The arc of my experience with the hobby I think is fairly typical, at least for older guys. I did not start until I was in my mid fifties and had been celibate for a decade (my wife, who is older than me, lost all interest in sex after menopause). My first paid HJ was awkward and actually painful (I was not really into it but she wanted that extra tip!). I eventually got comfortable being sexual with strangers, progressed to body slides, BJs, and then FS. And then I was off to the races. I wanted to be with many many different SWs at different spas around the city, run up those numbers. Some experiences were good, most were mundane. As I got more and more at ease and friendly with SWs, began to see them as real people, I started to enjoy some of them much more. This led to me repeating with a few, and me having favorites. I stopped caring about notches on my belt, made more personal connections and experienced much more intimacy. Over time with regulars things either get better (they like you and want make you happy so you keep coming back) or get worse (they take you for granted). "In spa" relationships develop, and you learn how to get the best out of each other. Along with the emotional journey I find there is a physical journey as well. I cum more often, and more powerfully after several GFE sessions with the same person. I recently found that incalls are even better - it is just you and her, no one else around in a little oasis. My age may also be a factor - I am in my sixties, and as I get older I get kinder and enjoy intimacy even more than I did when I was younger. There is always a danger of developing deeper feelings, or feelings that are not reciprocated. I learned that lesson the hard way. I am in a better place now, I sometimes get close to the danger zone, but do not go into it. Another good thing about being with someone who knows you, you can navigate each other's variations in mood and energy. Each session is always a little different. After a week of disappointment and having my car broken into I need a little TLC, so I asked my favorite to dress up as a nurse. It was initially nurturing and then playful and fun, and I had three strong orgasms with her! Hence the title of this post: Familiarity breeds .. contentment.
Familiarity breeds .. contentment!
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Sounds a lot like me too. Same marriage conditions, same entry into hobbying. Except I started late forties about 3 years ago.
In that time I've had a handful of "regular" SPs and prefer that kind of thing to banging random young things (to each their own). Unfortunately, I did get into "friendships" with two of them where we shared our personal lives, I went to their houses, etc.. They did not end well. I have reconciled with one but the other one screwed me over harshly. I would counsel anyone against letting an SP into their head/life.
I now tend to favor agency girls instead of indys. The "cutout" between us keeps things cleaner.
Plus, I get all the drama I need with sugarbabies.. lol
In that time I've had a handful of "regular" SPs and prefer that kind of thing to banging random young things (to each their own). Unfortunately, I did get into "friendships" with two of them where we shared our personal lives, I went to their houses, etc.. They did not end well. I have reconciled with one but the other one screwed me over harshly. I would counsel anyone against letting an SP into their head/life.
I now tend to favor agency girls instead of indys. The "cutout" between us keeps things cleaner.
Plus, I get all the drama I need with sugarbabies.. lol
