Hard time cumming
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Maybe a a conversation with this guy:
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=2856870&posted=1#post2856870
Maybe you 2 can help each other...
https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?p=2856870&posted=1#post2856870
Maybe you 2 can help each other...
Yeah, I saw that. I thought about hijacking his thread -- but he has enough problems as it is.
That could be it.
So in anticipation of seeing the SP, I told "no" to Mr. Lefty.
Still didn't work. Maybe 3 days wasn't enough? Is there a way to get around this?No, she gave me a great BBBJ and I thought a few times it was going to happen but nothing.
No, maybe I'll try that next time. I mean the SP was pretty hot looking so I didn't think I would need more stimulus.
This topic should be made a sticky.
Assuming there are no medical explanation (the pipes work well, you're not on some medication such as antidepressant that are known to reduce your libido and ability to cum, good mental and physical health, healthy diet, etc.), a very common explanation for your trouble would be your wanking habits.
Many guys tend to use a very tight grip when jerking off, and/or to not vary much their wanking routine. The side effect of this is that Jr. gets into the habit and becomes unable to cum from other, often more subtle or gentle, forms of stimulation. As someone else as said, a pussy or a mouth is not going to provide Jr. with the same firm and vigorous stimulation as your hand does.
So what do you do? Re-train your cock by changing and varying your wanking routine. Jerk off with a condom (assuming that you are going to use them at least for FS, it's a good idea to train your cock to enjoy the sensations through a condom), use lots of lube, loosen up the grip on Jr. use your non-dominant hand to jerk off, get yourself a fleshlight, etc.
The key here is to be the bigger man, and to not give into Jr.'s protestations. It will most likely take a few wanking sessions for your cock to re-learn to enjoy and cum from different sensations and stimulations. But don't give up by reverting back to your old habits. After a few frustrating sessions, your cock will learn to take what it gets and to cum from it.
Assuming there are no medical explanation (the pipes work well, you're not on some medication such as antidepressant that are known to reduce your libido and ability to cum, good mental and physical health, healthy diet, etc.), a very common explanation for your trouble would be your wanking habits.
Many guys tend to use a very tight grip when jerking off, and/or to not vary much their wanking routine. The side effect of this is that Jr. gets into the habit and becomes unable to cum from other, often more subtle or gentle, forms of stimulation. As someone else as said, a pussy or a mouth is not going to provide Jr. with the same firm and vigorous stimulation as your hand does.
So what do you do? Re-train your cock by changing and varying your wanking routine. Jerk off with a condom (assuming that you are going to use them at least for FS, it's a good idea to train your cock to enjoy the sensations through a condom), use lots of lube, loosen up the grip on Jr. use your non-dominant hand to jerk off, get yourself a fleshlight, etc.
The key here is to be the bigger man, and to not give into Jr.'s protestations. It will most likely take a few wanking sessions for your cock to re-learn to enjoy and cum from different sensations and stimulations. But don't give up by reverting back to your old habits. After a few frustrating sessions, your cock will learn to take what it gets and to cum from it.
Does watching too much porn raises the threshold of excitement too high, that regular sex does not result in climax?
Depends for whom. I can't speak for all women, but an hour of non-stop pounding is not my idea of good or fun sex.Make this a sticky as well, right beside gen's answer.
There's something to be said for being able to pound away for an hour without cumming, ripping off the condom, then jerking off a load on her tits.
The lady does knoweth of what she speaks. The Death Grip can be a killer.
Try hitting either Jackinworld or handjobadvice to pick up a few different grips/techniques. Allows you to mix things up like, Genevieve advises.
Fleshlights are amazing. I have a basic insert in mine. At first Stubby didn't care for it at all. I don't use it exclusively, just as part of my rotation, but not as nearly often as I'd like...But when I do, look out. Another thing I've gotten from the Fleshlight forums is quite a few posters have and use multiple inserts, so again they can mix them up. I've got to get me down to Come As You Are and get me another insert.
As of late, I seem to be having trouble getting aroused, say about a week after seeing an SP. Switching hands does work wonders. Contrary to Genevieve's advice, I do tend to switch back to my main hand once things get going. It's actually the off hand that protests though. "I've seen what you do with your right hand!!"
As for using a condom during a solo session, that I haven't tried, but I see where she's coming from.
I'm not one to say, but the possibility is there. Think of it this way. Porn sex sets the bar at one level. And IMO a lot of people can't reach that level. Also porn is a very visual medium/stimulus. The real deal there is alot more going on. Again, like your johnson, your brain gets condition to be aroused to the visual stimulus. Suddenly when it's receiving tactile stimulus it gets "confused." If that makes sense...Or we can wait until Genevieve explains it so much better.
Have to disagree with you there Brill... Why jerk yourself off when there's a perfectly willing and able woman with 3 "inputs" and 2 hands of her own to do it for you!
