Very good point. I was going to say that Tantric Sex or even vanilla sex in the kitchen or somewhere not in the bedroom would add variety that could spice up your love life. Rough sex isn't the eternal solution to lovers' woes.
Rough sex: The secret of a successful marriage
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No problem. That's why EDIT exists, but it's time limited. (Not sure when it expires).
I suppose that's the case for many married men who are in love to the mother of their children but who can't handle them dressing or acting like a whore or porn star in the bedroom, but I also think there are men who's wives won't do certain things either, even if they try to introduce certain things gradually or in a subtle ways.
I not married or attached but I'd want my SO to not be bashful in the bedrom and to be my personal porn star too. I'd want us to be not only great lovers but best friends where we can tell our fantasies and secrets without shame.
That's the ideal scenario to me but ironically, it's not in many cases perhaps so as to not 'offend' the marriage or relationship, or introduce any notions that might be perceived as a threat to monogamy. Couples shouldn't be bashful with each other, particularly behind closed doors.
One can argue that such reservations about sexuality can also come from one's upbringing or culture. For example if either the husband or wife come from a highly conservative, religious upbringing, there could be a reluctance to embrace or to explore one's sexual fantasies with one's spouse, or even feel comfortable talking about sexuality.
I think it's in the attitude you bring to it. Women respond well when the guy takes a, "I'm going to fuck you and get what I want", and sure, with the right attitude it's probably going to be diverse as you run through whatever fantasy was in your head that day. It's going to be dominant. It might be missionary but if it is it's going to be pretty dominant, throw-her-down-and-fuck-her missionary.
Now this is not to say that you're ever going to do anything against her will, or that will hurt her, or that you won't make the experience pleasurable for him. Just that it's very much a take-charge, pleasure-seeking, possessive, and dominant approach to sex.
Problem with sweeping statements is that some dim wit will take them as gospel to be applied to every woman. Indeed, most submissive women will find this type of behaviour attractive...but what is the real percentage of submissive women out there? Even if that is a high percentage it doesn't cover anywhere near all women. Many women would cringe at the thought of what most of us pervs would call rough, Dominant sex. Frankly, with all the submissive and even sissy men out there anymore there must be a growing number of Domme women (or a hell of a seller's market). Some of those women may not want anything to do with this behaviour from you and may correct you quite quickly LOL. For that matter there are the many vanilla women who only do soft and tender with candles and clean sheets. If there is one thing to know about women it is that no two are alike. Find her limits and respectfully push them a little would be safer sweeping advice.
All of that said...on a personal level HELL YES and then some more please.
Cheers
All of that said...on a personal level HELL YES and then some more please.
Cheers
