bitch posts for signs to bring you down.

Your statements are onsided and intended to shame her and make her feel bad. This is another bitch move and this is my opinion on your horse shit drivel post.

Show some respect as Madonna has contributed to this community a lot. What have you done but spew your poison?

Just because you have a different opinion then I have doesn't make it horse shit . Were not talking about what Madonna has contributed to this community . Yes any woman who hangs around a married guy is looking for something . You think that she is the only one that has been wrongly done by . I'm still waiting 15 years later for a I'll get back to you later phone call . Maybe it was easier for the guy just to text then see her in person. Ever think about that .

Again you are one of these guy who dare to put someone down when their opinion doesn't co-inside with yours . Call it what ever you want to . I really don't give a shit what you think . Do you know this guy at all . No you don't so how dare you call him names . You don't know what his situation is do you but you think that he is a douchebag . How shallow is that . I have my opinion and you have yours .

Moral of the story is don't hang around married guys . Simple as that . She knew what she was getting into . Can't you see that . A grown mature woman is what she is . Get over it lady . The guy is married . He made his choice . Live with it . Move on .

I call it as I see it . To bad if you don't like it .

 

[John Henry]

It's never going to happen. My wife doesn't mind my female friends, and I don't mind her male friends.

Then your one lucky guy to have a wife like that .

 

[MadonnaLove]

If you both are so much in love then why is she your X-girlfriend to begin with . Her husband is too busy to spend some quality time with her . Didn't she see this before she married the guy . What did she expect was going to happen . Did she marry the guy for his money and social status . Sure looks like it . Why didn't she marry you if both of you were in love so much ? Her hubby doesn't have time right now for her so she runs to you for comfort . Real nice of her to do that .

My X girlfriend and I are so much in love but she can't leave her husband because of her ethnicity . Really . What a joke . She wants to keep her social status and her husbands money . Can you not see that .

Now for Madonna . You were hanging around a married guy . Why !!!! He is not available to you . You said before in other posts that you choose your friends very carefully . Well how did that work out for you . Can't find a single guy that is available ??? I'll bet his wife would have some choice words for you like go find a friend who's available and leave my husband alone . Do you want to be a home wrecker . You were falling for this guy . Does this guy have any kids ? Do you want mommy and daddy to break up because you are falling for this guy ?

Now for him texting you that he can't see you anymore . Many SP's do exactly that . If a client gets too close then they dump him . Even if they were seeing each other for a long time the SP will dump him . Some SP's will even ignore his texts even though they had a great client realationship . These SP's are certainly not thinking about his feelings are they . When guys come on here and say what has happened to them they are told to move on and forget about it even though their feeling have been hurt . Stop acting like a stalker and move on . The guy is a douchebag because he texted you . Really , what do you call SP's who do the same thing or ignore their clients texts when they want to dump them ?

Go find a guy that is single and who might be available to you . Plenty of single guys that would love to talk and talk about the facts of life and leave the married guys alone .

You are hurt because he choose his wife over you . What did you expect was going to happen . Really .

first of all i was only friends with him i didn't expect to see him on a daily basis and have amazing conversations but we did for 3 years and he even said to me ill always be here for you .....we never had an argument. Did i plan on falling for him ? absolutely not but i realized it when he said he can't see me anymore. I have lots of male friends that are married that i haven't wanted more then friendship. I am moving on but it really sucks when you lose your best friend.

 

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Just because you have a different opinion then I have doesn't make it horse shit . Were not talking about what Madonna has contributed to this community . Yes any woman who hangs around a married guy is looking for something .

You are generalizing all women, being condescending and assuming shit and being disrespectful.

Now for Madonna . You were hanging around a married guy . Why !!!! He is not available to you . You said before in other posts that you choose your friends very carefully . Well how did that work out for you . Can't find a single guy that is available ??? I'll bet his wife would have some choice words for you like go find a friend who's available and leave my husband alone . Do you want to be a home wrecker . You were falling for this guy . Does this guy have any kids ? Do you want mommy and daddy to break up because you are falling for this guy ?

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You are being very disrespectful here assuming shit and trying to get personal. This is not an opinion anymore this is an attempt to control, put someone down and tell them what to do.

Stop acting like a stalker and move on . The guy is a douchebag because he texted you . Really , what do you call SP's who do the same thing or ignore their clients texts when they want to dump them ?

Go find a guy that is single and who might be available to you . Plenty of single guys that would love to talk and talk about the facts of life and leave the married guys alone .

You are crossing the line here, trying to control her and tell her what to do and belittle her. This is not an opinion as claimed in your posts, this is getting personal, very disrespectful and crossing the line.

You are hurt because he choose his wife over you . What did you expect was going to happen . Really .

Making a lot of assumptions again and trying to put someone down. This is not making opinions, this is crossing the lines. What gives you the right to disrespect others like this, try to control the like this and put them down, and then hide being the I just gave my opinion bs. If you are being disrespectful, be prepared to be disrespected back.

Listen, I feel for you that your are still waiting for that phone call 15 years later. But for fucks shake, don't project this on other women and treat them like shit because the one that has betrayed you. It is not fair to them and to you. Just find a way to move on, and let it go, despite how much it hurts. Its not cool projecting your shit onto others. Maybe just get an SP and let off some of that pent up tension, then come back and post your stuff. It might help.

 

[John Henry]

I would say never let your previous relationship experiences limit you from your new experience. It is not fair to let the dynamics from one relationship ruin the growth of another even though we may think they are lessons. Sometimes they are but sometimes they limit us.

The guy sounds like a deuchebag for bailing on a true friend.


You know how many times I asked this question. Why do we have to run from love. If we love someone we will want the best for them even if it means not being with the other person because they are married or in a relationship. Why can't we respect their place in life and still maintain friends.

I think true love and friendship is stronger then any marital bind or relationship status....true friends stay like this forever regardless of the changes in life. Why can't we have higher level relationship. Maybe the guy realized he was developing feelings and was affecting his marriage and the guy ran like a little pussy.


You just haven't met a real man that respects you and does not run when feelings are being developed, regardless of your situation or relationship status and still can manage the feelings and value of the friendship you have and does what it takes to feed it and make it work.

Please dont loose hope. There are good men out there and good women. You sound like a great woman that someone would be very fortunate and lucky to know. I have observed your posts since you started on terb and you are as real as it gets. Don't let these deuchebags ruin it for you, there are still nice guys out there!

Its no excuse to string someone along and use them for the part they are not getting at home, which is typical us married guys like to do, which includes sharing some of the best parts of us to soak up their resonance to it and offer us some sort of feedback, interest and reaction to it back to us. You don't know their story, neither do I. It does not really matter, he was the one who called it off from this post and it seems like it took her by surprise. We really have no idea and can only offer our opinion as he may have been a deuche. Sound like he was using her, because if he wasn't at least that he can do it end it like a man and talk to her and tell her why he is being conflicted and that he can't handle it any more and that he is sorry....etc... if it was all him, 3 years is a long time to string someone along. Only they would know.I know this type very well cause sometimes I find myself fighting the temptation to not do this to others cause I'm not getting the reaction at home thus have the urge of the attitude which makes me say might as well give/get the high to someone else and feed off on their positive reactions to the good parts that get ignored. Its like having all this energy and having no one to receive and react to it which includes the mind part. It sounds like he pulled a bitch move.

You are generalizing all women, being condescending and assuming shit and being disrespectful.

You are being very disrespectful here assuming shit and trying to get personal. This is not an opinion anymore this is an attempt to control, put someone down and tell them what to do.

Making a lot of assumptions again and trying to put someone down. This is not making opinions, this is crossing the lines. What gives you the right to disrespect others like this, try to control the like this and put them down, and then hide being the I just gave my opinion bs. If you are being disrespectful, be prepared to be disrespected back.

Really . What gives you the right to call this guy a douchebag and a pussy . Are you trying to control how he does things . Making a lot of assumptions about this aren't you yet you dare to say that I am about her . Do you even know this guy at all . I'll bet NO so how dare you call him names . The guy could be a very nice person after all he hung around with Madonna for 3 years . Are you saying that she fell in love with a bad person.

The guy is MARRIED for fu*cks sake . Doesn't being married mean anything to you at all . It's all about going through the good times and the bad times together . The world is not about what a single persons needs . Being married means that you have a partner to consider or does it .

What if you had a daughter that was married for a few years and she caught her husband going out secretly and seeing other women . How would feel about that . Would you say that her husband has a right to be happy in his own way so you would welcome him with open arms . I think not . Would you tell your daughter that her husband has a right to be happy even though it hurts her that he has this thing with another woman . Think about that for a minute . To hell with his wife ( your daughter ) he has a right to be happy . Yea OK . LOL

So he texted her . Does that make him bad person . Maybe he couldn't do it to her face . How do you know what's he's feeling . It would hurt him too much to actually see her again . What right do you have to say what kind of a man is . Many men don't f*ck around their wives no matter how bad it gets at home . They stay faithful to their wives even if it hurts them . That's what a real man does . Real men don't say I have a right to do this or that even because they have a right to be happy. If that's the case then why bother having a relationship or even get married .


Last but not least do not try and control what another person has to say on the board if you don't agree with them . Learn to accept what someone else's views are and leave it at that . When was the last time you walked on water and who made you Mr. Know It All .

You'd make a great marriage counselor . Just tell them do what ever makes you happy .

 

[nlt76]

John give it up man, the artist formerly known as Prince is clearly unstable.