I’m writing this as someone who immigrated to Toronto in 2019 from a third world country. Like many immigrants, I came here seeking freedom and the chance to explore aspects of myself that weren’t possible back home. In my country, sex and dating were heavily restricted by cultural norms. Marriage was essentially the only socially acceptable path to intimacy. I would watch porn online and had sexual urges I wanted to explore, but dating was frowned upon and women weren’t open to those kinds of interactions.
When I arrived in Toronto, I saw it as an opportunity to finally live authentically. I wanted to date and explore my sexuality in a place where that was possible. I was naive and new to everything, but I was determined to figure it out.
How It Started: My First Experiences
I was working long hours and struggling with traditional dating, so I started wondering what other options existed. That’s when I discovered massage parlours aka ‘“Spas”. I remember mustering up the courage to visit one near my home in the Toronto suburbs. The masseuse I saw I remember to this day her name was Tina. I was so nervous I couldn’t even say directly what I was looking for. The interaction was actually funny in retrospect: I kept asking what she offered, and she kept asking what I wanted. She probably took me for law enforcement or something later after back and forth conversation she understood what im in for, she made me feel comfortable, and answered all my questions. That’s when I first learned the terminology; full service, which she explained to me what it actually meant.
That was my first experience where I popped my cherry, and it was memorable. After that, I saw Tina regularly. She educated me on how the spa industry worked and eventually suggested I explore other girls at the spa and try different locations. I became extremely regular, visiting every third day. One of the girls eventually warned me that many workers at unlicensed spas were illegal immigrants, and that law enforcement regularly raided these places. That’s when I moved on to what I thought were more legitimate spas at that time like Premier Spa, Seduction Spa, and others offering “better” services.
Discovery of Escort Agencies
When COVID hit and the spas closed, I turned to the internet. That’s when I discovered Leolist and my first real agency experience through SFT, Sexy friends toronto. That first “GFE” experience was incredible. I felt like I’d found my niche, and I became a “hobbyist”, seeing escorts once or twice a week. Over the years, I’ve spent thousands of $$$ exploring different agencies: DD, HPL, TGF, GOE, HGE and Mirage among others.
I discovered my preferences and usually booked hour sessions. I also learned that Cannabis/Weed made me more comfortable and relaxed during the sessions, though I noticed it also made me more anxious about safety, especially in spas where I could hear other people in adjacent rooms banging, such a turn off for me. With independent escorts and agencies, I felt more secure and the companions seemed to put genuine effort into making me comfortable.
Honorable Mentions Since its a review board lol,
Several companions stand out as genuinely exceptional to me. Katie DD, Ella DD, Genevieve DD, Ariana DD, Megan Mcrae Secrets, Julia Sercrets, Kelly MIRAGE, Sasha Sabrina HPL, Aria HGE, Elizabeth Ryder HGE, Jenn MIRAGE.
These women were knowledgeable, professional, and created an atmosphere where I felt genuinely comfortable. More importantly, I could tell they felt safe and confident in themselves.
I also want to note, in my opinion HPL stands out as the most secure agency, DD has the best Locations, HGE has the best customer service.
What I’ve Observed: The Industry’s Decline
Over the past year, something fundamental has changed. The industry no longer feels as safe, organized, or well regulated as it once did. I’ve noticed several troubling trends.
First, the spa industry has deteriorated significantly. I used to prefer spas for their discretion, but the quality and safety have plummeted. The girls at spas often don’t seem to take care of themselves. Hygiene is practically nonexistent. I’ve encountered companions with untreated skin tags, warts, and poor personal hygiene. One girl literally had her period during a session without disclosing it beforehand. The managers don’t seem to care about the girls’ wellbeing or clients complain perspective, and the girls don’t appear to regulate their own health or safety. There’s no screening, no standards. It feels like a meat market, and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone these days.
One time during a session running my hand through her skin i felt something just to realize that its a goddamn wart, OMG I was so fucking traumatized I kid you not i got ptsd from that experience. My last time with a spa girl she when i got close to her shoulder smelled like curry oh god I was literally going to throw up mid session and had to leave. I am usually High during my sessions, trying to have a good time, and such experiences which to name among many are so repulsive. When I complained to the manager, she mocked me instead of taking my concerns seriously. That was the final straw for me with spas anyways.
Second, I’ve noticed a significant decline in companion mental health, and it directly impacts the quality of sessions. Many of the incredible women I used to see regularly have either retired or are visibly struggling. Some have become addicted to hard drugs or found themselves in desperate financial situations and later being obviously pimped. Worse, I can tell when a companion is being exploited or coerced into sex work. You can feel it in the energy of the session. Some women have told me they’re here on temporary visas just to make enough money to go home and support their families. When I realize a woman is in that situation, I can’t continue. It feels wrong, and it ruins the entire experience for me.
I’ve also observed that many of the confident, professional companions I used to see regularly have had their mental health deteriorate over time due to bad clients. One woman I saw frequently went from being energetic and positive to visibly depressed and complaining about difficult interactions with previous clients. Maybe because I have a background in medicine, I can tell when someone’s going through something. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s made sessions less enjoyable for me as well because the vibe is just gone.
Third, the quality of clients has declined. Companions have told me about clients who were diseased, abusive, disrespectful, or violent. I heard from a close friend that he walked into a room expecting a session and was instead robbed at gunpoint. Companions are traumatized, clients are becoming more dangerous, and I feel like its not being addressed enough. The other day I cant remember her name this independent SP posted her photos on X she was brutally assaulted walking down the street minding her own business.
Fourth, there are serious agency accountability issues. Some agencies take feedback about safety seriously, but others completely dismiss it. I’ve contacted agencies directly to express concerns about companion safety. I know of girls who have left agencies because they didn’t feel safe, and some have retired entirely due to trauma from unsafe situations.
My Perspective as Someone with a Medical Background
I want to be direct about something: hygiene and health screening are essential. For companions, this means regular blood tests for STIs, cervical screening, getting skin conditions treated, and maintaining personal hygiene. For clients, it means the same thing, stay at home even if you have cold. Get tested regularly no excuses. Be clean, trim your nails, dress nicely treat it like your actually seeing another human being. I always packed my own stuff from body wash, towel to slippers; from my experience companions always digged that. The companions who took care of themselves were consistently the best: they were vaccinated, they got regular testing, they maintained their hygiene, and importantly, they had the confidence to set boundaries and communicate their limits.
Mental health is equally critical. Companions who prioritized their mental health took vacations, maintained their physical health, knew their limits, and communicated them to clients. These were the women who created the best experiences from what I judged because they were genuinely confident in themselves.
What Needs to Change
I believe Canada’s sexual services industry is actually much better than other developed countries like the US, where trafficking and exploitation are far more prevalent. But we can do better. Both companions and clients need better education about safety, mental and physical health, and consent. Agencies need to be accountable for screening clients and protecting their workers. Spas especially need serious oversight because the current situation is unacceptable.
Why I’m Stepping Back
I’ve had my fair share of exploration and sexual experiences. I’ve spent considerable money and time in this industry, and I’ve learned a lot. But I’ve also witnessed declining safety, companion exploitation, and increasing danger. I’ve seen companions with bruise mark fresh from previous clients, companions so physically traumatized they shouldn’t proceed with the session and should know when to take a break for example during one session the companions vagina was so swollen, the faintest touch would make her uncomfortable, I don’t want to proceed with such session.
After nearly seven years of being an active client, I’ve decided to step back. It’s been almost four months since my last visit, and I don’t plan to return. I’ve come to realize that continuing ,either my physical or mental health or my personal safety is gonna catch up to me.
A Call for Change
I’m sharing this not as judgment, but as genuine concern. I love Toronto. It’s my home. Im all up for advocacy for better safety standards, better client and companion education, and better agency accountability. The current trajectory is unsustainable. Both sides deserve better.
To companions: take care of your mental and physical health. Get tested regularly. Set boundaries. Know your worth.
To clients: educate yourselves. Respect boundaries. Maintain your own health. Recognize when a situation is unsafe or exploitative.
To agencies and spa managers: you have a responsibility to screen clients, protect your workers, and maintain standards. Step up.
This post is just me sharing my personal experience and my opinion. Take it as you may from it.
When I arrived in Toronto, I saw it as an opportunity to finally live authentically. I wanted to date and explore my sexuality in a place where that was possible. I was naive and new to everything, but I was determined to figure it out.
How It Started: My First Experiences
I was working long hours and struggling with traditional dating, so I started wondering what other options existed. That’s when I discovered massage parlours aka ‘“Spas”. I remember mustering up the courage to visit one near my home in the Toronto suburbs. The masseuse I saw I remember to this day her name was Tina. I was so nervous I couldn’t even say directly what I was looking for. The interaction was actually funny in retrospect: I kept asking what she offered, and she kept asking what I wanted. She probably took me for law enforcement or something later after back and forth conversation she understood what im in for, she made me feel comfortable, and answered all my questions. That’s when I first learned the terminology; full service, which she explained to me what it actually meant.
That was my first experience where I popped my cherry, and it was memorable. After that, I saw Tina regularly. She educated me on how the spa industry worked and eventually suggested I explore other girls at the spa and try different locations. I became extremely regular, visiting every third day. One of the girls eventually warned me that many workers at unlicensed spas were illegal immigrants, and that law enforcement regularly raided these places. That’s when I moved on to what I thought were more legitimate spas at that time like Premier Spa, Seduction Spa, and others offering “better” services.
Discovery of Escort Agencies
When COVID hit and the spas closed, I turned to the internet. That’s when I discovered Leolist and my first real agency experience through SFT, Sexy friends toronto. That first “GFE” experience was incredible. I felt like I’d found my niche, and I became a “hobbyist”, seeing escorts once or twice a week. Over the years, I’ve spent thousands of $$$ exploring different agencies: DD, HPL, TGF, GOE, HGE and Mirage among others.
I discovered my preferences and usually booked hour sessions. I also learned that Cannabis/Weed made me more comfortable and relaxed during the sessions, though I noticed it also made me more anxious about safety, especially in spas where I could hear other people in adjacent rooms banging, such a turn off for me. With independent escorts and agencies, I felt more secure and the companions seemed to put genuine effort into making me comfortable.
Honorable Mentions Since its a review board lol,
Several companions stand out as genuinely exceptional to me. Katie DD, Ella DD, Genevieve DD, Ariana DD, Megan Mcrae Secrets, Julia Sercrets, Kelly MIRAGE, Sasha Sabrina HPL, Aria HGE, Elizabeth Ryder HGE, Jenn MIRAGE.
These women were knowledgeable, professional, and created an atmosphere where I felt genuinely comfortable. More importantly, I could tell they felt safe and confident in themselves.
I also want to note, in my opinion HPL stands out as the most secure agency, DD has the best Locations, HGE has the best customer service.
What I’ve Observed: The Industry’s Decline
Over the past year, something fundamental has changed. The industry no longer feels as safe, organized, or well regulated as it once did. I’ve noticed several troubling trends.
First, the spa industry has deteriorated significantly. I used to prefer spas for their discretion, but the quality and safety have plummeted. The girls at spas often don’t seem to take care of themselves. Hygiene is practically nonexistent. I’ve encountered companions with untreated skin tags, warts, and poor personal hygiene. One girl literally had her period during a session without disclosing it beforehand. The managers don’t seem to care about the girls’ wellbeing or clients complain perspective, and the girls don’t appear to regulate their own health or safety. There’s no screening, no standards. It feels like a meat market, and I wouldn’t recommend it to anyone these days.
One time during a session running my hand through her skin i felt something just to realize that its a goddamn wart, OMG I was so fucking traumatized I kid you not i got ptsd from that experience. My last time with a spa girl she when i got close to her shoulder smelled like curry oh god I was literally going to throw up mid session and had to leave. I am usually High during my sessions, trying to have a good time, and such experiences which to name among many are so repulsive. When I complained to the manager, she mocked me instead of taking my concerns seriously. That was the final straw for me with spas anyways.
Second, I’ve noticed a significant decline in companion mental health, and it directly impacts the quality of sessions. Many of the incredible women I used to see regularly have either retired or are visibly struggling. Some have become addicted to hard drugs or found themselves in desperate financial situations and later being obviously pimped. Worse, I can tell when a companion is being exploited or coerced into sex work. You can feel it in the energy of the session. Some women have told me they’re here on temporary visas just to make enough money to go home and support their families. When I realize a woman is in that situation, I can’t continue. It feels wrong, and it ruins the entire experience for me.
I’ve also observed that many of the confident, professional companions I used to see regularly have had their mental health deteriorate over time due to bad clients. One woman I saw frequently went from being energetic and positive to visibly depressed and complaining about difficult interactions with previous clients. Maybe because I have a background in medicine, I can tell when someone’s going through something. It’s heartbreaking, and it’s made sessions less enjoyable for me as well because the vibe is just gone.
Third, the quality of clients has declined. Companions have told me about clients who were diseased, abusive, disrespectful, or violent. I heard from a close friend that he walked into a room expecting a session and was instead robbed at gunpoint. Companions are traumatized, clients are becoming more dangerous, and I feel like its not being addressed enough. The other day I cant remember her name this independent SP posted her photos on X she was brutally assaulted walking down the street minding her own business.
Fourth, there are serious agency accountability issues. Some agencies take feedback about safety seriously, but others completely dismiss it. I’ve contacted agencies directly to express concerns about companion safety. I know of girls who have left agencies because they didn’t feel safe, and some have retired entirely due to trauma from unsafe situations.
My Perspective as Someone with a Medical Background
I want to be direct about something: hygiene and health screening are essential. For companions, this means regular blood tests for STIs, cervical screening, getting skin conditions treated, and maintaining personal hygiene. For clients, it means the same thing, stay at home even if you have cold. Get tested regularly no excuses. Be clean, trim your nails, dress nicely treat it like your actually seeing another human being. I always packed my own stuff from body wash, towel to slippers; from my experience companions always digged that. The companions who took care of themselves were consistently the best: they were vaccinated, they got regular testing, they maintained their hygiene, and importantly, they had the confidence to set boundaries and communicate their limits.
Mental health is equally critical. Companions who prioritized their mental health took vacations, maintained their physical health, knew their limits, and communicated them to clients. These were the women who created the best experiences from what I judged because they were genuinely confident in themselves.
What Needs to Change
I believe Canada’s sexual services industry is actually much better than other developed countries like the US, where trafficking and exploitation are far more prevalent. But we can do better. Both companions and clients need better education about safety, mental and physical health, and consent. Agencies need to be accountable for screening clients and protecting their workers. Spas especially need serious oversight because the current situation is unacceptable.
Why I’m Stepping Back
I’ve had my fair share of exploration and sexual experiences. I’ve spent considerable money and time in this industry, and I’ve learned a lot. But I’ve also witnessed declining safety, companion exploitation, and increasing danger. I’ve seen companions with bruise mark fresh from previous clients, companions so physically traumatized they shouldn’t proceed with the session and should know when to take a break for example during one session the companions vagina was so swollen, the faintest touch would make her uncomfortable, I don’t want to proceed with such session.
After nearly seven years of being an active client, I’ve decided to step back. It’s been almost four months since my last visit, and I don’t plan to return. I’ve come to realize that continuing ,either my physical or mental health or my personal safety is gonna catch up to me.
A Call for Change
I’m sharing this not as judgment, but as genuine concern. I love Toronto. It’s my home. Im all up for advocacy for better safety standards, better client and companion education, and better agency accountability. The current trajectory is unsustainable. Both sides deserve better.
To companions: take care of your mental and physical health. Get tested regularly. Set boundaries. Know your worth.
To clients: educate yourselves. Respect boundaries. Maintain your own health. Recognize when a situation is unsafe or exploitative.
To agencies and spa managers: you have a responsibility to screen clients, protect your workers, and maintain standards. Step up.
This post is just me sharing my personal experience and my opinion. Take it as you may from it.
