Don't Fucking Look At Me While I'm Eating

[WoodPeckr]

Try reading the initial post with George Costanza's voice in mind.

LMAO!!!!!!

I was thinking the same thing!.....

 

[simon482]

LMAO, gotta love the guy code, your situation is almost like the urinal one...... always one spot apart.

 

[OIIIIIIIO]

Damn! I thought this post was going to be about her watching while enjoying DATY .. I was gonna say, "I kinda like it when she looks at me while I'm eating"!!

 

[S.C. Joe]

Why did you noticed him?

Its fuck up today, guys picking up other guys, etc, I learn just to mind my own business and not notice everything, you wanna stare at me while I'm eating go ahead, I'm not noticing you...I used to but what is the point of getting work up over it ? People have issues today and they are not drawing me in to their problems

 

[Smash]

I think he wanted to go Brokeback Mountain on you:eyebrows:

 

[OddSox]

Why the fuck you worried about him? You got a newspaper - read it.

 

[Mikehorn]

Anyone else notice this thread is over three years old?

 

[Ohyesuare]

I hate people looking at me when I am eating also, or just looking at me in general unless it is a hot chick. I would have just moved if he was bothering you so much.

 

[mrsCALoki]

Capital, it is a good thing that you are not a paranoid schizophrenic, otherwise you would have not been able to handle this traumatic event

Seems pretty much everyone in a few lines of work like to sit with their backs to the wall, ideally in a corner, and their eyes scanning the room. If you sit with them, they expect you to have your back to the room and anyone else in the restaurant.

Probably a terrible idea to pick a fight with them .

 

[night ride]

Why did you noticed him?

Its fuck up today, guys picking up other guys, etc, I learn just to mind my own business and not notice everything, you wanna stare at me while I'm eating go ahead, I'm not noticing you...I used to but what is the point of getting work up over it ? People have issues today and they are not drawing me in to their problems

This is the best way to look at it. Look right thorugh him like he isn't even there. Back to the subject of urinals, when a guy pulls up next to me I no longer let it bug me when he is looking down. I don't try to conceal anything as I used to or let it stop the "flow" of things. I tell myself the guy isn't looking, and if he is then he's playing for the other team and I feel pity for him.

 

[oldjones]

So I'm out of town on business right now. I head down to the restaurant in my hotel for dinner, and opt to eat on the pub side, instead of the restaurant side. I'm on my own. Since I do a fair bit of travelling and have to eat the occasional meal solo, I have a newspaper with me so I don't spend the meal staring into space (The Economist works well too).

Anyhow, the basement pub is empty, and I wander into a completely unoccupied ante-room, and so I sit down at a table in the middle of the room, facing a large screen TV which is playing MuchMoreMusic, with the volume off. I order a pint, open my paper, and lo and behold another guy walks in and sits two tables away from me, in a corner table, facing me directly. He has no paper of his own, is alone, and is sitting directly in my line of sight. FUCK OFF. Don't do that. Ever. Its freaking weird.

Now, this guy is 50-ish, dressed like a normal middle-class Canadian, is wearing a wedding band, talks without a lisp, basically seems like a normal dad who's out of town for whatever reason and has gone to the hotel bar for dinner. But, come on. He's just sitting there, staring into space, directly in my line of sight. Its like when you go into a booth at a restaurant, with your back to the wall, and someone else comes in alone and sits two booths down, facing you, instead of facing the same direction as you.

Anyhow, when you are out for a meal on your own, JUST DON'T DO THAT. EVER. Its freaking weird.

a) You show waay more interest in other male patrons than is good for them or you.
b) you probably evaluated him pretty accurately.
c) You did the good, sensible thing and just finished your business there, leaving him to finish his.
d) You then blew it all by coming here to say the other guy was weird because he was unaware of your bizarre notions of your privacy: "…like when you go into a booth at a restaurant, with your back to the wall, and someone else comes in alone and sits two booths down, facing you.

Please tell me I missed your humorous intent.

 

[red]

So I'm out of town on business right now. I head down to the restaurant in my hotel for dinner, and opt to eat on the pub side, instead of the restaurant side. I'm on my own. Since I do a fair bit of travelling and have to eat the occasional meal solo, I have a newspaper with me so I don't spend the meal staring into space (The Economist works well too).

Anyhow, the basement pub is empty, and I wander into a completely unoccupied ante-room, and so I sit down at a table in the middle of the room, facing a large screen TV which is playing MuchMoreMusic, with the volume off. I order a pint, open my paper, and lo and behold another guy walks in and sits two tables away from me, in a corner table, facing me directly. He has no paper of his own, is alone, and is sitting directly in my line of sight. FUCK OFF. Don't do that. Ever. Its freaking weird.

Now, this guy is 50-ish, dressed like a normal middle-class Canadian, is wearing a wedding band, talks without a lisp, basically seems like a normal dad who's out of town for whatever reason and has gone to the hotel bar for dinner. But, come on. He's just sitting there, staring into space, directly in my line of sight. Its like when you go into a booth at a restaurant, with your back to the wall, and someone else comes in alone and sits two booths down, facing you, instead of facing the same direction as you.

Anyhow, when you are out for a meal on your own, JUST DON'T DO THAT. EVER. Its freaking weird.

Did you ever know that your my heerrrroooooo

 

[mrsCALoki]

Did you ever know that your my heerrrroooooo

Sometimes you have a brilliant sense of humour. lol

 

[S.C. Joe]

This is the best way to look at it. Look right thorugh him like he isn't even there. Back to the subject of urinals, when a guy pulls up next to me I no longer let it bug me when he is looking down. I don't try to conceal anything as I used to or let it stop the "flow" of things. I tell myself the guy isn't looking, and if he is then he's playing for the other team and I feel pity for him.

Back in high school in my senior year, this 5- 60 year old teacher in I forget, social studies ? well he came in the bathroom once to use the urinal -which most of us never used, we used the bathroom to comb our long hair and deal pot, lol Well he just pulled his dick out and made no effort all to hide it. The bathroom mirror gave a full view of his big dick. He was trying to pick us up and got away with it but then again we shouldn't had look in the mirror -correct ?



I never got used to showering in the locker rooms, for swim time it was shower with bathing suits on, ha ha

If your conformable with it, good for you I say. I hear over in Europe its more common and guys are more at ease with their bodies. Speedo briefs on the beach are common and not just for the gays. Over here we got men wearing swimsuits that go down to their knees, it looks better yes but once wet the suit takes forever to dry, those little speedo suits dry quicker and you can always wear a regular swim suit over it when not in the water. In private pools I'm ok now with that cause its more comfortable not have a large wet swimsuit on.

Once in Mexico other guys were in speedos on the beach but back then I was too embarrassed to even own a speedo, let alone wear it in a private setting, today I've gotten a more I don't give a shit attitude -unless she is really hot, ha ha

Yes some guys will stare at you, stinks but just how it is over here. Jamaica doesn't put up with that shit, ha ha

 

[Lustology]

If he's looking at you than why are you looking back at him.

Change chairs or face the other way, you can't do shit, freedom to fucking look where you want, that's what you call it.

 

[frankcastle]

If you don't want to be looked at get a booth or don't eat in public.

I'm sure you never check out women when you are out and about.

 

[Celticman]

Paranoia is a treatable disease.

 

[GPIDEAL]

This kind of reminds me of a funny story relating to social protocol I once had to endure.My roommate and i went to a matinee(early show..cause y'know being at a late one with a dude is gay.).anyway..i sit down next to him and he just looks at me incredilously and said "Dude would you sit this close to me if we were sitting on the couch at home?!?"...Lesson learned.Cheers

Bullshit. Nothing wrong with going to a late show with a buddy. Sitting next to one another is no big deal. Later you can go to the strip joint. What's gay is going to a matinee show with a dude (are you fucking kidding me?).

 

[kynorth]

I totally get the OP's point. It probably comes down to what we consider, individually, to be reasonable rules of behaviour in society. I think what the 2nd dude did was weird - picking a table in an otherwise empty restaurant that put the two patrons directly in their line of sight when he could have chosen a myriad of others that didn't have the same result. But then again I'm not a terribly social person so expect myself and others to ensure our personal space is protected whenever possible.

I don't think it makes me or the OP weird, it's just our perception of what's "normal" (which is subjective since there's no rule book - oh, except about where to sit with your dude friend at the matinee).

 

[milehigh]

I suggest you just be a bit careful if this happens. A long time a go, I was in a crowded restaurant.... and same thing - this guy kept staring at me, then laughing and talking to his buddies. Went on for a while, then I just didn't pay any attention, and I should have. Didn't notice he got up and stood beside me while I was eating and sucker punched me. Knocked me out for a few secs, and got me for a bunch of stitches. So I just always keep an eye on my surroundings now.