Rough sex: The secret of a successful marriage

[fuji]

Debate amongst yourselves:

What women say, and what women want, are two different things. If sex becomes a "romantic" thing between two people, rather than rough and fun, women get bored. Maybe they do really want the candle light dinner and the romantic evening, but after that, they don't want romantic sex. They want it rough and hard. Whatever they say, if that's what they get, they stick around.

Otherwise they start to see their husband/boyfriend as something less than a man, and their interests start to wander. This doesn't mean they're going to cheat, they might, but it will lead to tensions in the relationship elsewhere that will eventually break it up.

Basically after reading some threads here about various failed marriages and relationships I spent some time trying to figure out why mine works, despite the fact that I cheat left right and center, and we certainly have our share of other problems. I think she feels she belongs to me, physically, because of the type of sex we have.

Spurred me to change my signature to the relevant Lady Gaga quote, lol.

 

[TVA]

omg, for once I agree with fuji. women's behavior often contradicts their words. they always say they want nice guys, but end up with jerks who give them rough doggy sex and call them dirty bitches and never treat them to romantic dinners.

 

[fuji]

omg, for once I agree with fuji. women's behavior often contradicts their words. they always say they want nice guys, but end up with jerks who give them rough doggy sex and call them dirty bitches and never treat them to romantic dinners.

I don't really agree with that last part.

 

[MissCroft]

If sex becomes a "romantic" thing between two people, rather than rough and fun, women get bored. Maybe they do really want the candle light dinner and the romantic evening, but after that, they don't want romantic sex. They want it rough and hard. Whatever they say, if that's what they get, they stick around.

Otherwise they start to see their husband/boyfriend as something less than a man, and their interests start to wander. This doesn't mean they're going to cheat, they might, but it will lead to tensions in the relationship elsewhere that will eventually break it up.

I think there's definitely some truth to it....we do like the romantic dinners, etc. but rough sex is exciting. I've gotten bored with men who were overly sensitive and romantic in bed and never really ventured outside of that.

 

[aldershot]

This is very true. Its the Rocco school of intamacy.

 

[GameBoy27]

Couldn't argee with you fuji. I like taking my SO out for a great dinner once a week then fucking hard and making her cum as many times as possible. Rough is good!

 

[elassowipo1]

I think it works because its serves as a signal of dominance, which woman generally respond well to (despite what they may say).

When dealing with people I've found that the wisdom of Thucydides has served me well on many occasions:

"It is a general rule of human nature that people despise those who treat them well, and look up to those who make no concessions."

 

[larry]

the rough sex increases your "value". all the "how to get a woman" books say so. i agree.

 

[Ladyraven]

yes but can you make the ruff sex romantic ? if you can do that then you have the lady for life

 

[Ridgeman08]

VARIETY is the spice of life.

Romantic sex, horny sex, angry sex, seductive sex, make up sex, morning sex, night sex, rough sex, passionate sex, any kind of sex!

Make your lady cum, and cum often, and you will be a happier man for life.

 

[Samurai Joey]

All of these posts thus far make the fundamental assumption that all women think and act in the same way, which is far from the case. It is true that some women may respond well to rough sex, and enjoy a certain level of dominance from their husband/boyfriend/partner. There may well be some women, however, who may be completely turned off by such behaviour. It's also easy to be too overly dominant, which may be stifling, constricting, or repellent to some (if not many) women.

Perhaps the key is to really get to know your spouse or partner.

 

[Samurai Joey]

BTW fuji, does your wife know that you cheat left, right and centre? If she ever finds out, I wonder how successful your marriage will be?

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

All of these posts thus far make the fundamental assumption that all women think and act in the same way, which is far from the case. It is true that some women may respond well to rough sex, and enjoy a certain level of dominance from their husband/boyfriend/partner. There may well be some women, however, who may be completely turned off by such behaviour. It's also easy to be too overly dominant, which may be stifling, constricting, or repellent to some (if not many) women.

Perhaps the key is to really get to know your spouse or partner.

So far in this thread the one person who actually has it correct is this person. Outside of that anything expressed is a personal opinion related to the person who expressed it.

As a woman... I like a variety of activites. I enjoy being the aggressor, and I enjoy being persued. I enjoy feeling like I am with a man who is manly... But rarely ever want something rough. I might even be persueded to consider a more submissive role as a change but there is a massive difference between having someone lace their fingers through my hair and direct my head where they want it, or pulling my head back with force.

That huge difference for me is the difference between me staying in play mode or ending up with assult charges. Pure and simple.

I dislike the use of the word rough here. I think I might have been more open to the idea of firm, focused sexual attention but the idea of outright rough sex... I will pass. That is unless I am the driving force and then it would be my pleasure to take a partner there.

Madeline

 

[Worf]

Make your lady cum, and cum often, and you will be a happier man for life.

Somehow I can't agree with this one. Many of us are content in our relationships, but are we "happy"?

 

[fuji]

That huge difference for me is the difference between me staying in play mode or ending up with assult charges. Pure and simple.

Rough sex does not mean violent sex. Not to most people anyway. I've never hurt anyone during sex.

It means assertive, vigorous, I-know-what-I-want, very physical sex, as opposed to sensual/gentle/romantic sex. I certainly wouldn't advocate doing anything to anyone that might cause injury. I might pick a woman up and put her where I want her but not in any violent way, and not doing anything that would lead to injury.

I don't know many women who like being *hurt* during sex. Most women I've met like it rough, but not THAT rough.

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

Rough sex does not mean violent sex. Not to most people anyway. I've never hurt anyone during sex.

It means assertive, vigorous, I-know-what-I-want, very physical sex, as opposed to sensual/gentle/romantic sex. I certainly wouldn't advocate doing anything to anyone that might cause injury. I might pick a woman up and put her where I want her but not in any violent way, and not doing anything that would lead to injury.

I don't know many women who like being *hurt* during sex. Most women I've met like it rough, but not THAT rough.

fuji unfortunately most men do not mean it that way. I am glad you clarified your stand point on this but you need to be aware that many men think it is the forceful hair pulling... slapping a womans ass so hard their are bruises or a hand print for days, slapping their face, grabbing their breasts hard enough to leave finger prints or even a whole hand print. Not to mention banging home with no care and bruising other areas. You may be surprised that I am this blunt and I outright say many do not know the difference but that is the cold, hard truth.

As I said... there is a fine line. Firm, bold sex is more suited as a discription to what you decribed. Rough sex is more and not suited to everyone.

Again this should be trail and error and approached properly. Done wrong it can lead to a messy situation.

 

[Gyaos]

I spent some time trying to figure out why mine works, despite the fact that I cheat left right and center.

My vote for the best farkin' contradictory quote of the 21st Century. Oh wait, still 89 years to go.

Gyaos Baltar.

 

[2canchew]

BTW fuji, does your wife know that you cheat left, right and centre? If she ever finds out, I wonder how successful your marriage will be?

or how rough the sex will be...on him lol

 

[blackrock13]

VARIETY is the spice of life.

Romantic sex, horny sex, angry sex, seductive sex, make up sex, morning sex, night sex, rough sex, passionate sex, any kind of sex!

Make your lady cum, and cum often, and you will be a happier man for life.

Somebody gets it.

I just heard no scars or bruises dear, then it's go hard or go home.

 

[splooge]

put it this way, if I'm not being aggressive (not violently hurtful, of course), I'm not getting laid with my wife.

when she cheats on me, and admittedly she does; it is always with confident guys who can take charge.

ronny romance was fine for the first 3 months, or maybe for most young girls just figuring out what sex is, but, for me now, I gotta keep the romantic stuff for being on dates, out in public or on special occasions.