The SP business is as long as human history and has nothing to do with Real Love.
If you put yourself in that box, sure, fine, that's your choice. That's how you'll live your life. No one is to say otherwise.
I speak from experience where once upon a time I thought the same thing: keep your expectations and your head low. Then I thought : why?
So I approached the 9's and 10's and of course, not all of them responded. Not even half but 3 or 4 out of 10 would and guess what....? There I am with a bonafide beauty. Some were shallow and thoughtless. Some were sweet, kind and generous. Like everything else in life.
The point is: don't settle for mediocrity. Go for more than you think you can.
You'll surprise and respect yourself.