Rough sex: The secret of a successful marriage

[S.C. Joe]

Rough driving oh yeah, sex ah nope. Wild sex yes.

The ones who be fun to spank seem always to be the ones I never can get, lol

 

[GPIDEAL]

omg, for once i agree with fuji.

lmao!

 

[GPIDEAL]

I think there's definitely some truth to it....we do like the romantic dinners, etc. but rough sex is exciting. I've gotten bored with men who were overly sensitive and romantic in bed and never really ventured outside of that.

Whew!

 

[GPIDEAL]

I think it works because its serves as a signal of dominance, which woman generally respond well to (despite what they may say).

When dealing with people I've found that the wisdom of Thucydides has served me well on many occasions:

I quote* what someone else said albeit a bit of an exaggeration, "Treat them like shit, and they'll love you more"

*I don't subscribe to this statement though.

 

[GPIDEAL]

As I said... there is a fine line. Firm, bold sex is more suited as a discription to what you decribed. Rough sex is more and not suited to everyone.

I agree with what you said before that Fuji's statement is a personal opinion as opposed to a general truth, but I think he means passionate play that is diverse instead of 5 minutes of missionary sex which sure would be boring.

Then again, if his statement was a universal truth, then perhaps many married men wouldn't hobby if their wives acted like pornstars or liked it 'rough'.

I prefer to use the word passionate sex, or 'make sex like in the movies'. That could mean multiple positions that pleasure your woman in a variety of ways, going out of your way to pleasure her, but also getting her to excite the guy more so that he's at his studliest best. Dirty talk, asking her to wear heels while you fuck, cumming on her tits, etc. are things that tend not to be associated with 'vanilla sex' (I recall a married friend who said that he hadn't cummed on his wife's nipples in years).

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

GPIDEAL I am going to be honest and say that I believe it is an often if not more so the man who makes those adjustments.

There is often that "I don't DO that with my WIFE" mentality.

 

[djk]

Good call, fuji.

http://roissy.wordpress.com/2011/03/28/more-women-have-rape-fantasies-than-previously-thought/

62%. That’s a majority, folks. A majority of women fantasize on average four times per year about being forcefully and nonconsensually penetrated. Nearly two out of ten women fantasize about rape at least once a week. If that doesn’t convince you of the animal nature of women’s sexuality and their deepest desire to submit to a more powerful lover, nothing will. Oh, except watching forlornly as jerks and assholes walk off with the girl of your dreams.

 

[Brandon123]

Knowing how to please a woman in the bedroom will keep her around longer.

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

DJK you stopped your quote too soon:

For those wondering what the difference is between “aversive” and “erotic” rape, here is a description culled from a number of studies examining female sexuality (with the important point bolded):

According to Kanin, erotic rape fantasies contain low to moderate levels of fear with no realistic violence. In these fantasies, women typically are approached aggressively by a dominant and attractive male who is overcome with desire for her; she feels or expresses nonconsent and presents minimal resistance; he overpowers her and takes her sexually. Kanin made the interpretation that these were not true rape fantasies, that the described resistance amounted to a “token no,” and he called these “seduction fantasies.” Participants themselves characterized these as rape situations, however, and the self-character in these fantasies showed nonconsent. As no evidence was presented that the self-character’s nonconsent was insincere, the label of “seduction” does not seem justified. [Ed: Feminists wept.] Certainly, in actual rapes minimal resistance and female sexual arousal do sometimes occur (Duddle, 1991; Johnson, 1985), and their occurrence would not render the encounter a seduction rather than a rape.

Aversive rape fantasies come closer to representing realistic rape. In these fantasies, the male is more likely to be older, unattractive, and a stranger. These fantasies contain coercive and painful violence, and little or no sexual arousal. A typical scenario for an aversive fantasy would consist of an assailant “grabbing, throwing to the ground, ripping off clothing, while the victim is fighting to keep the aggressor from achieving penetration” (Kanin, 1982, p. 117). Kanin found that women with aversive rape fantasies were more apprehensive about actual rape and more likely to have dreams of rape than were other women. The more aversive rape fantasies may operate as attempts to deal with the fear of actual rape by gaining some sense of control over rape situations and rehearsing how one might deal with actual rape (Gold & Clegg, 1990; Gold, et al., 1991).

 

[Ben Hogan]

Spurred me to change my signature to the relevant Lady Gaga quote, lol.

I always liked your old sig line : )

 

[james t kirk]

It's more like creative and confident sex. Most women are submissive in the bedroom, let's face it, spreading your legs or ass is naturally a submissive thing to do.

Being creative in the bedroom is not an easy thing to do. If you're the kind of guy who does one thing all the time (including just rough sex), she's going to get bored. Hell, I'm going to get bored if I'm with a woman like that.

 

[MissCroft]

So far in this thread the one person who actually has it correct is this person. Outside of that anything expressed is a personal opinion related to the person who expressed it.

Yes, of course there are a lot of personal opinions in this thread....and mine was also merely a personal opinion. I wasn't trying to speak for other women. I know every woman is different - some like it 'rough' and some don't. It depends a lot on my mood -depending on the day I could want different things. I like all types of sex including romantic sex but in the past I have tired of it when that's all there was.

but I think he means passionate play that is diverse instead of 5 minutes of missionary sex which sure would be boring.

Yeah, that's how I see it. I think maybe using the word 'rough' is a bit misleading.

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

Yes, of course there are a lot of personal opinions in this thread....and mine was also merely a personal opinion. I wasn't trying to speak for other women. I know every woman is different - some like it 'rough' and some don't. It depends a lot on my mood -depending on the day I could want different things. I like all types of sex including romantic sex but in the past I have tired of it when that's all there was.

Absolutely Chloe. The women who indicated they can enjoy it didn't frustrate me. It was some of the men who insisted they knew all women wanted this that upset me.

 

[MissCroft]

Absolutely Lora.

I'm not Lora, I'm Chloe. lol

 

[afterhours]

Another excerpt from that blog:

"When men want to know what arouses women so that they can tailor their game for maximum effectiveness, they observe the behavior patterns of slender women in their primes. Men do not wonder, nor do they care, what cougars, fatties, frumpy hausfraus or grandmothers fantasize about. So for all of you has-beens emphatically denying that you ever have rape fantasies and shouting from the mountaintop that you wouldn’t date jerks…

…who gives a flying fuck?"

I thought so prior to coming to this board. Then I encountered men who claim not only that they fuck cougars, fatties and grandmas, but also that they pay for it on an hourly basis (and adding insult to an injury, for that same amount they could have been fucking young slender women).

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

D'oh so totally only saw Croft.... editing last post. *blush*

 

[MissCroft]

D'oh so totally only saw Croft.... editing last post. *blush*

That's alright.

 

[GPIDEAL]

D'oh so totally only saw Croft.... editing last post. *blush*

There's even another 'Croft' but who spells her name as 'Kroft'.

Chloe is the original 'Croft' (besides Lara Croft, the comic book character who would've been a kinky SP if you ask me lol), but Lora and Kaelyn are also very nice girls and neither rivals.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I thought so prior to coming to this board. Then I encountered men who claim not only that they fuck cougars, fatties and grandmas, but also that they pay for it on an hourly basis (and adding insult to an injury, for that same amount they could have been fucking young slender women).

There are non-pros, even Gilfs, that want to have passionate sex with younger men outside of their relationships. Trust me

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

Yeah the sad thing is I am aware there are three... I was just not paying complete attendtion to the handle. It is just like in the Jones days. Samantha, Sasha, and Samantha69 from Barrie. *sigh* I just need to read whole handles.