It I know isn't want you want to hear, but boy is this excellent advice.Not being pious or judgemental but that is a really bad idea.
You have everything stacked against you, including the normal horniness that clouds a man's judgement when a pretty girl pays him any attention.
Before you consider the risk, consider the consequences.
1. Job and retirement implications of what would CLEARLY have a sexual harassment basis on your subordinate/superior relationship.
2. Divorce from a SCORNED woman. Division of property after a lengthy legal battle designed to inflict harm by a hurt woman.
3. Your daughter HATING you for dumping her mother for a girl her own age.
4. You taking on the role of a father to her son WILL have you responsible for child support until he is 18 or stops wanting to go to school. And if you think that a woman your daughter's age is still gonna want a man old enough to he her father (who is already at retirement age) in another 10-14 years, then you are not thinking straight.
5. Especially a cheater who dumped his wife for a younger model She will NEVER trust you!
5. Losing her friendship if you are misreading her friendliness as her being interested in you.
EXACTLY what I was thinking.You are being played. think about it. mother alone from another country. entry-level. making friendly with the boss. go spend some money on a massage. it'll be cheaper.
Very solid analysis.LOoks so risky for several reasons.
At the risk of cultural generalizations, women from latin cultures are far more friendly, and touchy feely than the waspy anglo saxons who have been giving you the cold shoulder all of your life. They are great at stroking a man's ego, as it is often part of a normal social interaction. Women often flirt much more openly with men, but it doesnt necessarily mean they want you to be their sons stepdaddy!!
Best case scenario (unlikely). She is actually into you, sees you as powerful and manly because of your experience, power and the good way you treat her. You get together with her, and all of the rest of your life collapses. In ten years you are in your 70s, she in her 30s ..... You have lost1/2 of your retirement and the love of your daughter.
Worstcases- many. You have misinterpreted friendliness and get embarassed, you get slapped with a sexual harassme t suit, she sees you as a cash cow, marries you for a year or two then takes half of the remaining half of what you are worth.
Dont do it. Sort out your marriage if possible, if not get out amicably, and seek a partner where the situation is not so perilous.