Suggestion for weeding out the BS to get the SB?

[GeeBee]

Any of you gents who've tried the sugar dating sites know the amount of bots and fake profiles there are. It seems that some sites are worse than others, but it appears to be a common complaint about all of them. As I've said in other posts I finally had success on SecBen, but not before a ton of bullshit and what I'm certain were fake profiles just trying to get me to use up credits. (their system for charging / spending)

So my question for the gentlemen of TERB: Other than the usual methods we use to find fakes on LL and the like (Image searches etc...) does anyone have any tips to share about spotting the bullshit and red flags in the world of sugar? Pictures, profile wording or anything else that led to your success.

Also anything to look for that might suggest someone real? I'll start with pics taken at a local spot. If she's at a local landmark or there's a familiar skyline in the background at least I know the pics were taken locally, and not a fake profile used on the site across the world.

Thanks boys. Any suggestions to share might benefit us all.

 

[GeeBee]

Nobody? I guess I'm not alone. Thought there might be brilliant idea out there.

 

[GGGDickson]

Any of you gents who've tried the sugar dating sites know the amount of bots and fake profiles there are. It seems that some sites are worse than others, but it appears to be a common complaint about all of them. As I've said in other posts I finally had success on SecBen, but not before a ton of bullshit and what I'm certain were fake profiles just trying to get me to use up credits. (their system for charging / spending)

So my question for the gentlemen of TERB: Other than the usual methods we use to find fakes on LL and the like (Image searches etc...) does anyone have any tips to share about spotting the bullshit and red flags in the world of sugar? Pictures, profile wording or anything else that led to your success.

Also anything to look for that might suggest someone real? I'll start with pics taken at a local spot. If she's at a local landmark or there's a familiar skyline in the background at least I know the pics were taken locally, and not a fake profile used on the site across the world.

Thanks boys. Any suggestions to share might benefit us all.

I gave up on all the BS especially all the stuff coming out of Eastern Europe. I now rely on my past contacts who spread the word about me and let the real deals come to me. I gave up the SB and just pay as I go. Each few years there is a new scam trying to get your money. I even have a few providers in NA who reach out to me. So I keep my stable clean and let my past providers bring me interesting new ladies that may have an interest in connecting.

Sorry that I was not of more help. I am just so done with that cap. Even match makers. "give me your money and I will find you a hot blonde Ukrainian bride." yea right. Although Oksana was exciting.

 

[Jenesis]

Nobody? I guess I'm not alone. Thought there might be brilliant idea out there.

Give it more time. There is a huge thread on SB’s that has tons of advice. I can’t remember the main member here who is all about SB’s but he will in the thread.

Start here - https://terb.cc/xenforo/threads/average-pay-per-meet-for-sb.729354/

 

[ScrubsFan]

Easiest way to weed out the bs is to blacklist the word "spoiled" and ignore every profile with that word as majority of them are not interested in anything more than just getting $ online without putting in the actual work a proper SB does and here is where the huge chunk of most profiles fit which is why you hear most people complaining about how hard it is to find anyone legit.

Second thing to weed out is lack of any effort/low effort sb. You're spending your hard earned (sometimes) $ on someone else so the least they could do is not cancel plans last minute and be actually happy to meet you. This is a tough one as you may think what you have going with this person is hard to find all over but at the same time no one earns much respect by being walked all over on, so if you're not satisfied for the service that you paid, why bother spending more? Some other people I would also like to give a big shout-out to is people who match you from super far away without the ability to host or drive.

The last thing that I personally do is that I'm direct and forward with my approach. We both know why were on the site so I might as well be clear with my intentions. So if you just want to hook up, be clear in your opening message about it. It saves you both the tiptoeing and their response if yes then great, if not you move on. And looks also play a big factor on the price as well. I'm personally 24 myself and in shape, and out of my 4 legit arrangements so far, they have all mostly wanted 200-250 to start off and over time some have turned into actual relationships and ended and some I still hang with to this day as a normal Fwb. There's no point on wasting time, money and energy on an unreliable person so know when to cut your losses as the sunk cost fallacy hole can be an expensive one to fall down.

 

[jcpro]

Not a criticism of the OP, but I fear that this online thing is becoming like the bar scene in the past; people with balls and those without. How do you weed them out? You arrange a meet and interview them. They want your money and you will pay for what you want if they offer that particular service and if the price is right. Or you move on.

 

[GeeBee]

Not a criticism of the OP, but I fear that this online thing is becoming like the bar scene in the past; people with balls and those without. How do you weed them out? You arrange a meet and interview them. They want your money and you will pay for what you want if they offer that particular service and if the price is right. Or you move on.

I need to clarify my question.
I’m not talking about the real women, I’m perfectly capable of the meeting and discussions etc... when the girl in question is an actual human being. What I’m looking for input on is spotting the fake profiles and bots. So many of them on SecBen, as other posters on other threads have said, and I’m sure all of us would like to save some time and aggravation and only put our efforts into real girls.

 

[ScrubsFan]

I need to clarify my question.
I’m not talking about the real women, I’m perfectly capable of the meeting and discussions etc... when the girl in question is an actual human being. What I’m looking for input on is spotting the fake profiles and bots. So many of them on SecBen, as other posters on other threads have said, and I’m sure all of us would like to save some time and aggravation and only put our efforts into real girls.

Honestly the easiest method for that is asking for their snap/insta and facetime/snapping before meeting up

 

[scouser1]

I have had the idea of getting involved with an SB for awhile, but I'm looking for something very specific, 18 to 23, university /college girl type, with all the scams and nonsense that happens, I have figured it's probably just left as a fantasy.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

I also gave up on SB's. They can't afford me. "$100.00 a month is a fortune is some countries" I told them. "If you can't live on that then SB stands for spoiled brat."

 

[ScrubsFan]

They can't afford me. "$100.00 a month is a fortune is some countries" I told them.

It's clear it's THEM who can't afford you lol

 

[Coolsin000]

I need to clarify my question.
I’m not talking about the real women, I’m perfectly capable of the meeting and discussions etc... when the girl in question is an actual human being. What I’m looking for input on is spotting the fake profiles and bots. So many of them on SecBen, as other posters on other threads have said, and I’m sure all of us would like to save some time and aggravation and only put our efforts into real girls.

Well to determine if they are real or fake. I normally the following questions:

1) What sort of arrangement are you looking for? Just Platonic? Just online? What about physical intimacy?
2) Are you alright with Pay-per-meet (PPM)? If so, what's your range?
3) Before we agree on any arrangement - are you down to meet up for coffee to see if we have any chemistry?

So if she doesn't pass the first three questions - you can assume she is either fake, scammer, not interested in being a proper SB or not your ideal type of girl.

 

[EntertainmentMan2000]

You need to start walking the walk instead of talking the talk. Cash speaks louder than words...you need to start establishing that money is not a big deal.