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I like to drop off my elderly Mother at the front door where ever we go. She has some problems with here mobility, that's why I do it.

The other day, I dropped her off at the front door at the store, didn't realize the walkway that was painted on the ground that leads to the front door of the store. I looked afterwards, my car was on portion of it and I was there for 10 secs as I dropped her off. There was nobody walking at the time that's why I didn't notice it.

This scruffy looking guy walks by and started to freak out that I'm blocking the walkway. I didn't say anything, I just stared at him. He walked away. I went into the store and he was walking out and I though we was done but he had to harass me and telling me that I think I'm really smart. I'm not sure what he was doing but I just looked at him and smiled. I think it was pissing him off even more that I didn't say one word. I wasn't scared of him but I don't deal with stupid people.

How do you handle your confrontations?
 

unassuming

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I think you handled it well, I would have just ignored him also.

Through my experiences with similar incidents, you can tell if someone is "off", you can't win an argument with a "whack job".
 

John Henry

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I will walk away if possible . Even if I'm 100% in the right . It just takes one stupid idiot to call the cops and you never know what can happen if they are called . I cross the US border quite a bit and I don't want any kind of record showing . You could be arrested for something stupid and after the charges are dropped . Cops don't want to be a judge . They'll just haul you in . Now try explain why you were arrested when asked at the border if you ever been arrested . Awww trouble maker are you . We don't want your kind in our country .

I also have a PAL so I try to be as clean as possible even if hurts . LOL
 

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I remember one time I pulled into a handicap parking space at a grocery store, (my elderly mother had a valid handicap parking permit), and this jerk starts yelling at me that I had, apparently, taken his parking spot. I waved the permit at him, he yells back, `Yeah I have one too!` Finally, my mother, God bless her, yelled at him `Oh, shut up!` first time I`d ever heard my mother yell at anybody like that! Loved it! He finally drove off in disgust.
 

Insidious Von

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Always keep your mother safe, I wish mine was still around.

You can deal with assholes later.
 

danmand

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walk away,. Any confrontation is a loss.
 

explorerzip

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It always amazes me how many self-righteous people there are like the guy you came across. Why does it always seem to be parking related too?
 

HEYHEY

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You guys lack basic communication skills. By smiling.or laughing you're just encouraging the idiot and making the situation worse. Simply say "I'm dropping off my mother who has mobility issues" hard to keep being a dick to.someone after that
 

luvyeah

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You guys lack basic communication skills. By smiling.or laughing you're just encouraging the idiot and making the situation worse. Simply say "I'm dropping off my mother who has mobility issues" hard to keep being a dick to.someone after that
Have you ever encountered these types of people.
Regardless of the situation they believe their problem is paramount.

You can't reason with stupid!
 

HEYHEY

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Have you ever encountered these types of people.
Regardless of the situation they believe their problem is paramount.

You can't reason with stupid!
Yea, plenty of times. There are ways to handle every person out there.

Most people avoid confrontations at all times, I used to be the guy who enjoyed them
 

shack

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When it comes to confrontations I think:

An ounce of prevention eliminates a pounding to cure for.
 

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I like to drop off my elderly Mother at the front door where ever we go. She has some problems with here mobility, that's why I do it.

The other day, I dropped her off at the front door at the store, didn't realize the walkway that was painted on the ground that leads to the front door of the store. I looked afterwards, my car was on portion of it and I was there for 10 secs as I dropped her off. There was nobody walking at the time that's why I didn't notice it.

This scruffy looking guy walks by and started to freak out that I'm blocking the walkway. I didn't say anything, I just stared at him. He walked away. I went into the store and he was walking out and I though we was done but he had to harass me and telling me that I think I'm really smart. I'm not sure what he was doing but I just looked at him and smiled. I think it was pissing him off even more that I didn't say one word. I wasn't scared of him but I don't deal with stupid people.

How do you handle your confrontations?
This is what most of us have to do with stupid comments get posted on terb. You can't blame people when they don't have the full picture, and it really comes down to whether it's worth draining your energy for the sake of that person's idiocy. Love that you take care of your mum.
 

rhuarc29

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With de-escalation. There are times when it doesn't work, and you have to push back, but normally de-escalation is effective. In most cases the end result isn't worth it just to prove you were "in the right". Just let it go. Being able to let things go will lead to a longer and happier life.

Oh, and for the record, I'm okay with dropping someone off at the entrance of a store. However, some people actually just sit there the entire time their passenger is shopping, creating not only a dangerous blindspot at a pedestrian crossing, but also a chokepoint for traffic. I don't know how someone can be that oblivious to the chaos they create, but there are plenty of people like that. I imagine the guy suspected you were one of those people. 10 seconds is acceptable. 10 minutes is not.
 

Robert Mugabe

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surprisingly large percentage of pacifists chipping in. Which is probably a good thing. Lately I seem to run into confrontations, not of my own making, which trigger my instincts to push back vocally. Which I feel is my right. Most of the time I freeze like the proverbial deer in the headlights. I am always caught completely off guard. So on the few occasions where I have got into it and "won" I feel justified. However,I don't push my dubious luck when it comes to physical confrontations. Road rage can get you maimed or killed. Lots of bigger badder madder crazy people out there.
 

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9/10 time I will choose the avoidance option. Just try to delete any triggers or trolling attempts to get you to react clear your head and focus on your mission. I.e. need to get to grocery store need to get bananas, where are the bananas located, what is the quickest option, how to pay for them such as self check out or cashier, focus on the options back such as which routes to take, what are my best options and avoid any blockage that will interfere in my mission regardless of how big or little it may be. It’s not worth giving flakes your energy.

However if your safety is being threatened or you see any harm can come to any of your belongings or family members then it’s a different story and need to always evaluate your opinions in split seconds to make the best decision.

Best solution is just pretend that they don’t exist and are like a lamp pole that you need to avoid. That will fuck with them more because they will realize how little they matter.
 

MissCroft

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I have to admit that I have a temper and low tolerance for being treated badly. I make my voice and opinion heard but sometimes I've yelled and gotten into trouble.

Never been arrested though. But I would have a hard time being silent and walking away.
 

icespot

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With loud mouth guys like the one you encounter I usually have fun. They tend to be wimps and full of shit that walk away the minute you show them who is boss.

With guys like you that take the quiet road I usually apologies, in my experience guys like that can usually really kick ass.
 
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