Come again?Then there are some good women out there who are very happy you don't, but if you don't want to, you don't want
this is hilarious!Children are like handguns. Fine for other people, but I don't want one in my house.
lol, you never know until you try it.I don't want to get married or to have kids. The problem is it took me two marriages and four kids to figure that out.
no, your not alone. im the exact same way. i dont want children, and have no interest in them. same with marrige.Are there many of us here? I've never wanted children, and never been much of a long term relationship guy. I am very skeptical of marriage, and am very scared of the woman taking half my money/home. I often work very long hours, out of town at times, and that is not conducive to a successful marriage either. I work hard to make my 6 figures, and I know I don't want some woman blowing my money. I don't like spending all my time with a woman either... I need my space. I don't mind spending a night at a woman's place, or vice versa, but the next day I want to do my own thing. I can be in a monogamous relationship (which I think is somewhat stupid too), but I just don't want to live together, get married, or most of all have children. Am I crazy/neurotic? Trapped in adolescence? Or am I smart for wanting to live like this?
doesn't make sense to be in monogamous relationship if you don't want kidsAre there many of us here? I've never wanted children, and never been much of a long term relationship guy. I am very skeptical of marriage, and am very scared of the woman taking half my money/home. I often work very long hours, out of town at times, and that is not conducive to a successful marriage either. I work hard to make my 6 figures, and I know I don't want some woman blowing my money. I don't like spending all my time with a woman either... I need my space. I don't mind spending a night at a woman's place, or vice versa, but the next day I want to do my own thing. I can be in a monogamous relationship (which I think is somewhat stupid too), but I just don't want to live together, get married, or most of all have children. Am I crazy/neurotic? Trapped in adolescence? Or am I smart for wanting to live like this?
Maybe she a great cook and likes to do laundry and keep your house clean. Not many girlfriends or SP's fit that mold.doesn't make sense to be in monogamous relationship if you don't want kids
that can be bought at a price much cheaper than the price of one's freedomMaybe she a great cook and likes to do laundry and keep your house clean. Not many girlfriends or SP's fit that mold.
I understand you see a wife or SO as a source for a loss of freedom. I never have and I feel just as unrestrained in my daily life.that can be bought at a price much cheaper than the price of one's freedom
+1Neither.
You're selfish (and I don't mean that in a negative way, it's just a statement of fact) and more importantly, you're HONEST about it. The last thing you should be is a husband or a father, and you KNOW it. Many people don't, and ruin other people's lives as a result. Kudos to you, and enjoy your life. As long as you're not hurting anybody else there is no problem.
I sense some bitterness. So little of the above applies to me at all. I guess I'm lucky. I would have used blessed, but i didn't want to give some CM something to scratch away at. I'm on my second and it's definitely different then my first, not better or worse, just different. No children but a scaringly large extended family; all out of town.If you think about it most marriage end up due to convenience and the right timing for us to meet, greet, have sex and kids and grow old. It is not necessarily with the right partner since timing is the reason why you got married in the first place and not out of of love...not for most couples at least and that is why most marriages fail.
Think about it, of all the relatshionships that we get in, dont tell me that the one you married is the perfect of best person for you to spend your life with...in most cases it is , oh youre single, have a job, bored of going out to clubs trying to pick up...then helll marry me and save me...
that is why we get married as the time is ticking and moreso for woman so that is why as we live with the person we get bored, argue, fight over money and in laws...etc...
so in most cases it is best to date, have your freedom and enjoy life rather than be with a bitchy, complaining partner who knows that if you leave that that person will have 50% of your ASSets....
we men get the shit out of divorce and breakups due to the favoritism of woman in the court system...and the worse is when theyre kids involved...
Well, its nice to have kids and wife but when all they do is cause stress, eat your bank account, suck out your zest for fun, then we must ask ourself cant we just live off of terb mp, sp, and sc partners and be happy and still save more money in the end?
Well, someone put forward that you are who you hang out with and many times it's very true. Most of my close single friends are in their 40's 50's or 60's, self employed, or the entrepreneurial types, in other words, doers. They haven't got times for games, the hunt, or whining and moaning. Very few bitch about being single, or not making a marriage work, They just tried it didn't work didn't like it, now on with life. Only one was married to a shrew and he got on with it after an initial shock/rebellion and recovery periods. he also doesn't spend too much time with idiot wanna daddy types. I know very few that are still in it for the kids, they've all moved out.no bitterness, just observation from all the friends and family that have gone through this and complained all the way to the courts and the banks and wallets...
sucks to be them...but the question now is whos next on the choppping block....
sad but true, marriage isnt what it used to be.
these days were not afraid to split because woman are more protected by the courts as well as theyre more independent and can leave without the fear of not able to survive by themselves...
if prenuptial agreements were in all marriages i guarantee you that most woman or man whoever has more funds, will think twice before leaving as they cant eat on bread and water everyday.
I want to have a wife that would make me want to be a better man.I understand you see a wife or SO as a source for a loss of freedom. I never have and I feel just as unrestrained in my daily life.
If you want to be single go for it it, but it certainly doesn't give some people that sense of something negative. It actually cost me less money to have an SO. We share the cost of many things. Where do you think the phrase two can live cheaper than one comes from?