This is for the OP
I'm not sure, but I get the impression he's geniunely shocked at the reaction his request for advice generated
The issue is that he is does not understand the makeup of the board
There's several types of guys who see SPs. There's one group that are married, but need to have something on the side for whatever reason. Whether its because their wives are frigid, or won't take it up the ass, or their wives are demons in the sack, but the guy is even more sex-obssessed than her so he needs more than she can offer. Sex or the lack of it might be the only issue in their marriage (almost never the case IMHO) so they need a way to indulge their sex drive without their wives finding out. Divorce sucks, especially financially. SPs are ideal. There's a much lesser chance of getting caught than with a civilian, very little danger of a Fatal Attraction-type situation, the variety can be endless, and the financial investment might be considerably less than the cost of having a civilian mistress on the side. However, in my opinion, the percentage of guys like this are a minority, at least on the board. There's another section of guys who date civilians, or have the ability to do so, but frequent SPs. They work long hours, they don't want attachments, they like the thrill of paying for it, they have specific sexual needs that the average women does not provide.
However a much much larger section are guys who simply can't, or won't, date civilian girls. Whether its because they're unattractive, obese, have poor social skills, or maybe they could, but they've gotten so addicted to the thrill of paying for it, that they can't even imagine conversing with a women without passing her an envelope of cash or a wrinkled bundle of 20s. This is why the hobby is addictive. You walk into a strip club with a wad of bills, and you're a king. You have the money to book multiple-hour appointments, or see multiple girls a week, the girls will treat you like a king, the agency owners will give you special treatment (not necessarily discounts), and even fellow board members will come to you like you are the Oracle of Delphi. Whatever shortcomings you have, as long as you have the cash, you are an Adonis. For guys who have never felt like that before, it's a rush. The problem is, that there is absolutely no correlation between this world and the civilian world. Even calling regular women 'civilians' shows how out of touch the two worlds are. The guys in this second group don't understand this. So when they see a guy and a girl in a functional relationship, they don't understand it. The girl must be a bitch, the guy must be seeing SPs on the side, the girl must not be putting out, or into the guy for his money only, the guy must be a sap for only sleeping with her. These guys don't understand why they can't have that, so they blame external factors. Or usually, they blame women. Women must be bitches, they must be gold-diggers, they must be superficial, they must be racist. Take your pick of the excuse. They don't see that in most cases, the only people to blame for them needing to go to SPs, or go to SCs, for any semblance of intimacy or even female contact, are themselves. Some guys on here have legitimate social and psychological disorders. Some are so bitter after years of rejection, that the bile they hold within themselves can't help but to be apparent to everyone else. The point is, some of the people offering the OP so-called 'advice' are from this second group. Any advice they give, must be viewed through this lens. This is why asking legitimate relationship advice on this board is so pointless
There's always going to be a section of women who will not. under any circumstances, will date a guy under a certain height, or who is shorter than them. The size of that section may be large, it be extremely large. I maintain its not as large as people think, but it is more significant than say, girls who wont date guys who wear skinny jeans. I have no experience with this, being Caucasian myself, but I'll accept there's another section of women who won't date Asians for whatever reason. These are preferences, not women being bitches or cunts or whatever other word bitter guys use. But it's only a section. To universalize is stupid. So, to the OP, you essentially have two choices. You can accept the fact that your height, or your race cuts off from a certain section of women, but that if you project an atmosphere of confidence,(not an easy thing to do, I realize) and are just generally a enjoyable guy to be around, you will find someone, without having to scrape the bottom of the POF barrel. Or you can listen to these profoundly damaged, bitter people here, and stop trying. Accept your fate, and cosign yourself to a life of hating women, and yet paying to see them.
It's a pretty easy decision, IMHO
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