Is it really offensive when I tell sex workers that I indulge in their services as a last resort?

[Tashki]

I want to preface that the services that some women in the adult entertainment provide are tremendously valuable and it is not to diminish them in any way. I'm a stage in my life where I indulge in adult entertainment services as a last resort. I expressed this on other forums and to the sex workers in person and they got offended. If I'm calling or texting multiple women I have met personally if they want to hang out (out for drinks, dinner, invite them over and etc.) and they are not responding or they come up with a bullshit excuse. Or if I'm going out on weekend night and I'm getting constantly rejected and it's leading me to a mental toll, I sometimes see sex workers as a last resort especially if I am under a dry spell and frustrated. If I go out for drinks with a woman, we hit it off and I invite her over to stay for the night, That would cost way less than if I hired an escort overnight. This is also to challenge myself to date women who are just as attractive as the sex workers that I have seen in the past.

 

[Boss Nass]

Why would you tell them? Just stop.

 

[xix]

I wouldn't tell ANYONE ( men/women/animal) they are my last resort.

Would you like to hear that from anyone about you?

I had a guy like that, do that to me I was his last resort, in the end I let him go. Now he has a pet.

 

[drlove]

Having that mindset will get you nowhere… It’s very rude and inconsiderate to say the least, not to mention condescending. No one deserves to be treated like that. They are someone’s daughter, significant other, mother, sibling… We should all be grateful that we have the opportunity to be in their company.

Moreover, what makes you think an escort is more expensive?! If anything, their time is cheaper. From my own experience, I’ve spent a small fortune on dating civis, only to get bored of the relationships. Here, you have the opportunity to meet different ladies all the time, and indulge your fantasies as well for a nominal donation. What could be better than that? I enjoy the variety and the fact that the hobby conforms to my schedule. They’re always around when I want them, never around when I don’t. A lot of guys will spend money at bars and still go home alone. A simple text or phone call does the trick for me…

 

[The Options Menu]

Why would you tell them? Just stop.

With a side of, I'm sure that sets a great tone for a session. /sarcasm

The dating and pickup game requires water in the well. So does a relationship. You need water in that well to draw on, or things are gonna die of thirst.

While my life is getting closer to normal after years of having too much on my plate, that "well" is still pretty dry for me. It's great to be able to trade a little bit of money to meet an interesting person and have a fun, sexy, time with them. It's like speeds dating with a side order of sucking and fucking. That's pretty darn good in my book.

 

[BillyWolfish]

Man, this is not the way. I get your rational for WHY you call the SPs when you’re in a down state or on a dry run, but why do you have to verbalize that? I’m all for honesty btw, but that doesn’t mean you have to vomit everything going through your mind to others.

 

[speakercontrols]

Yes.

I can see self-awareness on how you interact & treat your fellow human beings isn't your strong suit. You may wish to self-examine your motivation for doing this.

Building yourself up by tearing others down isn't a good long term life strategy.

 

[Lilo Brancata]

I'm a stage in my life where I indulge in adult entertainment services as a last resort. I expressed this on other forums and to the sex workers in person and they got offended.

I take it you wouldn’t have an issue if an SP told you that she would never have sex with you unless she was being paid to do so.

 

[omegakenny]

Yeah, incredibly so. Also shows an incredible lack of self awareness...

 

[redshank]

What the Fuck is up with all the soul searching threads on Terb recently?

Stop overthinking and enjoy

 

[The Options Menu]

Stop overthinking and enjoy

Have fun with your dick without being a dick.

 

[MadGeek]

Never understood why someone would insult a business/person you want to buy services/products from? Do you just want a shitty experience?!?

 

[Ryan_Coke]

I don't even like telling an escort she wasn't the first escort I called that night

 

[MurphysLaw]

Yes its very offensive lol, just like anything a last resort doesn't sound do pleasant and can offend people

 

[philonius]

"If I had any other choice in this world I wouldn't be here with you."

Not sure how anyone takes this as anything but an insult. Hey, at least the guy has the wherewithal to ask why he's getting a negative response. A lot of the clueless immediately get on the defensive or start blaming others for their verbal faux pas' but at least he's asking.

 

[The real G]

pretty sure it would be the first for most SP's to hear this from a client.. You're going to engage in an activity where mood is of essence for both sides, why would you spoil it for the other side and risk having an inferior session?

 

[Lilo Brancata]

I take it you wouldn’t have an issue if an SP told you that she would never have sex with you unless she was being paid to do so.

Maybe instead you come into the session pumping this on your Bluetooth speaker and she’ll start head banging with you.

 

[Loxfox]

How does this even come up in a session?

 

[_oh_johnny_]

I want to preface that the services that some women in the adult entertainment provide are tremendously valuable and it is not to diminish them in any way. I'm a stage in my life where I indulge in adult entertainment services as a last resort. I expressed this on other forums and to the sex workers in person and they got offended. If I'm calling or texting multiple women I have met personally if they want to hang out (out for drinks, dinner, invite them over and etc.) and they are responding or they come up with a bullshit excuse. Or if I'm going out on weekend night and I'm getting constantly rejected and it's leading me to a mental toll, I sometimes see sex workers as a last resort especially if I am under a dry spell and frustrated. If I go out for drinks with a woman, we hit it off and I invite her over to stay for the night, That would cost way less than if I hired an escort overnight. This is also to challenge myself to date women who are just as attractive as the sex workers that I have seen in the past.

The fact that you need to share this view about yourself only shows just how egoic you are. To say this to a sex worker demonstrates just how much you lack awareness of others. Your first sentence is so fucking disingenuous that I actually feel sorry for you. Grow up or go see a therapist, and stop being a self-absorbed prick.

 

[Ol' Dirty Bastard]

Charming fellow.