My brush with a civilian

[Robert Mugabe]

I would choose a different word then. LOL.

I was going for the tongue in cheek. Some people get it.
Signing up for her yoga class might be considered stalking.

 

[Jenesis]

I was going for the tongue in cheek. Some people get it.
Signing up for her yoga class might be considered stalking.

True. Knowing you, I believe that to be true. I guess the word is a trigger for me having actually been and continue to be stalked. So I admit my trigger was hit when I read the word. So my bad for not getting the reference the way it was meant. I apologize

 

[Robert Mugabe]

True. Knowing you, I believe that to be true. I guess the word is a trigger for me having actually been and continue to be stalked. So I admit my trigger was hit when I read the word. So my bad for not getting the reference the way it was meant. I apologize

Accepted. You could always redeem yourself with a free B&G next time I'm in Whitby.

 

[Jenesis]

Accepted. You could always redeem yourself with a free B&G next time I'm in Whitby.

Maybe not a free B&G but I would treat you to one can of beer.

 

[angrymime666]

I don’t think outside of movies and in the minds of some old guys who frequent boards like this whose favorite song should be “Glory Days”, that casual one-time pickups were ever really possible.

Hell, in the old days of singles ads, you would occasionally see someone say if you were the lady I chatted with about fish last Thursday at the grocery store, please write back.

If she was genuinely interested perhaps the best approach is to go back to that same store at the same time on that same day of the week to see if she is doing the same thing. Chicks like romantic “fate” and shit like that. We can fuck someone based on seeing one photo. That is how it often how it works with escorts.

I wish women would be more aggressive like one lady on the internet (I know it could be fake) who told how she met her husband. She was behind him in line at the grocery store and they were chatting and she saw his name on a credit card or license or something due to an issue with the cash register. She looked him up on Facebook, but instead of sending him a private message (like most of us would have done and been put on Block and Report), she looked at his friends, which included his mom who loved a certain Book Club. She joined that Book Club and became friends with the mom and got her to talk about her son. She asked the mom if her son might be interested in meeting her. It was set up, and ended happily ever after. Although if the guy ever wants to see an escort now, he better scrub that computer and text history given her abilities.

Would this not be considered stalking behavior? If a dude did this would he not be visited by the police?

 

[Robert Mugabe]

Maybe not a free B&G but I would treat you to one can of beer.

That's what I meant.....Beer and Go! what were you thinking?.....

 

[Jenesis]

That's what I meant.....Beer and Go! what were you thinking?.....

Damn! That was a good one.

 

[rocco_s]

You hesitate. You masterbate.

 

[lomotil]

Just kind of tag along in the general area they are in the store with the hope of bumping into them. Maybe at the cash register. A momentary, one time strategy to try to create a chance to meet them. If it doesn't work out, you let them go on their way. Kind of like what happened.

Your post is real, spontaneous, visceral and on the battlefield. Thanks for sharing. If you had more time, the result might have been different.

 

[Patron]

Would this not be considered stalking behavior? If a dude did this would he not be visited by the police?

A lot of things don’t apply to women that apply to men.

C-36 comes to mind.

That is why I wish women did the asking and pursuing now in relationships.

 

[Insidious Von]

You should have used Dan Fielding's pick up line: I'm not wearing any underwear.

 

[Jenesis]

A lot of things don’t apply to women that apply to men.

C-36 comes to mind.

That is why I wish women did the asking and pursuing now in relationships.

You realize before C-36 and for many many years I might add, it was illegal for women. It still is under certain circumstances.

The hot female teacher who molested one of her students would be a better example.

 

[IM469]

Last time I tried was several years ago. Stepped right up to one and asked her out. Her response was "well good for you for putting yourself out there, but I think I will pass".
So years later, today, I was going to the mall close by work and saw the most gorgeous Canadian Chinese woman about 35 years old in yoga pants and a skinny top muscle shirt, carrying her yoga mat in a sleeve coming from the yoga place in the mall, obviously. I averted my gaze away from her camel toe and side tracked away from where I was going. Beer store to get one can, and followed her into the grocery store. She caught me checking her out and glanced back at me. I played it fairly cool. She was talking to somebody on her phone as she was in the meat section and I was just kind of stalking her in a polite manner. We kept crossing paths in the store and found ourselves side by side at the self check out. Two of the machines were down and she approached me in a friendly way, saying the machines were broken. In my most polite and non threatening manner, I agreed and left it at that. We were both checking out our stuff at close registers and I let her go. She was exactly what I was looking for.
Now I get flooded with negative self talk. Undeserving loser. Too old. Boyish man. and on and on. These days you think you are being offensive by trying to make a cold contact, but in all fairness. Animals on the hunt have to take their chances. What is so wrong with respectfully approaching a woman and asking her out. unimpressive resume aside.
End result was one beer. A computer and no date, or failed try.
Fuck.!

If she approached you about the defectiver checkout machine, you didn't spook her with your surveillance technique. My particular experience in new relationships with 'civilians' is that you must get them talking about themselves and listen (or at least try). This gives the impression that you are warm, companionate and not after a quick fuck/rapist. This is hard to do on a chance encounter unlike a waitress which gives you more interaction time.

If the fickle finger of fate presents you with the same opportunity, I would look at the yoga mat and tell her you noticed the yoga mat and were wondering whether that would be good for you. If she did notice you checking her out - the focus was the mat not her. If there is a little chemistry and enthusiasm in her voice ask her if you she could spare a few minutes over a cup of coffee to fill in more details. We all have different approaches - this would be mine. BTW: If you are not a buffoon, most women would be flattered that you were interested, even if they aren't. Your efforts can be a little warmth to the world.

You could have been accused of unwanted sexual advance, which constitues sexual harassment. You are lucky you didnt follow through.

Only if you have the subtlety of a jackhammer.

 

[NotADcotor]

A lot of things don’t apply to women that apply to men.

C-36 comes to mind.

Pretty sure it's legal for dudes to offer sex for sale but not to buy it.

No homo. No Homophobic.

 

[xix]

A lot of things don’t apply to women that apply to men.

C-36 comes to mind.

That is why I wish women did the asking and pursuing now in relationships.

Yeah but would they pay for the coffee / diner?

 

[xix]

He Really Picked Her Up With THIS Line...

www.youtube.com

 

[drlove]

There’s a dude on insta called boldboi who creates content of him approaching women with the goal of obtaining their digits. His strategy seems to work, which is to approach in a non threatening manner, then give a compliment or ask a question, ask her name, introduce himself and then ask her out for coffee etc and get her number. The cool thing about it is, you can’t really lose. Either she’s down, or if not you can just say something like have a great day and move on to the next one. Worth a shot imo.

 

[Robert Mugabe]

There’s a dude on insta called boldboi who creates content of him approaching women with the goal of obtaining their digits. His strategy seems to work, which is to approach in a non threatening manner, then give a compliment or ask a question, ask her name, introduce himself and then ask her out for coffee etc and get her number. The cool thing about it is, you can’t really lose. Either she’s down, or if not you can just say something like have a great day and move on to the next one. Worth a shot imo.

Stage fright happens.

 

[NotADcotor]

If you are a smooth attractive guy, you have little to lose and much to gain. Your odds of success are through the roof and even if she isn't interested she will no doubt be flattered.

If you are awkward or a fugly chud then the odds of success drop like a rock and the odds of a bad outcome go up. Having some girl rip into you, if you are not a sociopath/psychopath* is a significant adverse effect.
This is it seems a lot of these Game types and Pick Up artists have this attitude that anyone who turns them down is some sort of feminist bitch lesbian and thus their opinions get invalidated.

I had this older ugly as fuck woman go gaga over my and my shaved head. It wasn't really a pleasant experience, but at least I towered over her and I don't have social anxiety. Now if it was some Kate Micucci/Lauren Lapkus mix doing that... well I am sure I would wake up because shit like that doesn't happen.

I am a friendly and social person, very outgoing, but I never get signals to escalate and even if I did, that is the one area where I get awkward as fuck and when you are not attractive you can't get away with turning awkward as fuck. I'm only smooth when I am shooting the shit, not shooting my shot.

Look up the black pill. You can go on a dating site with a hot guys picture and say you like to fuck 8 year olds and attractive women will throw their numbers at you. There is NOTHING they can do to cool those women off. The whole SNL sexual harassment skit thing/call HR thing is funny but it is true.


* I don't know the difference off hand nor do I care enough to look it up. My point still stands even if only one applies.

 

[Patron]

There’s a dude on insta called boldboi who creates content of him approaching women with the goal of obtaining their digits. His strategy seems to work, which is to approach in a non threatening manner, then give a compliment or ask a question, ask her name, introduce himself and then ask her out for coffee etc and get her number. The cool thing about it is, you can’t really lose. Either she’s down, or if not you can just say something like have a great day and move on to the next one. Worth a shot imo.

Is there an independent analysis of how many of those numbers are not fake?