True, no matter how much you may think that it's common sense not to approach an SP/client in public, there are always selfish idiots and morons out there who think the universe revolves around them--walking train wrecks hoping to derail your life with their arrogant, stupid, and selfish attitudes.
Today I saw one SP met before
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It could also be someone new to the hobby who doesn't have a grasp of the etiquette rather than someone intending to be malicious. Either way it's possible fallout from being involved in the trade as a supplier or customer. Like a STD.
just adding...when i met and chatted with the woman i had seen as an sp...it was mutual...as she also walked towards me...i've read enough here to know that you are forgotten for the most part when you walk out the door...
I would giggle. look at whomever I am with and when he left I would tell them.. he is a guy that came up to me before and asked for my name and number.. then I would laff and be like I told him my name was raven and gave him a fake number,, hehe dude has got it for me bad!!!
A woman is an SP only during her working hour & in her working place. It must be stressful to live a double life. Why make things more difficult for her? A polite smile is enough.
... Even if a girl who works in this industry tells her significant other what she does ~ saying hello could prove to cause her a headache if her significant other is near-by.
I worked in Vaughan for 6 years - it was far from home for me at that time. Running into clients was not something I feared. Running into a client while I was with a boyfriend was definitely not something that was likely to happen to me.
One summer day my ex and I head out to Maple for a planned day at Wonderland but it started raining so we detoured to Vaughan Mills. While walking through the mall, not one but two of my regular clients said hi to me. One while I was clearly with a boyfriend, the other while I was walking out of a store while in eyesight of my bf. He knew what I did and where I worked but he always had a hard time with my "job". There was only one way I could know a guy from Woodbridge... work. Seeing two guys come up to me who were clearly my clients was (understandably) hard for him and it probably was the start of the end of our relationship. He obviously had a hard time dealing with what I did in the first place but putting a real life face to an abstract image to what my clients might look like proved to be too much for him.
I've been approached in public, I've been called "Rachel" (my old "work" name which is not my name) infront of friends, and I've discretely smiled and nodded while walking by myself when I ran into gentlemen I've seen but never approached. Respect goes both ways - no one should assume either party wants to have a conversation when we run into one another in "real life".
ps- just because a girl is taking the TTC, it doesn't mean it's out of necessity lol.
I worked in Vaughan for 6 years - it was far from home for me at that time. Running into clients was not something I feared. Running into a client while I was with a boyfriend was definitely not something that was likely to happen to me.
One summer day my ex and I head out to Maple for a planned day at Wonderland but it started raining so we detoured to Vaughan Mills. While walking through the mall, not one but two of my regular clients said hi to me. One while I was clearly with a boyfriend, the other while I was walking out of a store while in eyesight of my bf. He knew what I did and where I worked but he always had a hard time with my "job". There was only one way I could know a guy from Woodbridge... work. Seeing two guys come up to me who were clearly my clients was (understandably) hard for him and it probably was the start of the end of our relationship. He obviously had a hard time dealing with what I did in the first place but putting a real life face to an abstract image to what my clients might look like proved to be too much for him.
I've been approached in public, I've been called "Rachel" (my old "work" name which is not my name) infront of friends, and I've discretely smiled and nodded while walking by myself when I ran into gentlemen I've seen but never approached. Respect goes both ways - no one should assume either party wants to have a conversation when we run into one another in "real life".
ps- just because a girl is taking the TTC, it doesn't mean it's out of necessity lol.
Thanks for sharing Jennifer. Guys reading this will be able to appreciate the consequences of simply saying hello, regardless of the work name and hopefully be more discreet.
P.S. I take the subway to go downtown to travel faster, avoid traffic & expensive parking.
I ran into a client when I was shopping at a store in SomeCity last month. I was very thankful he had the good sense to pretend like he never saw me, because I would have had a really hard time explaining to my mom who was with me (although not standing right next to me at the time) who this middle-aged guy from SomeCity was and where I knew him from.
It turns out he was also very thankful I had the good sense to ignore him as well, since one of his relative was with him, in the next alley.
Anyone who doesn't understand the basic principle of "What happened in Vegas stays in Vegas" has no business playing/working in this hobby/industry.
It turns out he was also very thankful I had the good sense to ignore him as well, since one of his relative was with him, in the next alley.
Anyone who doesn't understand the basic principle of "What happened in Vegas stays in Vegas" has no business playing/working in this hobby/industry.
Well G.Q. handsome I will agree is not the case, but certainly decent looking, not that old, quite charming, and I do know how to wash, brush my teeth, use deodorant etc. . . .
Genintoronto and Jennifer, what are your feelings about making eye contact, nodding, perhaps smiling and moving on?
This seems appropriate to me, but I'm interested in your perspectives.
This seems appropriate to me, but I'm interested in your perspectives.
no hes describing me actually or his dad maybe...Well G.Q. handsome I will agree is not the case, but certainly decent looking, not that old, quite charming, and I do know how to wash, brush my teeth, use deodorant etc. . . .
It's hard to give a definite answer and I can only speak for myself since other girls might have different circumstances. I'm a social person and I tend to have random conversations with people all the time lol. I live downtown and spend most of my time in downtown so it's plausible that I could randomly come face to face with someone I recognize from a past conversation in a store or a restaurant, or while waiting for the subway. I'm also in a position where the people who are closest to me in my life know what I do so I'm pretty-sure that as long as I am not approached by someone who recognizes me with an indiscreet conversation, I personally could come up with a cover story. Not all ladies in the business are in a position like me though.
At the same time, since the people closest to me do know what I do, if I were to run into a client while with someone in my life who knows, seeing me do the smile and nod to a "strange" man would likely lead them to assume he was a client.
The last time I remember running into a gentlemen who had seem me (more than a few times), I was walking down the street alone and he was with another man (likely his co-worker). We made eye contact and smiled and kept going. We're relatively close in age and both are always in the area where we ran into one another so smiling wouldn't have raised any eyebrows. We had a laugh about it the next time he saw me for a session.
Generally I think the smile and nod is fine but it always depends on the people involved. When in doubt, I say don't but if you do ~ be discrete.
If it can be interpreted by anyone around as simply a random stranger being friendly - such as smiling to another stranger while crossing path - it's seems appropriate to me.
I don't know why this should be so complicated. I see escorts to enjoy myself for that period of time I'm with them, when I leave her I'm back to my reality world and life goes on. If I ever was in the company of an escort I saw before I wouldn't even know it was her because I forget who I was with after I leave my session with her, lol. The lady might remember me but I have no idea who she is and innocently ignore her. That's the benefit of getting older and developing dementia, lol.
