Need some help boys! Trying to date a civie!
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I am a lunatic because I would not be impressed by some man 1,400 kilometres away that I did not fin particular interesting or charming had decided that the million women closer to him were not worth pursuing and he had to convince me, a near stranger that we were destined to be together?
hun, you really need to get a life and start to understand how women think. He says she is attractive and intelligent. Why would we bother starting a long distance relationship with someone unless we had to? Why would we trust a man who is trying to do it to us?
You really do not find the entire situation creepy at best?
Lots of good suggestions listed.
Don't limit yourself. Meet as many women as you possibly can. You can narrow things down later. Takes a lot of time, but worth it because a really good match is difficult.
What I can suggest is that you may have done too much research on her + you talk about dating, which implies relationship of some kind. The research part may have shown too much interest and creeped her about a bit. And dating should be changed to date.
So - best thing is just ask for a date. Forget about the research. With other women, you'll go out on some bad dates. But you will find some surprises too.
So if you want to pursue this lady and can still fix it, just ask her for a date - I know distance is a pain. And if she asks why you interested, pay her some real compliments.
Take it nice and slow.
I'm no expert - just trying to help.
Don't limit yourself. Meet as many women as you possibly can. You can narrow things down later. Takes a lot of time, but worth it because a really good match is difficult.
What I can suggest is that you may have done too much research on her + you talk about dating, which implies relationship of some kind. The research part may have shown too much interest and creeped her about a bit. And dating should be changed to date.
So - best thing is just ask for a date. Forget about the research. With other women, you'll go out on some bad dates. But you will find some surprises too.
So if you want to pursue this lady and can still fix it, just ask her for a date - I know distance is a pain. And if she asks why you interested, pay her some real compliments.
Take it nice and slow.
I'm no expert - just trying to help.
There's no interest from her, she's hundreds of miles away, and you're pursuing her because you have no alternatives. That sounds needy and a bit creepy - no wonder she's giving you the cold shoulder. Women respond to interesting, achieving and confident men. If you feel that way and act that way, you'll meet many women. This one is a no go from boh ends - she's not interested and you don't even sound attracted to her. I agree with an earlier post - many women seem inherently unhappy, so don't be so eager to find just anyone.
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Through a woman's eyes if she is attracted to him it is romantic if not it is creepy.
Not good advice at all to surprise her with a visit! He should consult with her first since maybe she doesn't want him to visit her and because she didn't invite him. She would not like him just showing up on her door step........very bad idea to say the least.
Honesty could've been your best weapon. Should've just told her you're sick and tired of the Vancouver Vagina Action and willing to find a good nice poon from the plains. Long distance relationship has low chance of working out...too much penis and pussies involved...
You know what you sound like the rest of your life is together. Relax, getting into a relationship is not time sensitive...... unless you don't care about quality. You COULD be dating someone but if it's not someone you are interested it's a waste of time.
Dont spend too much time analyzing the black box of this failed attempt. She said some crazy stuff so not sure if there's anything to the lack of confidence angle. But food for thought just don't over compensate and go uber alpha on the next girl.
You're pumping a dry well dude. Forget about her and find someone in Vancouver. I used to live there and if you can't find someone there you've really got a problem. I started dating a civie a year ago and gave up the hobby. It took me about a year and a half through dating sites but I finally found one who was not crazy or looking for a Daddy. You need to persevere and you'll probably kiss a lot of toads before you find your princess.
To the OP: Women are interested in men of the world. If you're a guy who has it all together, and look like a good catch to women in general, the more you look like you're in demand, the more appealing you will be.Or desperate
Chasing this women in another province MAY seem like you're desparate. Now, if I recall correctly, I think you said you were a pilot in another thread. Well, if your job allows you to visit Regina more than the average joe, then you may not seem so desparate, but a man-of-the-world with means.
However, the reason why she isn't convinced that you like her is that she's wondering why you think she's special from so far away. If you told her that it was hard to date the thousands of women closer to you, she may think you're socially inept (unless she's already figured that out - she's a psyche major).
What she wants to hear is that you have dated women at home but never knew or met anyone quite like her, and that you'll travel far just to get to know her better.
Another point is that if she is a serious-minded lady, why should she give you a chance to get close if you live in another province? Maybe she's concerned about you being here today, and gone tomorrow.
One last point. I would never try to persuade a women to date me (or that 'we should consider dating') - THAT sounds arrogant. You're supposed to ask a lady if she will go out on a date with you. That's the approach to take.
Some blind date you see once and were not impressed by chasing you from the next province, is you are not desperate, is creepy.
If you want the guy, than it is romantic.
