becoming a habit

[steveyd]

So some advice needed. What was once a nice treat every month (sp and/or mp) is now becoming a habit. Rather than saving up and treating mysef every now and again am now starting to see people eg just because I am bored.

I know this is an issue as am now even digging into the sun if the reliable sp's are not available.

Is it like smoking, all or nothing or has anybody out there managed to maintain a reasonable balance?

Thoughts and advice very much appreciated.

 

[roxyfan]

I hear you man. Today is May 24 and just had my tenth visit to MP. I have my favourites.....Maya at A& R, Jayda at Star, Riley at Bliss. Just discovered Tamara - also at Star and Domenica...also at Star. At least one hour a day, I am surfing the web looking for new girls to visit. This month alone - $1,500 - thinking I should make more effort to get a GF...but now, normal women dont excite me....they are not in tip top shape, gorgeous, sexy like the MP gals. I think I am screwed. It gets addictive...reached the point where I want to go every two days....might speak to my doctor about this and get some help.

 

[OLDPRO]

Yeah, I would speak to a Dr, or a counsellor (ie. psychologist) I'm not an expert, but I have studied psychology. People will turn to vices, the most common being alcohol, drugs, gambling or sex, to activate the pleasure center of the brain. Alcohol and drugs do this chemically, and gambling and sex do it by releasing endorphins into the brain. Any time an individual wants to stop doing something, and can not, then they risk addiction to the activity. Also, if you are spending beyond your means, that is compulsive behaviour, and could be a sign of Depression, or Bi-Polar disorder. Again, I am NOT a Dr, but I do know a bit about addictions, and human behaviour. By no means, am I implying that you two are in serious need of help, I am only offering the knowledge I have, since you have asked. If you feel that you need help, I would recommend seeing a Dr, and discussing the issue. No need to be embarassed, either. They have heard it all...believe me. There are many treatment options, including counselling, either individually or group, and drugs, such as anti-depressants, that can help eliminate the compulsive behaviour. Not to sound preachy, but exercise & religion, are usually suggested to help "get over the hump". In closing, there is no shame in talking to someone about this. If you feel that you need help, then your family Dr is the place to start. I have been at that point myself, not with hobbying, but... it basically comes down to self control. A couple beers after work is one thing, but a mickey of vodka in your desk drawer is another. A monthly treat to a favorite is one thing, but if you are starting to feel that it is becoming a problem, either financially or psychologically.... It probabaly is time to talk to somebody. Take care, and Good Luck. OLDPRO

 

[showmeDD]

i am of two opinions on this one, first, girl friends aren't any cheaper. Second, masturbation is cheaper. otherwise, i think we all make choices about the priorities in our life, and when/where we want to spend our money. if you want to spend it on mp/sp - more power to you.

 

[fart]

Or maybe you are just having a good time.....nothing like slipping the dick into a new one!!!! Don't let a shortage of funds make you feel bad...Just get a line of credit, a big hardon..and" let your love flow."....(not to be sued I give credit to the Bellamy Brothers for the love flow bit)

 

[yesguy123]

my personal advice....a few times I have gotten myself out of going by getting on the web and downloading some free porn. not as exciting, but the urge went away to go to the massage for some reason . usually lasts the day, and it is cheaper. I am far from addicted myself, as I feel even going once every few months is a lot...but it can get more addictive the more you go. OLDPRO is right, i have studied psychology as well...sex is an addiction like other things.
my advice, get a gf, or spend it on something else before you spend it on the mp. well, that's all for now...I'm off to my massage...

 

[Winstoncup]

Try to get a one-two day a week second job to clog up your time. It may sound stupid but you may find something for only $8hour but you may like it and it will keep you busy and will break old routines. Evening, weekend whatever. Good luck.

 

[roxyfan]

I am a CA and bill out at $150 an hour so twice a week with one of my honies is not killing me. The shrink is right though - I am somewhat addicted to this stuff and think about it constantly. More fun and much less hassle than a GF or a nagging, getting fat wife.

 

[Eric_TL]

steveyd,

You strike me as being a young person, and I'm an experienced guy in my 50's
Let me advise you on the various routes to happiness/unhappiness when it comes to relating to women (listed from best to worst):

1) Do not get married. Stick with MPs/SPs/One Night Stands and STAY WITHIN YOUR BUDGET
2) Marry a hot independently wealthy nymphomaniac who is not domineering; Your life will become only marginally miserable
3) Marry a hot nymphomaniac with a reasonable income who is only marginally domineering; Your life is going to cost you more than you want, and you will be more miserable than option 2
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54) Marry an evil, domineering, nagging bitch who has no money, isn't that into sex and all her friends hate you; Your life will cost you a fortune and you will be in total fucking misery..

You've been warned.....